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My self-summary
I am a recently widowed, youngish 65 year old, semi-retired dentist. My late wife, an English teacher, was my high school sweetheart, my intellectual superior, and the only marriage or female relationship I've ever had, so I'm loyal, faithful, and true. I'm also sincere, honest, direct, educated, decently read and intelligent, physically active, never smoked, non-druggie, slender build, financially stable and secure.
While I view myself as basic, enjoying many simple things in life, there's a chance I could possess a small touch of class, and do know how to treat a lady as a lady. I'm definitely not shy, and enjoy conversation, but, in a group, will not dominate or be overbearing. I try hard to be a "nice guy" and treat people the way I would like to be treated.
I have two 30ish, intelligent, accomplished, single, college degreed, healthy twin daughters who are long gone from the nest and self sufficient. One has her PhD and teaches Russian at the U of Calif-Berkeley--the other is a devoted Buddhist living at a retreat center in So. New Mexico. There are no grandchildren and no pets. I could foresee retiring in the near to intermediate future and relocating to my northern Minnesota lake property or Florida--or, maybe both. I like to have fun and am open to most things and activities. I feel I would like a female companion again in my life, if a good match can be made for both individuals.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm semi-retired and self employed. I work as I want, and
regularly go 'up north' to my cabin to fish for walleyes,
cross country ski, or just enjoy the peace and solitude. With my wife's passing, I'm in a major transition phase, attempting to discern who I am without her, where I want to go, & what I want to do with whatever remains of the good health and this life with which I'm blessed. Still feeling somewhat non-directional and confused. Sorry to be so forthright and direct--but what is, is. My personality has always been one of putting my cards on the table--face up.
I’m really good at
1. Intelligent, thoughtful, & tactful conversation, without dominating the group. I'm a very decent, social guy.
2. Being direct, straight forward, pulling no punches.
However, that approach to life has its downsides, and can regularly get one into trouble. This is not always the smartest way to live--but who said I was the smartest guy around ?
3. Dentistry
The first things people usually notice about me
Hard to know, isn't it ? Maybe--he seems friendly, says 'hello', enjoys conversation, and seems like a halfway decent guy. But, in a crowd, not so sure many, or any, would really 'notice' me in the first place, and that's just fine by me.
There is little that would stand out of the ordinary (average to slim size, average height, etc.) Probably prefer not to be much noticed --it has its pluses.
Six things I could never do without
My friends and family (I'm a people person)
Minnesota lakes
Bodies of water
My boat
Online access to stock trading
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The meaning & purpose of life and love.
Will I ever find another well matched female companion.
Beautiful summer days at the cabin, by the lake
Should I continue to practice dentistry, or retire.
These days, how should I design my new lake home that I'm anxious to begin building.
What did the market do today, and which stocks should I possibly trade tomorrow.
On a typical Friday night I am
These days, at home, or 'up north' at the cabin.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Forget about this silly 'most private thing' stuff. I'd prefer to add: Love Minnesota lakes, and any body of water. Fishing for walleyes is darn fun, but it's much more important to enjoy the inner peace of being on the water. Appreciate the unchanging, stable beauty of it all--the sun coming over the horizon at 5:30 AM while in my boat, fishing in my favorite spot, while no other boat is on the lake. A religious experience. Not 'into' jet skis or snowmobiles--too bad they were invented. I have very little baggage, and much freedom at this time in my life. I can hold my own and decently, intelligently, and tactfully interact with any and all socioeconomic groups. There's very little, to no, ego about me. I've never forgotten where I came from--therefore, have never been impressed with myself, and, at this point in my life, I'm not terribly interested in trying to impress someone else. Decency and friendship are much more important than trying to impress, and not so sure I possess that much with which to impress. Me is me. ('He was a humble man, who had much to be humble about.')
What could I possibly offer the right lady ? Possibly honesty, sincerity, financial stability, thoughtful intelligence, physical activity, an interesting social network, an 'up north' lake home, a guy who can enjoy 'fun' with fidelity, and a small touch of class. Can't offer loud & fast machines & toys, that somehow mean 'macho',' or a large male ego. If anything of this resonates, great ! If not, I certainly understand. Good things to you!
You should message me if
You are an intelligent, hopefully college educated, attractive, slender, personable, financially stable, non-smoking (smoking absolutely a deal breaker), reasonably healthy, sincere and honest woman. It would be nice to find a woman who doesn't need me financially, and, who knows, maybe doesn't really 'need me' at all. How 'bout, instead, we just want to be together, treat each other completely as equals, and simply enjoy each other's company ? That seems kinda good to me. Is there really a ton more to life ? Isn't 'being together' more important than any specific activity ? Thanks for reading and please respond if anything strikes your fancy. This forum is fun, and even a little addictive. If you respond, I'll be direct and straight forward. Maybe a friendship breaks out, or something more. Be well.
The two of us