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My self-summary

Thanks for checking me out! I work very hard to become who I am, know what I want from friends, lovers and myself and I'm not afraid to push for it anymore. I'm here to find my loving other(s). I'm looking forward to feeling excited about someone again.

I've turned down more dates through okc recently than I've gone on. I don't like disposable dating (you know, ten in the wings, etc.) and, though I've been poly, I need to know you can drop it for me on request, so monogamy first. I'm totally cool and cozy being single, so please bring me something more than just desire. I want all the feelings, too.

I love my life! I have or am in the process of getting every single thing I want out of it, and now I'm just looking for the right one to let in and share it with.

A sometimes scruffy, disillusioned writer, queer, trans, a bon vivant, reporter and artist. Man about town. Peace and equality agitator. Golden rule devotee. Intellectual. I write, and write about literature, poetry, dance, art, the DIY/maker scene, and on sociocultural and topical issues of the day. I moonlight as a dance dramaturg for hire.

Update: now in Oak Park. I'm usually a city kid, but I got an offer to live out here and renovate the house I'm staying at in lieu of rent. So now all of my income outside of meals and entertainment goes into savings, doing construction one day a week, and finishing revisions on 3 books I want to start sending around to publishers. I'll probably be here roughly 18 months.

And, I live 4 blocks from both a blue and green line stop, so I'm very city accessible, it just takes a tad longer to get around.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a reporter, writer, critic, essayist and art and cultural analyst. Poet, graphic novelist, colorist.
I’m really good at
Writing words. Also, writing about art, understanding art, the art market, everything art-related. Also, fiction, poetry, socializing. I interviewed Kurt Vonnegut once, and think I did a fine job of it. I am a decent photographer, and enjoy drawing.
The first things people usually notice about me
For sure, I look much younger than I actually am. I hear it all the time. After that, it used to be my eyes. I have curly black hair. Women used to remark that they would kill to have my hair, and complain when I cut it too short (BTW, thanks you liars, you all hate long hair on men).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
If you've ever read Paul Fussell's book Class, I'd like to discuss it with you. That or Gravity's Rainbow.
Six things I could never do without
Intellectual work
My computer
Love (I know, that's seven, but it ties it all together)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Art. Culture. Everything: see my ridiculously sprawling "Favorite books, movies, music and food" list above for an idea. Otherwise, whether I want to move or stay in Chicago. How to prioritize. Narrative structures. Pedagogy. Aberration in starlight. Sex. How people who mention the proper use of the Oxford comma in their profiles are turn offs for being such joiner losers.

How society shoehorns people into productivity, but doesn't usually extend the definition to include intellectual or creative work. How to push back against that utilitarian bigotry in our culture.
On a typical Friday night I am
Programming my robot, tinkering with the PSI to increase strength enough so it can rip off the vault door and carry all those gold bars to our getaway starship; tunneling under the bank from the building I rented next door, which I have established as a hat store (yes, we sell bowlers and slouchy flower-picking sun hats); telling my manservant to "hurry the fuck up".

Trying to figure out a way to magically warp the reality/imagination barrier long enough to scream at Charlie Brown to not kick the fucking football. If I have enough time I'd like to throw my drink in Lucy's face, too. Dreadful little woman.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I made out with and felt up my babysitter when I was, like, nine. She was a Catholic school girl, and it was all perfectly lovely and childlike. And hot.

Also, I think sex on a first date is a good sign.
You should message me if
you're not a Republican or otherwise have problems with empathy.

My type is generally petite, androgynous women who err on the femme side.

You want to hang out with someone who is potential serious relationship material, and is loyal, loving, kind and honest.

Bonus points if you're a dancer or live in Oak Park.

Or, you know, you are a smart, strong woman with a spiritual side who's always dtf.
The two of us