hello_tory
42 Los Angeles, United States
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My self-summary
I like kind guys.
I'm quick and kind, a smart aleck who's really a softie. Hiking calms me down and good coffee revs me up. I laugh easy and like to read as much as I like to dance. I have old school East Coast notions of loyalty and respect, and have learned only a few things truly matter: kindness and compassion, patience and a quick wit. Dancing in the living room. Silliness.

My life is an adventure, and I'm hoping for a Lewis to my Clark: a man who's kind, funny, smart and works hard at what he does.
Is that you? I hope so.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an Ellie-nominated food writer, I travel all over the US for my research work, and have my own business. Which I love. My life and career keep expanding, and I'm up for the ride.
I try to be kind to myself and others every day. Stay balanced emotionally, physically, spiritually. Enjoy what's in front of me and laugh at the absurd. It's a good life.
I’m really good at
cooking, dancing, laughing, telling stories, cracking people up and working things out. Upsetting religious fundamentalists while remaining polite (it's a gift). I listen. And I read people well.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes. Sometimes LA people say I have a "bright energy." I take it as a compliment.
Also, some folks ask if I grew up on a farm. Ugh. But there are worse fates than looking perpetually wholesome.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Beckett, Cather, Kingsolver, Hemingway, H.D., Franzen, Chabon, Lois/Bill W. and Roald Dahl. Short stories by Breece D'J Pancake and Denis Johnson. I love my cookbook library. (Yay!) And detective novels when I can't sleep.

Music: I have a piano, like dancing to Jamaican dancehall, prefer music live when possible. I love the symphony- the rest, later.

What, no art question? Rothko paintings, love Marcel Duchamp, Man Ray, illuminated manuscripts (I got to see The Book of Kells in Ireland!), I like feminist vaginal art from O'Keefe to Judy Chicago, the beautiful repeating patterns you see in Persian art/architecture/everyday objects, and Chinese and Japanese scroll paintings from the Middle Ages.

Food: Pho (I wrote a story about LA's best pho!), real Italian- I eat and appreciate everything except turtles. Won't eat turtles. I like food that is well-conceived, uses good ingredients and is beautifully executed, from a $2 tamale or banh mi to serious cuisine. And my cooking is dope.
The six things I could never do without
Good coffee in the morning.
My piano.
The plays of Samuel Beckett.
Compassion.
Books.
My friends and marvelous nieces and nephews.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The way time and space interact, the quality of light, running the Resistance out of my living room if Trump wins (you think I'm joking), recipes, food I like, the American food system, writing and the people I love.
On a typical Friday night I am
either out and about going to three different things, all of which I'm excited about, or somehow have nothing planned.
When that happens (if I'm not jet-lagged!), I'll have dinner with a friend, then maybe wander around a bookstore. That's a great Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes my socks don't match. Judge if you must.
You should message me if
You are self-aware, kind, a good eater, smartypants, hilarious and have good manners. And fun! Let's have some fun.

Also: I want something real. A meaningful connection with a great guy. I'm not into your threesome, Internet Guy. (Though I'm sure it'll be hot.)

So send a note! I'd be happy to hear from you.
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