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My self-summary
I was an activist, philosopher, and dilettante for about half my life. Then I had kids and none of that felt worth the risk and the time. I don't really know what I'm into these days.
What I’m doing with my life
I've been married for about 10 years - marriage as an institution means nothing to me, but our relationship and family are extremely important to me. My partner's on here too - Creideamh.

We were de facto monogamous for several years, when our lives were too hectic and stressful to really be part of a community. Now that we don't have children under 5 and are finding a more supportive community, we're starting to open up our relationship again.

Is this TMI? Maybe. My point is that I don't want to present myself as someone in an open relationship who's really ready to start a new relationship. I'm open to dating, but I'm more interested in meeting friends to hang out with first....
I’m really good at
I think I'm pretty good at mediating disagreements. I can be a great parent when I get enough sleep and stimulation.

I have what I think are great ideas that mostly I never do anything with - Startup Ideas As A Service.

I can design stuff a bit, and code a lot better, and mostly I just listen to what people tell me and clarify what they want for them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm kinda tall. I have a big-ass beard. People who get to know me describe me as ”calm” or ”patient”. Other people probably just see me as quiet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: a lot of cyberpunk (Neal Stephenson, William Gibson, Cory Doctorow). I like absurdist fiction, especially from African writers (Ngugi WA Thiong'o and Chinua Achebe are a couple of my favorites). I also read a fair amount of non-fiction, mostly popular science type stuff.

Music: I've probably listened to about everything at one time or another. Lately I've settled into a lot of reggae and a lot of folk-punk. I could probably listen to nothing but Blackbird Raum and be satisfied most days.
Six things I could never do without
Quality hot sauce
Command line prompt
Light to read or write by
My partner and children
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to have an impact on the world. Seriously. Most of my life I devoted to activism and punk counter culture stuff. Now that I'm not in those scenes anymore, I feel like I've really lost my direction. I mean, I still know what I believe, but without the debate and critique you get in a healthy activist community, parts of my mind are going soft. And without being part of a praxis, ideas are pretty meaningless.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably doing dishes and playing with Legos or blocks, or stuffed animals.
The two of us