I am a fun, witty girl. I am a good conversationalist. I enjoy museums, libraries, music, wine, dancing, story telling and travel. I am a pretty great date.
I am seeking a man to share my next adventure. I am not sure what that new adventure will be. I am searching for someone who does not freak out if we miss a highway exit, or the restaurant lost our reservation. The gentleman I am seeking is calm, and realizes, that while the world is a big, beautiful place, sometimes poop passes. My perfect amore loves to read, learn and try new things. I want a guy with patience and a sense of humor. I am generally a happy optimist; however, I have many high anxiety moments. In these moments, I want someone who is supportive. In return, I shall support his high-anxiety moments, entertain his silly moments, be loyal in his insecure moments and revel in his blissful moments.
I am socially conscious and incredibly active. I volunteer for non-profit organizations and political organizations. This may lead to scheduling frustrations. Fear not, dear one, if it is meant to be, we will meet. I care about the health and sustainability of our planet as well as the people, plants and animals that live on this planet. I have the expectation that any person I spend my precious time with, will care about our world also. I am a bird-watcher. I love to dance and travel. I do yoga and reiki.
I am smart, funny, and kind
Good Folk of OkC, ***
I am updating my profile. I thought that this most properly belonged in the "What I'm Doing with My Life" section. One of the relationships I wrote in an earlier version of my profile fizzled, while the other is still hot and heavy and romantic and amazing. I am ridiculously happy. We live together in a small messy apartment with our Couch of Commitment and our fish. Life is really, really great.
We are still poly. So, while I am keeping my profile active, I am not “actively dating.” That is, I am happy to date people that may come my way, but I am not in an active search, so as to fill a romantic gap. My love basket is wonderfully full. However, as a poly person, I am aware that more love is always possible. If you are looking to add more love and adventure to your life, perhaps we can date.
In addition to living with my beloved, I am still trying to live my life with my heart chakra open. I am still working on my yogic practice.
My other big life change is that I have opened my own grant writing business. Now, instead of commuting 3 hours a day, I sit in my living room, listening to birds outside and my fish take burble. I work to help fund people's dreams and solve critical problems in our society. I really have the best life for me.
** (Yes, of course there is a footnote, I could not hold up my nerd credentials without one.) I do not know the formal gender queer address that would correspond with Ladies and Gentleman. Is there one? If not, this seems like an oversight. With all the linguistic debate that we in the allied communities are doing about developing queer-gendered language, we need to come up with a word, for formal occasions.
I have taken many suggestions on what the gender neutral formal address should be. I like “good folk.” The word “folk” feels inclusive of everyone, as everyone is someone’s folk. The adjective “good” feels nice, as it makes the assumption of the positive qualities of the people I am addressing. I am hopeful the people reading my profile are “good.”
And, here I shall just go ahead and project upon you, dear reader. You have made it much of the way through my profile, and have even made it to the footnotes. You are a reader. You are most likely curious. You have a decent attention span. You may have a good sense of humor. If you understand my concerns over the proper word for “the gender-inclusive formal address,” then you may care about gender politics and trans-inclusivity. All of these descriptors put you in the category of “good.” Perhaps we can meet for brunch and find out if my assumptions are correct?
As you can see in the photo with the yellow shirt, I bake amazing pie. (That one was made with delicious Michigan blueberries and
cherries. I want to acknowledge that I think it is a special
blessing to live in a state with such an abundance of
agriculture.) I am working on perfecting a gluten free pie crust. Much to my chagrin, I have developed a gluten allergy. I love pie.
I also tell good stories and make people laugh. I am also a really good writer.
As for physical appearance, I get complimented on my hair and nice smile. My friends also often comment about my great rack. Which is rather funny.
As I mentioned before, I have been participating in the 50 book
challenge. I like historical fiction and science fiction.
My favorite books from the I read recently were:
Into the Beautiful North; Luis Alberto Urrea
The Lies of Lock LaMora; Scott Lynch (I love this whole series!)
The Man Who Made Lists: Love, Death, Madness and the Creation of Roget's Thesaurus; Josh Kendal
Neverwhere; Nial Gaiman
The Red Garden: Alice Hoffman
Bellweather: Connie Willis
I love music, most music. I used to play string bass. I sing every
day. I have a deep love of opera, (Carmen is my favorite…)
I enjoy full-flavored, nourishing food including Indian, Italian,
Mexican, Chinese and Thai which are some of my favorites. I’ve been a vegetarian since 1996. I despise potatoes.
1) friends and family
2) coffee and wine
4) indoor plumbing
6) engaging conversation
Also, I'm rather offended that OkC has rated me as "less loving." I'm very loving. In fact, I love many people, and I love people who, in turn, love many people. I have a deep, open, inquisitive and wondrous heart. I willingly share my love, and expect love in return. Perhaps OkC feels I am "less loving" because I am not willing to stick it out with people who don't treat me the way I want to be treated? This seems like doormat behavior, not loving behavior. I'm looking for lovers, not fighters or doormats.
You should message me if you're a nice person and open-minded. If you can hold up your end of a conversation. If you volunteer for just causes. If you read.
Also, I really don’t like to “chat” on-line, or spend weeks e-mailing back and forth. I find electronic media to be a stilted mode of communication, devoid of eye-contact, voice inflection and pheromones. I much prefer to actually meet, in person, like as in a “date.” I am aware that this is apparently very radical thinking, here on a “dating site.” Nonetheless, actual in-person, face-to-face contact is my preferred way of meeting people. You should not message me if all you want to do is chat.
Also, do not approach me with bad grammar. As you can see, I put the time and effort into writing this profile. Please take the care necessary to write in full sentences when you address me.