37Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
cherchez la femme. An arbiter of style and a native of Brooklyn: dwelling on the better coast. i refer to intense inspirational shares as ~streams of consciousness~. i love words (conspicuous, reckon, trousers, innocuous and queue, to name a few) and nuances.

i consider myself a perpetual student and like being around people i can learn from. i tend to have a more serious disposition, interspersed with silliness. I make people laugh - most often when I'm not actually trying. I fancy myself an admirer of whimsy -- if not myself, whimsical. I guess I aspire to that.

I am pretty outgoing and social though need my down time like anyone else. I love massage, PDAs, and other tokens of affection. In some respects I'm old-fashioned; I like sending (and receiving) snail mail and love an occasion that calls for a hat. Seeking someone that can own his baggage and be a potential partner down the road.
i.e. you've done some personal work/dev.

some things i love: amsterdam, tulips, art deco, French cinema, shades of purple, poutine, the burner ethos, british slang, edamame, glitter, unadulterated laughter, colors, facepaint, cuddles, the sky & smell in the air just before a thunderstorm, personality tests (i'm an ENFJ - Myers Brigg and either a 4 or 1 on Enneagram), jasmine, languages, fizzy water, rose-everything, photography, any book in the taschen series, singing, yoga, rioja wine, dinner parties, & vintage clothes.

some things that i do not like: loud people, dust bunnies, following the crowd, litter, tobacco, reality tv, and poor spelling. And loud music.

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anaïs Nin
What I’m doing with my life
thinking a lot. so much beauty and opportunity - when we choose to see the glass as half full. I'm not Pollyanna but strive for optimism and seek out positive people. Also, I believe interesting people have a bit of an edge.

I'm learning to be present, working on my patience, practicing compassion and dabbling with self expression. Continually amazed with deepening friendships and embarking on crafts of some sort.
I’m really good at
putting others at ease, connecting across social circles, reflecting. putting together a fantastic look, taking photos (and following up). context. trivia. making faces. articulating and enunciating. photoshop, organizing, & being punny. karaoke
The first things people usually notice about me
sometimes my outfit, others my expression
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
reads: design books, david sedaris, camilla lackbërg
flix: amelie, rainman, secretary, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Mary Poppins, chaos, shawshank redemption, dances with wolves.
tubage: dexter, weeds, arrested dev, pushing daisies, curb your enthusiasm, bored to death
tunage: thievery corporation, imogen heap, adele, mariam and amadou, pink martini, idan raichel, morcheeba, astrid gilberto, gotan project, chach chach music, supperclub lounge compilations, alabina
foodie leanings:, burmese, thai and french fusion, moroccan, indian, gourmet grilled cheese, anything someone else cooks for me with intention.
Six things I could never do without
Things that when absent make for a less-enjoyable life:
sunshine, touch, music, companionship, colors! independence.
A camera or two.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I like the notion of karma but really, why do good people get screwed?

free will vs. destiny.

Why are we here?
On a typical Friday night I am
if i am feeling jewy - having shabbat dinner. drinking some wine. cooking with friends. Having an early night, or not!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am pretty direct/observant, not all that secret. I know and value tact!
You should message me if
* you are emotionally available.
* you are kind.
* you are tactile.
* you know the value of good dental hygiene.
* you are articulate and appreciate good communication.
* you have a good balance of sobriety and celebration with spirits.
* you want a partnership type of relationship (after a healthy period of getting to know each other).
The two of us