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My self-summary
Big nerd. Master of all trades, jack of none. I'm a PhD student in Statistics. It's not just a job: it's a big part of my life and I love what I do.

I like to dance and will happily engage in any kind of improvised art, e.g. music, theatre, and dance (especially when combined).

I am trans-national ("third culture kid"). Having spent a quarter of my life in Europe, I've found that at an individual level I often relate best to Europeans. And yet no single place in Europe made me feel at home as much as the international communities I've found in the US and Canada.

My people are intellectuals: people who care about ideas, about actually understanding things, and who enjoy speculating why our minds/languages/bodies/computers/societies work the way they do. My people are independent and stubborn, they don't care what others may think.

After two years in Vancouver, I moved to NYC to start a PhD at Columbia. In Vancouver I had found a beautiful community where everyone you meet is an artist or yoga instructor. I was very happy to call them my neighbors. Hippies are not exactly MyPeople, but I generally like them. I was hosting awesome parties once a month (probably the nerdiest parties you've ever seen).
I’m really good at
* math
* massage
* explaining abstract ideas though colorful metaphors
* starting conversations in transit: I've met several neat people on Vancouver buses and the NY subway
* melodic improvisation
* aim: throwing things in trash cans from faraway, from a moving bike.
The first things people usually notice about me
* that I'm busy with my thoughts
* that I'm looking around, exploring my environment
* that I'm hyper-social (though my natural tendency is to look for the most interesting person around and stick to them; hopefully 2nd bests won't mind too much)
* that I'm singing
* that I'm on a bike (if they know me, they will notice it more when I'm NOT biking)

I am an introvert. But having no shyness or shame, many people perceive me as an extrovert. I occasionally feel the need to shut out the world, and take a walk outside (mostly only a problem with groups of 5 or more people). Some days I am aggressively goofy.

Mostly, I seem to have no social mask, and my face is very easy to read. I have little patience for indirectness. See the Scientific American article on why creativity is associated with weirdness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read mostly non-fiction. Here are some favorites:

* Larry Gonick - "The cartoon history of the world"; and his "Cartoon Guide to Genetics"
* Douglas Hofstadter - "Gödel, Escher, Bach"; and "I am a strange loop"
* Steven Pinker - "How the Mind Works"

Movies: Being John Malkovich; Persepolis; Big Lebowski

Music: jazz, classical, folk, mariachi, psytrance, mashups

Webcomics: xkcd, Wasted Talent, Dresden Codak, The Oatmeal
Six things I could never do without
bicycle, Wikipedia, programming
I spend a lot of time thinking about
why humans are so weird. (what, ME, no!!! I'm normal! coughcough)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In the Myers-Briggs classification, I am an INTP personality. I do justice to all stereotypes about absent-minded geniuses.

I got a 35 in the "Autism Quotient" test (take it). Pretty much all my friends who've tested score above average.
You should message me if
* if you want to join me on urban bike rides
* normal people are boring
* your Myers-Briggs type is *NT* ...or if you're an *NF* and promise not to smother me. :-)
* you like Tim Minchin
* you took the AQ test. I'm curious about your score.

I am looking for friends first. If we can't be friends, we won't have a good relationship. I also believe in "friends afterwards", which is a great reason to respect the previous principle.

When I message you and even when we meet, do not assume that I am interested in anything more than casual company or friendship.

If you think we'd get along as friends but nothing more, by all means say hello.
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