60 Bellevue, United States
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My self-summary
I’m a juicy contradiction (ironically I don’t like Starburst candy). Passing as a respected professional at work, I am a bohemian individualist just below the surface (and sometimes above) with eclectic opinions and interests. I believe in honesty to oneself, personal responsibility, kindness to all, being polite to those with less power, trying to make the world a more fair place, doing what's right because it is right even if it doesn't work out for your best interests, taking care of my body, having fun and finding satisfaction (not just a paycheck) in your job, not necessarily in that order. I prefer walking a mile to the library rather than driving two to the mall. I enjoy reading a book more than watching TV. I never understood why Darrin Stevens wouldn't let Samantha use her powers to advance his career. I liked Jimmy Carter when he was president and still do. I almost never watch sports on TV but have watched the Super Bowl in the past few years and appreciated the drama and athleticism of the game while finding the commercials simultaneously entertaining and appalling. If I led my best life I would stretch every morning and read the NY Times most of them, make time to both exercise and write fiction for an hour each day, send a letter to a friend or family member once a week and continue to work on my French while taking on a new language every few years. I try to continue to grow as a person and find deeper meaning in life.
What I’m doing with my life
I just returned from a month in Africa doing some NGO medical work (if you are interested, I’ll send you a link to a blog about it). About a year ago I rearranged my professional life to let me take off the weeks that my teenagers (14 and 16) live with me plus take the occasional month doing overseas work. The change has been pretty satisfying, both in terms of the result but also just in the fact that I had the nerve to do it.
I’m really good at
...many things including empathy, my job, finding the silver lining, being a dad, critical thinking, love, dealing with emergencies, math, travel… the list goes on
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm better looking in person than in my photos
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: all time favorites include Walter Mosley’s Easy Rawlins series, “Sometimes a Great Notion” by Ken Kesey and anything by Raymond Chandler. Recently enjoyed “Seven Types of Ambiguity”, “In the Footsteps of Mr. Kurtz” and the first two thirds of “Atlas Shrugged” (which would make a great graphic novel).

Movies: I’ll go to the studio blockblusters with my kids but prefer recent movies like “Memento”, “The Machinist” (with a very skinny Christian Bale), “Three Kings” plus oldies but goodies like “Chinatown”, “Casablanca” and Hitchcock’s “Notorious”. Little known movies I’ve enjoyed include “Planet B-Boy”, “Red Belt”, “Duplicity” (a great combo relationship/caper movie) and “Dark of the Sun” (a guilty pleasure). My favorite recent romantic comedy was “My Best Friend’s Wedding” because of the ending.

Music: wide spectrum from the Motown and rock and roll of my youth to current music including hip-hop and rap (wasn't Dylan an early rapper after all?).

Theater: I enjoy live theater but don’t go as often as I would like. I saw my favorite all-time musical in 1991- “City of Angels”

TV: In my youth, I watched too much TV so I try not to turn it on now. Having said that, I’ll admit that I like “Law and Order” (mainly the original older ones, not so much the derivatives or more recent seasons). I’ll make an exception with the kids and watch their stuff, from “Downton Abbey” to “Regular Show” to “Archer” and back to "Sherlock"

Food: Everything ethnic though I'm down to 3 out of 5 stars spicy from my youth
The six things I could never do without
Not to come across as overly serious or self-righteous (I love my coffee, food, exercise, etc. as much as anyone) but I think that one of the problems with modern society is that we confuse our needs with our wants. The true list includes air, water, food, shelter, sleep and some type of human contact. The first five things that I don’t want to do without include my family, my physical and intellectual health, the mountain and Sound, my independence of thought and freedom of action…I’ll save number six for a long-term relationship.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
…many things but there are two that I will mention here. I think about this platform of on-line dating which brings me into contact with interesting women that I otherwise would never meet, but presents us with an awkward, non-organic encounter that may skew my judgment about compatibility. And I think about how to truly open myself up for a loving relationship given my current schedule of work and parenting.
On a typical Friday night I am
Currently my Fridays alternate every other week between the single dad thing and a free night
The most private thing I’m willing to admit that my teenage son tells me that I’m a manchild. Oh, and I answered all those sex questions…
You should message me if
• you are interested.
• you are willing to meet face to face early on rather than carry on an extended email conversation.
• I’ve visited your profile and you’re interested. I try not to have too many conversations going at once so if I come across someone I find interesting, I may not email immediately.