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My self-summary
I am married and we are polyamorous. I am not seeking to replace my sweetie, nor really looking for a significant third, though life sometimes throws you curveballs. I have a busy life, so I'm not looking for prolonged dating before we decide we're into each other enough to have some fun. I love to kiss; I love everything oral. ;)

I am large. OKCupid didn't offer "large" or "fat" as a body type... please don't waste my time if you don't find large women sexy.
What I’m doing with my life
I am active in the Portland Buddhist community, a leader of sorts. I am open about being polyamorous, but I don't tell any and all.

I work half time, so have time for volunteer work, writing, and dating.
I’m really good at
Clarity and honesty. Putting people at ease. Loving...really...love is what it's all about. Helping people feel better when they're down. Seeing the big picture as well as the details. Getting to the crux of a problem and coming up with a creative solution. Seeing into your heart. Oh...and kissing, among other things.
The first things people usually notice about me
"I am large, I contain multitudes."
I have loooong brown hair.
Rhinestone glasses...it's all about the sparkle.
Oh, and that smile, if I have reason to smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books so good I revisit them: Zen Mind Beginner's Mind; Moby Dick; Persuasion; the Harry Potter books; The Absolutely True Diary of a Part Time Indian; The Great Gatsby; Lovers and Beloveds by Meilin Miranda; On the Origin of Species; Always Coming Home by U. LeGuin; The Hunger Games trilogy; The Portrait of a Lady; A Passage to India; The Book Thief; The Odyssey; Slaughterhouse Five; His Dark Materials series. To name a few.

Movies so good I revisit them: The Nightmare Before Christmas; Bagdad Cafe; Persepolis; Hugo; Across the Universe; Powwow Highway; Raising Arizona.

Simpsons. Psych. Bob's Burgers. Archer. Doctor Who. Star Trek TNG. Firefly. Sherlock. Copper from BBC. Lost Girl. Warehouse 13. Grimm. ...that is by no means comprehensive, but a start.

I am woefully unopinionated about music. I like it. I like others to pick for me.

Vegetarian anything: Thai; Vietnamese; Comfort food; artisan pizza; bistro food; veggie sushi; when it comes to burgers...boca burger.
Six things I could never do without
Oxygen. Food. Water. Sleep. Love. Smiles.

Oh, wait, you mean in addition to the life-supporting stuff? This should be like Wheel of Fortune...you already give me the E, R, S, and T. (Believe me I need love and smiles to live.)

Dark chocolate (don't bother with the milk chocolate or the Hersheys of the world, gimme the good, non-slave stuff).
Curbside garbage, composting, and recycling pickup.
Blowjobs. (and the reciprocation of at least fingers.)
The world wide web. What did we do before Google?

P.S. I did not list my sweetie and my good close friends, my chosen families. Of course I could not do without...but...someday I may have to. And I will still go on living. Sadly. I cannot imagine. But I choose to keep it light for my six things beyond those I need to live.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How we human animals function, whether alone in our head or with others. What's it all about? How do we be true to ourselves? How can I make this a better place?
On a typical Friday night I am
alive. What I do, varies. It could depend on you...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a little bit kinky.
You should message me if
you find me sexy and maybe funny and you don't wish to waste time but are ready to get intimate about the stuff that matters.

you should not message me if you live far far away.

oh, and no bad karma please. don't be cheating.
The two of us