My ideal person:
-feminist. preferably identifies as some sorta queer. not a prerequisite but this is a huge part of my identity that's incredibly important to me. you need to understand and respect it, not just tolerate it. (also, please don't message me saying how hot it is that i'm bi. i'm not bi.)
-isn't a huge drinker or drug user. No judgment, it's just not my thing.
-knows what cisgender means.