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My self-summary
There's a dichotomous element of my personality that I find hard to match. It has something to do with a quality of irreverence/rock-and-roll/childlike-wonder/hedonism paired with a quality of having-shit-together. Very playful and very serious, by turns. I'd like to encounter more people who possess similar degrees of these opposing inclinations.

I don't have a favorite animal, but I sure do like sea otters' ability to build giant rafts of themselves and their loved ones tied together with seaweed. And I like telling stories. My three favorite first-person stories involve a copperhead, a supernatural thing, and a magical evening when I once put out a cigarette in a woman's designer purse that I thought was an art deco ashtray.

Other things I love. Roads -- country roads and city roads -- woods, mountains, bodies of water and my home. I've loved every home in which I've ever lived, even those that were not in nice places or easy times.
What I’m doing with my life
Cooking late dinners, listening to buses and birds.

And my son just started college in Tennessee, so I'm now doing ALL KINDS of things. Developing my career, taking fun classes (like acting), planning trips, applying for fellowships, volunteering, building my community, and writing a lot. Trying to see him as much as possible, of course, without breaking the bank.
I’m really good at
Talking, listening, understanding. Shaking my tail in various genres (currently I enjoy salsa dancing). Getting into humorously strange situations . . . learning and not learning from my mistakes. Making fried okra. Sensuality in general.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Very eclectic. I'm talking fresh brie and cheap beer, bluegrass and rap. . . the gamut.

I have an MFA in poetry, so most of my favorite reads are sadly known only to others who have an MFA in poetry. My favorite poem is "Sensationalism" by Larry Levis. Other favorite reads include Speak, Memory (autobiography of Vladmir Nabokov), The Autobiography of Red (novel in verse by Anne Carson) and Sylvester and the Magic Pebble by William Steig.
Six things I could never do without
Very important things include a bedroom window and comfortable shoes. And here's an interesting observation I've just made: the two spices I go through fastest are nutmeg and Old Bay. That's probably unusual; I reckon for most people it's oregano, curry or cumin -- maybe cinnamon for the big french toast eaters out there. But I go through nutmeg like nobody's business!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a lot of dance and exercise videos, and I do them regularly in my living room. One has a line that goes, and I quote, "Hey, your scarves could be made out of crystals! They could be made out of water! Your scarves can be made out of grass, because imagination tells you what the scarves can be." Needless to say, my teenage son, overhearing, gets a big kick out of this one. He's been known to interrupt my sessions with all kinds of crazy shenanigans, but that's okay, because laughing while exercising is seriously good for you!

[And seriously, I believe that folks who say they hate exercise simply haven't found the right kind(s)].

Also, my favorite "Personality Trait" ("based on answers to match questions as compared to the OkCupid population"), is "Less Suave." Oh, I am SO that! Whatever it means, it's the only one that strikes me as 100%. And I found it so delightful, when I discovered it, that I actually must have bragged about it, because a couple of friends occasionally reference it during our carrying on. Anyway, the funny thing is that I've never seen another "Suave" -- whether more or less -- on anyone else's profile!! Which begs the question, dear Robot, what did I say?
You should message me if
You are my heart's champion. Or, you think we can have a good time, enjoy each other's company or introduce each other to new things. Fun is fun, but I'm ultimately monogamous.
The two of us