35Mesa, United States
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My self-summary

I'm a total Anime, Sci-Fi, Fantasy, Gamer geek, who also happens to be very kinky. I'm active in the Phoenix BDSM and Kink scene. I identify as a Service Switch, and am skilled in activities from light spanking to various forms of edgeplay. I'm a member of both TNG Arizona, and APEX, and make my own silicone dildos, and other adult toys. You can check them out here I make some pretty amazing innovative and creative designs. My Fetlife name is GESPENST, in case you're a fellow kinkster as well!

I'm poly and currently have 1 partner, so if that bothers you, don't waste my time.

I'm on here to find new friends, talk about kink and BDSM, and maybe find some passion and intimacy if I'm lucky.
What I’m doing with my life
Platinum Silicone molding and casting is what I currently do to make a living. My dream job would be a live in personal assistant, and houseboy for some attractive powerful Careerwoman. If you're out there send me a message ;-) A guy can dream right?

Doing research on several forms of kink and fetishism. Working on classes to teach on various kink subjects, and hoping to present them on a National level at some point.

Volunteering at Leather events with my Leather family.
I’m really good at
Spacing out on people when my mind goes off on some deep philosophical, metaphysical, sociological, ethical, or historical thought. Then asked, where I went, I don't tell them because I don't want to spend an hour explaining the long tangent my brain went off on. I'm a bit of a dreamer to say the least.

When not in outer space I'm super good at listening, and have been a well cried on shoulder. My strong apathy has been both blessing and burden throughout my life. Needless to say, my love for friends and family is fierce.

Being a complete goofball. I've been know to dole out bad puns, break into song and dance at random, quote mimic or parody pop culture, and generally be loud open and unabashed about my feelings on things. I enjoy my freedoms, because I truly value them. I enjoy people that have a sense of humor because humor creates a healthier brain chemistry, and really makes life more enjoyable in general. Right?

Trying my best to serve the people I connect with, and care about.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a ton of tattoos, and a massive septum piercing. I'm also known to sport kilts. I look intimidating, but I'm actually quite shy and kind.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'll be honest, I don't read much lately, But for fiction, I've been slowly working my way through Hideyuki Kikuchi's Vampire Hunter D series. I've been wanting to read the Song of Fire and Ice series. Non fiction Lee Harrington, Deborah Addington, Douglas Kent's Complete Shibari, and the 2 Knotty Boys books are some of my faves.

Secretary, Labryinth, The Neverending Story, The Monty Python Films, V for Vendetta, Clerks, The Goonies, Indiana Jones, Star Wars, The Broken Lizard Films, Animal House, Austin Powers movies, Boondock Saints Movies, most anything with Bruce Campbell in it, Stanley Kubrick films, The Crow, The Dark Crystal, Tim Burton films, Death Race 2000, Interview With The Vampire, David Lynch films, Tarantino films, The Lord of the Rings, etc...etc...etc...

Game of Thrones, The Big Bang Theory, Farscape, Invader Zim, Futurama, Family Guy, Robot Chicken, Red Dwarf, Vikings, True Blood, The Venture Bros, and a ton of Anime. If its Nerdy Fantasy, or animated, I'm probably into it, and I can't stand so called reality tv.

Metal, industral, punk rock, Celtic, and J rock. I'm not a huge audiophile like most people I know.

I will eat almost anything, although I'm allergic to onions, so none of them.
Six things I could never do without
1. Women.
You are my muses. Confuse and amaze me. Excite all my senses. Teach me. Inspire me. Own my soul. Your love is my only faith in this life.

2. Oxytocin
It is my drug of choice, and I can get it from a good hug alone.
In other words hugs, kisses, holding hands, and various other forms of personal contact are awesome and appreciated. With consent of course :-)

3. Beer.
It's a big part of my heritage, and these days drank for flavor, and a good meal pairing than for recreation.

4. Scotch.
For reasons similar to beer.

5. Chocolate.
I don't need to explain this one do I?

6. Women
Yes I adore them enough to list them twice!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Dildo designs. Getting my business off the ground. How to come off as not a complete and total perv, when I totally am.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hoping someone would come over and play.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I really don't keep much private, so you can ask anything and I'll give you an honest answer.
You should message me if
You're looking for a sincere, caring person you may want to add to your life, and frankly, I'm terribly awkward at starting online conversations myself.
The two of us