hilarydita
32 Richmond, United States
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My self-summary
I guess this is my version of the height note: I am larger than I am used to being right now - size 16/18- I carry it well, am sexy af. May lose weight, may not - my natural default size seems to be 10/12 and the sedentary lifestyle that grad school put me in is ending and will have more time for cooking, so we shall see. Pics are mostly up to date, the travel ones including the main one are. Overall I'm feeling the love for my body at any size. I am active and do love to travel, hike, take long people watching walks, camp and enjoy the outdoors, kayak, dance for hours straight and generally enjoy the world in a physical way, no matter what size I am.

Should be more photos toward the bottom of my profile if you are using a browser instead of the app.

I like to talk about myself. Try me.

Bold and bright, I adventure and speak my mind; I am mostly fearless.

Surprisingly shy with romance, I can be a bit clumsy there.
What I’m doing with my life
Working really hard in becoming a person, a better citizen of the world, friend and member of my community. Finding balance and living up to my ideals and principles.

Finishing up my master's in Urban Planning at UVA, hoping to find work in Richmond while doing some research this summer.
I’m really good at
Dancing without self consciousness
Laughing
Saying yes
Being spontaneous
Long philosophical conversations
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm fucking AWESOME.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
These are some of my favorite conversations - lets save it for that. But some general guidelines:

Tunes: Blues Soul Funk Roots Psychedelic Rock Strings Horns Fusions Live Danceable

Books: King Austen Coelho John Green Twain Sedaris Hornby Beagle Blatty
Reflective Critical Human Truth Epic Immersive Snarky Hilarious
Cathartic Nostalgic Whimsical Escapist

Moving Pictures: Whedon Luhrman McDonogh Coen Bros Independent Quirky Snarky Clever Heart Warming Scary Inspiring

I really like The Family Stone - if you are Luke Wilson from that movie, we need to talk.

Noms: Local wholesome home made creative seasonal comfort fusion
The six things I could never do without
a book, comfortable clothes, flip flops, large bodies of water, trees, a soft sweatercoat, my camping hammock

to be more concept vs. material:

creaminess, laughter, cuddles, eye contact, the profound, dancing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm gonna do with my big old sparkly new master's, being at the bottom of the food chain with experience but having the skills and knowledge to make the change I want in the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Very much depends. If it's a "go out" Friday, I'm out at a bar or live music venue. If it's a stay in, I'm doing laundry, treating myself to some delicious dinner and watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love a virile, flirtacious man - please don't think I don't want you to have a strong sexual appetite and self expression. But I do find that sexual intimacy organically must follow emotional,mental and often other kinds of physical intimacy. There is no predictable time frame for this. Sometimes it can take hours, sometimes weeks. I don't know why, but I think life is mysteriously lovely and human relationships are fascinating and I don't judge either time frame as lesser. So, while I'm not going to set a time frame for sex, if you're interested in truly anonymous sex, then I'm not your girl. If we spark like wild and build trust really fast, then there's no reason we can't get there quickly, but it can't be planned.

Also just gonna try coming out of the closet on this: I philosophically believe in ethical non-monogamy. I have never practiced it, but I have high hopes of finding the right person or people in the future - however I'm not interested in starting with an established couple. I am also not closed to monogamy, but if you're interested in maybe someday exploring the idea of emotional non-monogamy in a very safe, communicative and trust oriented way with no pressure we might be well suited. I am still interested in having a strong primary partner and making a life and family together. If polyamory doesn't work out, so be it.
You should message me if
You are a forest god.

You are open.

You are curious.

You love to laugh and make others laugh.

You want to save the world.

You dance with utter abandon.

You are a feminist.

You feel childlike joy and wonder regularly.

You want to build and live in a tiny house.
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