34 San Mateo, United States
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My self-summary
Back in 1st grade, when something funny happened and after everyone else settled down, I would still be laughing. The teacher would say "Laughter without cause is the sign of a fool" (loose translation of a Russian idiom) - but that didn't help. I'm still kind of like that.

I've never met a compliment I didn't deflect and I don't take myself too seriously. Friends describe me as self-deprecating, goofy, and incurably honest, and tell me that my personality is a nice mix of masculine and feminine traits. Hey, if it wasn't, I wouldn't be admitting it here, right?
What I’m doing with my life
Software user experience researcher still learning the mysterious tech culture and all the acronyms.

In my previous life (just a few years ago, not before reincarnation), I was a psychologist studying romantic relationships, attraction, and emotion, all with an evolutionary twist. It was a weird and interesting combination.

Currently learning to code in R and re-learning the embarrassingly little French I knew from years of HS.

I like to hike, run and play ultimate frisbee (when not beset by shin splints), seek out new music, karaoke, and watch NFL and NBA games (big Chicago fan). I'm also pretty good at ping pong and chess and consider them sports as a result.

I'm not a thrill seeker (rock climbing and scuba diving aren't really for me) but I go for a wide variety of activities and adventures when they involve someone I like a lot.
I’m really good at
Being responsive and getting back to people. If you asked me 3 questions in an email, I won't just randomly ignore 2 of them.

Knowing how to spell complicated names, remembering your birthday or other important dates, etc.

Compiling ridiculous quotes from my friends.

Using the "immigrant excuse" selectively, whenever it's convenient to cover up a lack of pop culture knowledge.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm the guy opening windows in the car or bus. Sometimes I feel like the only person in the world who appreciates fresh air (in vehicles).

Students who I taught claimed that I made air quote gestures all the time. As a result, they took nothing I said literally.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like songs that fade out and movies and books that work on many levels and make us think long after they’re over. If you're into talking about a movie after it ends, we have something in common.

Big part of my life. Favorite songs range from

While I have a pretty eclectic taste, a lot of my favs fall into indie rock, classic rock, or art rock. 90% of the music I love somehow turned out to be British. You might call me an "open-minded snob": I have strong feelings about music, but I'll also try out almost anything you recommend. Music says a lot about your personality, and I can learn more about you by listening to something you love.

A few of my favorites:

sad: elliott smith, depeche mode
happy: stevie wonder
pensive: pink floyd, radiohead, talk talk
spiritual: george harrison
romantic: magnetic fields
old-timey: decemberists, beirut
boisterous: new pornographers
rainy: wilco
angry/aggressive: metallica
nightmarish: king crimson
flamboyant/dramatic: queen, muse
whiny: oasis

I spend a lot of time thinking about
There's more to most things than meets the eye, and people who project false confidence in their knowledge are a pet peeve. If I can't honestly say I fully understand something, I'll keep asking questions and doing research until I really get it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends for dinner, a movie, and some involved conversation. Most of the time, I'm glad to let others choose the activities and happily go along with them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tend to put on a sort of happy/silly face in public. I have a significant self-reflective/melancholy/romantic streak but usually only share it once I am closer with someone.

Also, I will obsessively rate music albums on a 1-10 scale. If you think that's bad, I know someone who rates them in Base 16.
You should message me if are warm, sincere, smart and can crack a good inappropriate joke. And humble - I can't stand people who brag. know there's a setting in between "heat" and "A/C" in cars called "fan". Apparently, not knowing this is a real thing. Oh, Americans.