50Boone, United States
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My self-summary
I'm looking for dominant, straight men with strong personalities and opinions, extroverted or introverted. Please do not confuse dominant with being a bully, they are worlds apart. Dominant men protect and encourage their woman, other less capable humans, and are gentlemen without necessarily being a "gentle man." If you enjoy discussing politics and religion, we will get along splendidly. My Myers-Briggs indicator is INFP. If yours is ENFJ or ENTJ, you're already on my short list. Curious? Try http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp. As an INFP, and I am indeed a strong Feeler and highly iNtuitive. I have a higher than average IQ, though not genius level, and can converse about a wide range of complex topics, but I am not an elitist.

I have always had the craving to serve as a submissive or perhaps "babygirl," but only recently have I had the courage to seek out men truly dominant in their own LIVES, not just in the bedroom. I find myself slightly outside the "vanilla" world, attempting to gain insight into what I really want in a personally tailored relationship for two. If you think something is missing from most modern relationships that is essentially human, that is where I caught my interest in trying something different. Most self-proclaimed "Doms" I have met have been wannabes with no clue what they were doing...they were just in it for the sex. I am NOT, as much as I love and long for sex. I am seeking a Dom, Daddy, or Master, NEW or EXPERIENCED, who can learn me, as I will him, mentally, physically, and sexually. A male who wants to develop a real relationship where communication is the NORM, not the exception. I'm imperfect and could use help finding my true voice in a male/female enterprise. This is a concern because I have a tendency to lose the joy I find in my female role when I slip into transforming myself into what I "think" he wants. I blame American media tropes, and try to stay the hell away from anything of the sort. :)

My willingness to serve goes very deep, but I am submissive, NOT passive! You'll find I have strong opinions and can take care of myself. In fact, I think it takes a stronger woman to truly open herself and be vulnerable to a man she trusts with her life. I simply believe that humans haven't changed for essentially 40,000 years, and no veneer of civilization can alter that, so I am adapting my approach to find what I want. I have a B.A. in Psychology and I am studying for dual Master degrees in Appalachian Studies and Public Administration in graduate school at Appalachian State in BOONE. That said, I don't necessarily care if you have a college degree; I was bright long before I got my undergrad parchment.

I am brunette, 5'6", and have an hourglass figure (38-28-38). My breasts (perky C cups) and my hands (elegant, with long fingers) are particularly beautiful. I have green eyes and a very pale, Scots-Irish complexion. I am grateful to be easily, multiply orgasmic, including orgasms from breast stimulation alone.

The qualities I seek in a male are strong intelligence, EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY, (yes, it is so rare I had to capitalize it) and sexual experience. To find a dominant man who is willing to try something different, but quintessentially human, with me is the relationship for which I'm searching.

I recently received this compliment from a far-away gentleman on OKC: "You are smartass, silly, sweet, and submissive to your soul... what more could a man seek..." I am honored by this.

I am very self aware and know what I am looking for, so please read these before contacting me.

Please make sure you can seduce me with your mind BEFORE your body and will, or it ain't gonna fly, friend.

I wish a real relationship with my partner, so I would like someone close to my age who can best relate to where I am in my life, what my particular proclivities are and can sympathize with the road I've already traveled. Therefore, I feel I will have the most success with men over 35 or under 60.

Take heed, ye who respond here: PLEASE BE POLITICALLY LIBERAL. Dated a Republican once, for 4 years, and Iraq happened because his type of patriotism was blind and common. Never again.

I will only respond to SINGLE men, but BOONE is a tiny oasis of knowledge in the mountains of NC, and I am relocatable for the right man. Not seeking one night stands, but a physical and consistent relationship with my PARTNER, who happens to be more dominant just as I happen to be more submissive.

P.S. If you've read this far, I'm pretty sure you don't have ADD. Huge plus!
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to tough out grad school. I spent a year in Asheville before arriving in Boone last October at Appalachian State. Spent over 20 years in Charlotte. Charlotte left me exhausted from fighting the Bible Belt, the big bank materialism and the soccer mom mentality. Got my B.A. in Psychology at UNC-Charlotte. Boone is beautiful, but bereft of single men 30-60.
I’m really good at
Writing...it just comes naturally to me...not sure if that is a plus or minus sometimes. Anything which requires emotional intelligence and good intuition. I'm detail oriented and a compulsively good speller. My empathy runneth over. Service oriented and an expert at anticipating needs of clients and those close to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a sarcastic smartass wrapped in a lot of compassion. Perhaps Jon Stewart and I were separated at birth?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Sun Also Rises, The Catcher in the Rye, Look Homeward Angel, The Land Where the Blues Began, My Old True Love.
Movies: Alien, Forbidden Planet, The Avengers, The Thin Man, North By Northwest, The Zeitgeist documentaries.
Television: The Walking Dead, Hell On Wheels, Justified, Grimm, Sherlock, Downton Abbey, Game of Thrones.
Music: Delta blues, Irish fiddle tunes from Appalachia, 60s/70s AOR, 80s New Wave, 90s Alternative. Nick Cave, Johnny Cash, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Etta James.
Food: Grilled/roasted veggies, turkey, pork, tuna, Fox Barrel Pear Cider, Angry Orchard Apple Ginger Cider. IPA beer is disgusting, give me a Stella and erase your damn chalkboard.
Six things I could never do without
Affection. Chocolate. Sex. Friends. Tabby cats. The Daily Show.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How the years I've spent starting over will be worth it when I graduate; whether men and women are really meant to live together for our greatly extended lifetimes; if life might be better in a resource economy without free market greediness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hopefully, spending time with a gentleman rogue who has talents I am still discovering. Most likely, I'm streaming a movie or The Walking Dead, happy the week is over.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
All my answers are public...including all you want to know about sex but haven't asked yet.

I listen to Spin Doctors radio on Pandora. It makes me smile.
You should message me if
You are a dominant male into the D/s lifestyle or curious to try it.
You find my pale Scots-Irish heritage attractive.
You enjoy dry humor or sarcastic wit, and the BBC.
You're smarter than the average bear.
You are EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE and have TIME to get to know me.
The two of us