40 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm an old soul and a kid-at-heart. These days, I'm drawn more to authentic connection, aliveness, and beauty in all its forms. I converse easily amongst academic types but have opened up my range a lot.

In relationships, I like to be warm and goofy, as if we were slightly drunk as a default state. Note the 'as if'
What I’m doing with my life
- part-time bioenergy r&d / growing my software consulting business
- playing music at gospel church, funk/rnb jams, occasional touring
- salsa dancing
- random urban adventures

My goal is to have the flexibility to live overseas for 3 months a year, and I'm almost there!

I'm getting into mindfulness as well, but giving up steak is not going to happen
I’m really good at
reharmonization, lying around in the sun like a dog, touch
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Songs that saved my life: Radiohead, Joni Mitchell, James Cleveland, Brad Mehldau, The Smiths, Schubert lieder, Beck, Stevie Wonder, Jeff Buckley

Louis Ck, Raymond Carver, TS Eliot, Chekhov, Anthony Bourdain, NPR, Marc Maron WTF, Annie Hall, and yes, Anchorman. Or maybe Step Brothers, tough choice!
The six things I could never do without
food, high-brow and low-brow
ballads (jazz, pop, boleros)
vitamix + tabata trials
off-the-path international travel (e.g., Syria and Belarus)
interiors that set a mood

Not kidding about the food part, my sis and I just waited 3.5 hrs in cold rain for the best brisket in the world
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My dna is probably 10% Pooh bear, but I can get a little dark
On a typical Friday night I am
salsa dancing or gigging
You should message me if
You are sweet, creative yet down-to-earth, and march to your own drummer