harpster81
34 Chicago, United States
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My self-summary
I'm loyal, compassionate, caring, loving, smart, funny, quick wit, easy going, driven, and determined. I am more of a home body but am always up for doing something. I don't need a lot to keep me satisfied. I typically am the care taker and rock that everyone depends on. I am looking for someone to be that for me... I can't do it all :)

I have a dog, Daisy, and she runs the show. She's a 6 year old American Bulldog and she's like my child. So "must love dogs" is def a requirement.

I most recently was in a year long relationship with a woman. My preference is to date a woman next and see if a connection can form but am not shut out to men. My other two long term relationships were with men. I'm very much attracted to personality and what's inside. Sex organs are just what we are working with 😍

What I am looking for.... I need someone who is independent, established, loving, romantic, strong, and is willing/able to take charge. It seems hard to find that balance in someone who is emotional and sensitive, yet confident and a bit 'alpha'. I'm typically the one who 'wears the pants' but I think i'd be more compatable with someone who was aggressive enough to take the lead every now and again. I'm NOT bossy, controlling, jealous, etc. In a room full of people saying 'what should we do' I'd be the person to step up and take charge.

I am flexible with my time. I set up my own days. I don't report to an office. I want to travel more (for pleasure) and explore some of the wonderful things the world has to offer!

Golf... LOVE IT! I wouldn't say i'm good but i am definatly not bad. I also have gone skiing a few times these past two winters. I am kind of a natural at it except I sometimes will let my fear get the best of me and i'll wuss out! :) I love bowling and volleyball. Have been on a few leagues/teams over the years.

I think that's about all I have to say....
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to figure out the fastest and easiest most lazy way to lose weight. Super Fit people intimidate me but I find them very attractive?! Can I become fit?? If I drank less craft beer I wouldn't be so curvy - but then I'd likely be less fun!
I’m really good at
I'm good at:
Keeping up with the Kardashians.
Being a major creep with my dog. Borderline obsessed.
Wearing yoga pants and rarely ever doing yoga.
Putting lotion on head to toe, everyday, no matter what.
Still thinking that saying 'your mom' is hilarious
Rapping 'baby got back'
Letting you drive
Drinking ice water out of plastic cups
Making sandwiches
Being self sufficient

What I'm NOT good at:
Returning red box movies on time.
Resisting pizza or Mexican food.
Awkward silence
Running - no matter how hard I try I get extremely winded after about 1 minute - so if you'd like to pull be in your radio flyer I'd be more than willing to go running with you.
The first things people usually notice about me
My outgoing and forward personality. I'm actually trying to tone it down so I'm less intimidating. Physically, my height, long dark hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Meh, not really a big reader but I do LOVE me some TV and movies. I watch all sorts... Benefits of working from home.

Love country music, classic rock, some main stream booty shaking music. I think live music is amazing and would see just about any type and enjoy it. I bought a guitar and took leassons (in an attempt to be the next Taylor swift +10 year age difference) but I gave up quickly because I wasn't jiving with the instructor.

I love to eat! My waistline doesn't always like it but I sure do. Mexican food, pizzzzzzaaaa, sandwiches, and flavor ice are amongst my favorites.
The six things I could never do without
A fan (unless you want to hum in my ear all night so I can sleep)
Chap stick/lip gloss
My dog daisy
My 'Blankie' (very juvenile, I know)
Cheese
Socks
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If I have unrealistic expectations of people.
If a lot of people actually do 69 or do kids just joke about it.
Why I always wake up craving French toast but rarely ever eat it?
Does that person recognize me from some sort of dating app??
Does everyone know how amazing Costco is?
On a typical Friday night I am
Out n about having some drinks with friends finding creative ways to dodge creepers ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I will likely never fart in front of you..... But will ALWAYS laugh when you do. 😊
You should message me if
You truly think you'd be a good match with me and are ready to meet up!! That is the point after all
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