A quick note re orientation: I'm certainly capable of sexual attraction to men, but life is more complicated than that. NB folks welcome regardless of assignment/etc.
When I've got the spare energy, I have a ridiculous little piece of metamathematics-that-gets-called-computer-science I'm still toying with.
I'd like to settle down (non-monogamously!) with someone eventually, if the welfare system doesn't render that utterly impractical. Right now I'm in no state to - company, cuddles and anything that extends that general direction is very much the order of the day.
I've learned more about conflict than I'd like. I'd prefer the peaceful route out, and if you would too we'll get on just fine - but if you didn't spot that might read as a threat, maybe less so.
I'm better at giving a damn than this currently suggests - wasn't kidding about the "in recovery" part!
I definitely talk a little softer than my writing voice, though the words're pretty much the same? Tone really doesn't carry online, unfortunately.
If I'm having a bad day (or a bad year), that I'm hypervigilant and I'm not looking to run.
Seanan McGuire (often as Mira Grant), the Discworld series, most stuff by Iain M Banks (and I've enjoyed most of what I've read without the M), most of what I've read by Greg Egan. I'm a habitual Stross fan and won a mug off him a while back.
Mostly house and old skool hardcore, though I'll listen to most dance music - despite listing house first, I'm a sucker for a good break. I don't necessarily dislike other genres, but I've never put in the time getting to know what I like. I'm not a particularly lyrical person though, my audio and language processing's not as fast as I'd like - I tend to be all about the music itself. Pretty sure that shows in my own work.
Pizza, pasta, burgers, curry, chocolate. I'm a sucker for a good barbecue sauce. Can be talked into other stuff so long as I'm coping okay at the time though (and if not, just get me a snack beforehand?), so stretching and expanding my culinary horizons makes a good excuse for a date.
Sharing the subjective
A net connection
Something to keep my brain occupied!
The nature of power and how not to abuse it. I guess you could say I have anarchist leanings (quick, call the cops!), but mostly it's about not hurting people (esp. those I care about) and stopping companies and institutions from doing so. That, and giving people agency/not taking it from them.
Old habits die hard, so: better ways to write software, writing better software, getting better software to write itself, better languages to write better software in. Better languages to talk about the languages we want to talk about our software with - and alas, that really isn't a joke.
I'm grey-A (don't worry, this doesn't mean I'm not interested in sex, it's about why). Oh, and you know how some people snark "did you not get enough attention as a kid?"? Well, I really didn't, though there's more that one way for that to play out.
You don't mind using an IM system other than this site's one pretty quickly - otherwise I'm prone to missing things when I'm doing other stuff on the computer which kinda kills the conversation
You're a decent-sized subset of queer, kinky, geeky and poly (pagan is entirely optional) and figure there're good odds we'll have fun one way or another!