hello_tory
42 Los Angeles, United States
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My self-summary
I like nice guys.
I'm quick and kind, a smart aleck who's really a softie. I cook. Hiking calms me down and good coffee revs me up. I laugh easy and like to read as much as I like to dance. I have old school East Coast notions of loyalty and respect, and these days believe only a few things actually matter: kindness and compassion, patience and a quick wit. Dancing in the living room. Silliness.

My life is an adventure, and I'm hoping for a Lewis to my Clark: a man who's kind, funny, smart and works hard at what he does.
Is that you? I hope so.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an Ellie-nominated food writer, I travel all over the US for my research work, and have my own business. Which I love. My life and career keep expanding, and I'm up for the ride.
I try to be kind to myself and others every day. Stay balanced emotionally, physically, spiritually. Enjoy what's in front of me and laugh at the absurd. It's a good life.
I’m really good at
cooking, dancing, laughing, telling stories, cracking people up and working things out. Upsetting religious fundamentalists while remaining polite (it's a gift). I listen. And I read people pretty well.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes. Sometimes LA people say I have a "bright energy." I take it as a compliment.
Also, some people ask if I grew up on a farm. Ugh. But there are worse fates than looking perpetually wholesome.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Beckett, Cather, Kingsolver, Hemingway, H.D., Franzen, Chabon, Lois/Bill W. and Roald Dahl. Short stories by Breece D'J Pancake and Denis Johnson. I love my cookbook library. (Yay!) And detective novels when I can't sleep.

Music: I have a piano, like dancing to Jamaican dancehall, prefer music live when possible. I love the symphony- the rest, later.

What, no art question? Rothko paintings, love Marcel Duchamp, Man Ray, illuminated manuscripts (I got to see The Book of Kells in Ireland!), I like feminist vaginal art from O'Keefe to Judy Chicago, the beautiful repeating patterns you see in Persian art/architecture/everyday objects, and Chinese and Japanese scroll paintings from the Middle Ages.

Food: Pho (I wrote a story about LA's best pho!), real Italian- I eat and appreciate everything except turtles. Won't eat turtles. I like food that is well-conceived, uses good ingredients and is beautifully executed, from a $2 tamale or banh mi to serious cuisine. And my cooking is dope.
The six things I could never do without
Good coffee in the morning.
My piano.
The plays of Samuel Beckett.
Compassion.
Books.
My friends and marvelous nieces and nephews.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The way time and space interact, the quality of light, running the Resistance out of my living room if Trump wins, recipes, food I like, the American food system, why Texas is the way it is, writing and the people I love.
On a typical Friday night I am
either out and about going to three different things, all of which I'm excited about, or somehow have nothing planned.
When that happens (if I'm not jet-lagged!), I'll have dinner with a friend, then maybe wander around a bookstore. That's a great Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes my socks don't match. Judge if you must.
You should message me if
You are self-aware, kind, a good eater, smartypants, hilarious and have good manners. And fun! Let's have some fun.

Also: I want something real. A meaningful connection with a great guy. I'm not into your threesome, Internet Couple. (Though I'm sure it'll be hot.)

So send a note! I'd be happy to hear from you.
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