40San Jose, United States
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My self-summary

Polyamorous married woman in an open relationship who (will have) recently moved to the area (in January). Would love to find friends with benefits. I would love to find kindred spirits. I want to have a good time! I'd prefer other people who are positive but with a morbid sense of humor - I have a huge dose of both! :P

I don't see the "Likes" so if you like me, speak up.
Please DO NOT message me "Hi" etc - have something to say or I won't respond.
Please DO NOT message me if you are from somewhere so far away we can't meet in person. I'm not interested in any sort of sexting.

I'm a hedonist who stopped rolling with the localish BDSM crowd in Maryland where I'm originally from. There was Way too much Heavy S&M. While I have a lot of S&M in my personal skill set and I enjoy the BDSM scene, I'm finding myself less attracted to dominant men and I'm tired of the ridiculous messages/encounters. (I have a d/s relationship and a familial relationship in my life already, thanks! ;) And more than a few dominant people present in my life as friends). I'm finding myself much more attracted to curious vanilla men, women, or couples, submissive women, not overly submissive men (negotiation is key here), and dominant couples (again, negotiation is key). I'm definitely interested in meeting someone(s) who are into the local BDSM scene!
Unfortunately, what I may not have is a lot of time. Back in Maryland my career included being up at 5 and home at 6:30 M-F with very little down time during my work day for things like return texting etc. It didn't make for any sort of stable long term top half of a D/s relationship - SO if that remains the case then more short term casual it shall be! But at least I'm being up front! And once I know what my situation out there will be, I'll definitely be updating.

I enjoy fantasy fulfillment so let's talk about that! >=} What does that mean? Exactly what it sounds like, though it does Not mean I'm down to do anything or whatever. It means I enjoy creating pleasurable experiences for other people, especially if they're things you've been dreaming about doing.

You'll notice I don't drink/smoke/do any drugs. Nope. I don't. I don't care if you do at all as long as you don't care if I don't. What you see here *waves a hand around* this is quite enough vice for me. >=} And I enjoy it. ;) Thank you.

My husband is here under unwieldysquig. We don't date together.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to find interesting things to do and people to meet, Family, Working, Getting into a yoga routine, Doing things for science!, Looking for new friends, new experiences and intellectual and other intercourses
I’m really good at
All things textile arts but especially lace, writing, communication, research, being witty, turning negatives into positives, instigating all manner of things, hedonism, making up my own words
The first things people usually notice about me
Honestly? No one ever says "ohai! I just noticed your ____ " so I'm not sure. I'll ask around. ;) I suppose I do get a lot of people telling others they thought I was "intense" when they first met me but I'm not sure why.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Holy crud! (insert huge lists of each)
Six things I could never do without
A healthy dose of the right mixture of oxytocin, seratonin, & dopamine
A decent sense of dark, sarcastic humor
My sense of wonder and gratitude (yes, despite the dark, sarcastic humor - they can, in fact, coexist ;) )
A damn fine cup of coffee! - but it could be tea... most of the time it's iced chai for me, actually (Yeah, I know. I ruined a perfectly good Twin Peaks reference.)
Smart ass answers and smartassery in general
I spend a lot of time thinking about
my inner chemistry, people, robots, smells, the future, giant slides, museums, kissing, what my next experience will be, philosophy, words (especially quotations), efficiency, eyebrow grooming, how things work, colors (especially blue), things that make me feel good, interesting old architecture, old fashioned things, relationships
On a typical Friday night I am
At home recovering from work but these days I am wishing I was doing something else - FRIDAY is actually *my* personal "I want to do a Thing" day. I'd rather RELAX on Saturday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Blah blah kinky blah blah - even that isn't THAT private though. Everything about me is pretty much out there on the table.
You should message me if
You ID as a more submissive person, curious vanilla person or couple, or dominant woman or couple and enjoy being on the receiving end of fantasy fulfilment.
The two of us