Thanks for checking me out! I work very hard to become who I am, know what I want from friends, lovers and myself and I'm not afraid to push for it anymore. I'm here to find my loving other(s). I'm looking forward to feeling excited about someone again.
I've turned down more dates through okc recently than I've gone on. I don't like disposable dating (you know, ten in the wings, etc.) and, though I've been poly, I need to know you can drop it for me on request, so monogamy first. I'm totally cool and cozy being single, so please bring me something more than just desire. I want all the feelings, too.
I love my life! I have or am in the process of getting every single thing I want out of it, and now I'm just looking for the right one to let in and share it with.
A sometimes scruffy, disillusioned writer, queer, trans, a bon vivant, reporter and artist. Man about town. Peace and equality agitator. Golden rule devotee. Intellectual. I write, and write about literature, poetry, dance, art, the DIY/maker scene, and on sociocultural and topical issues of the day. I moonlight as a dance dramaturg for hire.
Update: now in Oak Park. I'm usually a city kid, but I got an offer to live out here and renovate the house I'm staying at in lieu of rent. So now all of my income outside of meals and entertainment goes into savings, doing construction one day a week, and finishing revisions on 3 books I want to start sending around to publishers. I'll probably be here roughly 18 months.
And, I live 4 blocks from both a blue and green line stop, so I'm very city accessible, it just takes a tad longer to get around.
How society shoehorns people into productivity, but doesn't usually extend the definition to include intellectual or creative work. How to push back against that utilitarian bigotry in our culture.
Trying to figure out a way to magically warp the reality/imagination barrier long enough to scream at Charlie Brown to not kick the fucking football. If I have enough time I'd like to throw my drink in Lucy's face, too. Dreadful little woman.
Also, I think sex on a first date is a good sign.
My type is generally petite, androgynous women who err on the femme side.
You want to hang out with someone who is potential serious relationship material, and is loyal, loving, kind and honest.
Bonus points if you're a dancer or live in Oak Park.
Or, you know, you are a smart, strong woman with a spiritual side who's always dtf.