52San Jose, United States
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My self-summary
I'm married in a polyamorous (open) relationship with ShannahQuilts. I'm a geek (and proud of it), and a Discordian. I used to teach a massage class with the Ascension Tribe at Burning Man, which I've attended since 2005. I enjoy role playing games, making things, and reading (primarily SF).

I love the outdoors, even if I don't get that many chances to see it. I try to get out to Yosemite (and other National Parks), as well as the Monterey Bay Aquarium as often as I can, and hope to get back into geocaching one of these days.

Demographically speaking, I graduated from Caltech in '87, and I have 2 energetic, fun, precocious children. I'm originally from Southern California, live in San Jose, and my soul's in Black Rock City.

I am logical, generous, and sensual
What I’m doing with my life
I'm Principal Architect, IP Geek, and all around Guru for Synaptics, which makes most of the world's laptop touchpads and smartphone touchscreens. Been doing that for the past 20 years, well with a few years in there managing the software group... not really my bag. What does a Software Architect do? Mostly sit around in code reviews snickering at other people's code (and bearing it cheerfully when others laugh at mine, of course :-).
I’m really good at
Software development, (tabletop) role playing gaming, giving massages, and general BS'ing. Oh, and hopefully not taking myself too seriously.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm guessing probably my long hair, but I tend to be a bit clueless about what other people notice.

My wife says: "What people notice about you is your pretty red beard, gorgeous green eyes, and long sexy eyelashes. Not to mention your luscious butt. Just sayin'"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Sharon Lee and Steve Miller's Liaden novels, Bujold's Vorkosigan series, David Weber's Honor Harrington series, Lord of the Rings, Dune, Horatio Hornblower, the first several books of The Wheel of Time (Robert Jordan), Jacqueline Carey's Kushiel series, and generally most things by Neil Gaiman, Orson Scott Card, David Brin, Vernor Vinge, Neal Stephenson, Gene Wolfe, and Roger Zelazny... well, and lots of others.

My musical taste is pretty eclectic, but primarily 80s-present alternative rock. E.g. Stan Ridgway (and of course Wall of Voodoo), Barenaked Ladies, Cake, Camper Van Beethoven, Semisonic, some Metallica, The Postal Service, etc., but then I really like Tangerine Dream, Mannheim Steamroller, Pink Floyd, Yello, Bach (and Beck :-), The Police, Danielle Dax, Leonard Cohen, oh, I give up.

I love watching movies, though I don't get many chances to go these days. Probably my favorite is The Princess Bride, but the usual action and SF suspects (Bladerunner, Alien(s), etc.) are enjoyable (the David Lynch Dune movie was... colorful... but the SciFi channel's mini-series was really very good), loved The Incredibles, etc. Loved a quirky little comedy called "The Whole Nine Yards". In the realm of "classics", who can't love Casablanca, but Arsenic and Old Lace was fun, as were the Thin Man films. Bizarrely, I've never gotten around to seeing The Godfather or ET for that matter (yes, I know, I'm a heretic).

Only thing I'm into of a theatrical bent lately is Cirque du Soleil.

I'm definitely a "foodie". I enjoy most cuisines that don't involve lots of little dried fish, but my faves are Thai, Indian, Chinese, sushi, Mexican, Middle Eastern, Greek, and Ethiopean, when I'm not just in the mood for a burger or the like, that is.

There are only 2 food groups: foods improved by adding chocolate, and foods improved by adding garlic. Very few are neither or both.
Six things I could never do without
I tend to be pretty flexible, but:

1) My wife.
2) My kids.
3) Books.
4) Chaos.
5) Order.
6) A really nice mutton, lettuce, and tomato sandwich (bonus points).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything I come across. I have a somewhat obsessive need to understand everything about the world around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Eating ceremonial hot dogs (boy, that's an obscure allusion).

More seriously, hanging out with the family, traveling, or zoning out with a book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My guilty pleasures include Piers Anthony books, and a surprising number of Madonna songs :-).
The two of us