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My self-summary
i got my astrological chart done a few years ago and the astrologer told me that i had the same chart that many monks have. what that meant, he continued, is that i don't need to be around people just to be around people and i'm totally content being on my own.

and that's pretty much true.

that being said -- i think i'm at the point in my life where i'm really ready to find someone that'd be good for me and that I could be good for.

a perfect third date for me is a night in with the intention of watching a movie on the couch but instead we end up just talking and watching random ridiculous stuff on youtube and the hours just kind of melt.
What I’m doing with my life
letting people know what's happening with us queers
I’m really good at
knowing which of these questions to not fill out.
The first things people usually notice about me
probably the tattoos.

my parents were dead set against them and then i turned 32 and thought it's probably time to stop worrying about it.

i'm on a mission now.

don't read too much into them. or do. some of them mean something (the ghost, the bees, the keys). some of them don't (the tooth with a smiley face)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

angels in america. grimm's fairy tales. the house of mirth. salinger's nine stories. shirley jackson's stuff. susan minot. american psycho. story of o. handmaids tale. middlesex. poets: anne sexton. sharon olds. adrienne rich. marie howe. margaret atwood. dean young. daphne gottlieb.


kate bush. robyn. bat for lashes. phoenix. cocteau twins. bjork. aimee mann. the smiths. the cure. lisa germano. peaches. kylie minogue. the magnetic fields. xiu xiu. sky ferreira. marina & the diamonds. class actress. depeche mode. nicki minaj. niki and the dove. patty griffin. yeah yeah yeahs. rihanna. haim.


muriels wedding. dancer in the dark. the peanut butter solution. legend of billie jean. clock watchers. drop dead gorgeous. party girl. clueless. clue. romey & michelles highschool reunion. teen witch. never let me go. fantastic mr. fox. don't tell mom the babysitter's dead.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
why guys on here write that they "love to laugh" and want to be "surprised."

don't most people like to laugh? and a "surprise" is the last thing i want when i'm meeting a stranger off the internet.

that being said, if, surprisingly, you can make me laugh, you're golden.
On a typical Friday night I am
i'm really over the bar scene.

i like adventures but i also really like a night in.

i always think the guy i want to meet isn't at the bars on the weekend, he's playing scrabble with friends in someone's living room.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
when i was four i snuck outside in my underwear and did a (what i thought was) seductive dance for the garbage man i had a ginormous crush on.

(a total romantic from the very start...)

also: dark water and outer space terrify me.
You should message me if
(i know it doesn't work this way in real life but i guess if i could build my own boyfriend...)

you're goofy. maybe a bit nerdy. but also hot shit (and -- to be specific -- you're such hot shit that you don't feel the need to tell people you're hot shit) and smart and funny and clever (but not so smart and funny and clever that it's exhausting or coma-inducing).

you're active but you're not obsessed with the gym and you'll still eat a burger or half a box of cookies now and again and you're happy pulling on a t-shirt in the morning and heading out the door without spending twenty-five minutes in front of the mirror before you head out said door.

you're fairly happy with your life but always looking for ways to make it even happier. you think of others and put them before yourself more often than not but you're also not afraid of a little snarkiness (in fact, you embrace it) and think that most people are miserable to put up with a lot of the time.

finally -- if you look like the garbage man i had a crush on when i was a kid -- i will propose immediately.
The two of us