34Silver Spring, United States
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My self-summary
Hi there! Thanks for stopping by my little corner of the internet! Just to make things easy in this data-driven world, here are a few things about mt.

* I am bi but lean more towards women.
* I am in an open relationship.
* I recently got out of an 8 year relationship with a trans* man.
* I don't drink but I don't care if you do.
* I love to read and work on crafts.
* I eat meat but try not to be a dick about it
* I try not to be a dick in general.

I grew up overseas due to having a parent in the U.S. Department of State, mostly in Africa. I speak French fluently (although my accent has gotten a little stronger due to a lack of immersion). I really need to do more cultural events but, like everybody, there never seems to be enough time.

I completed my master's degree a few years ago and spent the better part of 9 months working as an hourly-wage security guard. Huzzah for the economy. But hey, at least now I'm working for The Man. All of my childhood fantasies of growing up to work on the X-Files have finally come to fruition (kind of. Still looking for that elusive redhead that can run in heels)
What I’m doing with my life
Who knows? Some people always seem to have a goal and drive towards it mercilessly. I was one of those people. Until I realized you can't really live your life based on preconceived notions of what you should do. Unless you're really lucky, you don't just go out there and find a job you love right out of school and do for 20-30 years until you retire with a pension. At least, not anymore. So, things are up in the air, but at least I have a job that I enjoy and pays the bills.

I also spend a fair amount of time doing wood-working projects, metal-working projects, and playing the guitar. And the banjo. I'm working on some songs, but they're not there yet.

In the meantime, I can be found working on old Soviet-era motorcycles. Mechanically, quite simple. Physically? What sort of intra-dimensional quality-control hell did these things emerge from???
I’m really good at
Rescuing kittens and naming them after characters from sci-fi shows. Playing the banjo. Experimenting with 12-bar blues progressions and working on bottleneck guitar.

Doing research. Scouring the internet for random tidbits of knowledge. Wikisurfing. Attempting to transcribe medieval sheet music into guitar tabs, and then failing at it. Studying advanced motorcycle wiring diagrams. Historical sewing and armour repair.

Convincing you that Shakespeare is overrated when compared to some of his contemporaries. Planning a trip to Alaska, or Mongolia, or some place like that.

Tying knots. Taking the guns to the range. Smoking a pipe with flair and panache, while saddle soaping shoes and doing other manly things like cutting down trees with an axe, building campfires, butchering chickens, sewing on buttons, talking about hockey, and exploring abandoned structures (kinda hazardous that last one).
The first things people usually notice about me
My awesome mustache (seasonal, check with server for availability).

Apparently I have pretty blue eyes. I've never thought of them as particularly special, but some people have commented favorably, so I guess I'll run with it.

And I have really great, tussled, "I've-just-been-shagged-and-it-was-fabulous" hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I don't care for listing poarticular titles so much as I prefer to list authors. These include China Mieville, Neal Gaiman, Stephen King, Joe Abercrombie, Franz Kafka, Homer, and of course non-fiction on a diverse array of subjects from the abortive white supremacist attempts to conquer the island of Dominica in the 1980s to the personal lives of insane asylum patients in the early 20th century.

Movies: Off the top of my head: Memento, Dark City, Office Space, Hellboy, Equlibirum, Taxi Driver, Star Wars (both trilogies). X-Files, Firefly, Fringe, and the generally spooky genre such as the Machinist, the Jacket, Session 9, and the like (though I'm NOT a slasher or shock-horror fan). Some foreign films I like are Nightwatch (Nochnoi Dozor), A Very Long Engagement, Stander, and 28 Days Later. I also enjoy the Princess Bride, Ladyhawke, and silly, but good, 1980s- fantasy and fanasy-light films (like Dragonslayer, Krull, Legend, etc). Genre-wise, I'll watch pretty much anything, although I have a soft spot for movies that make you think.

And of course, I do like to get thoroughly tipsy and then put on an MST3K-worthy bad horror film to laugh at.

Music: Anything and everything, even the select Rap and Country song. Genres: Fuzz-Folk, Ska (3rd Wave), Punk, Oi, Blues, Trance, Techno (in small doses), Chant (especially Orthodox chant), Medieval Music, Traditional Instruments (like the Hurdy Gurdy, Smallpipes, Pipe and Tabor, and other things you've never heard of).

More Specifically, artist-wise: I just discovered the Gaslight Anthem, so they're on the top of my list. Billy Bragg, Steve Earle, and the like are good. I used to hate protest songs. Now I only hate them if they don't have a good tune, go figure. Johnny Cash is always good, especially towards the end of his life when he got all raw and acoustic-y (see the American Recordings). Dropkick Murphys, eve6, Catch-22/Streetlight Manifesto, Rancid, and Breaking Benjamin combined with the above are what you're most likely to find in my CD player at any given time, although I enjoy too many bands to list them all. And yes, I still use a CD player.

Foods: I'm not a big eater. Ethnically, my favorite is probably Greek.
Six things I could never do without
A book, the internet, caffeine, a newspaper, music, and a guilt-free conscience.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future, and specifically, my place in it. The job market, and wondering when the hell the spending freezes and hiring freezes will finally expire for the fields I want to get into. Also: existentialism. Is it really possible that the universe really doesn't care about us and that everything that we construct as fun, worthy, or meaningful is just a way of staving off a cold, hard confrontation with the possibility that mortality is short, death is inevitable and the universe is uncaring? It's worth a thought.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually watching a movie, reading, or just out having a good time in a low-key manner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Someone took me on a date to Wegman's. Yes, I know they have a cafe. But I guess that should have been a sign that things were not going to work out.
You should message me if
You want to help me learn to knit and get into knitting.

You think touching is a natural way to communicate.

You're ok with the fact that I don't drink.

You want to.
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