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My self-summary
I'm a funny, compassionate and thoughtful guy. My pants have a tendency to be a bit smarty. I won't claim to be unflappable, but I rate at least "flap-resistant". I'm the kind of guy who knows where his towel is.

As for what I'm looking for... I guess the first word that springs to mind is "range". I want a woman who's comfortable in a lot of different settings, and with whom I can connect on a lot of different levels. Serious current events discussions? Karaoke? Lazy weekend mornings resting up after the night before? Kayaking around Lake Union? Impromptu road trips? I want a little bit of it all, and more. A close second to "range" would be "depth," which you can probably figure out on your own.

Intelligence is definitely a big draw: you should be able to give me a run for my money at Scrabble or other comparable game.

Everyone wants a sense of humor, and in that respect, I'm no different. But I've never found any easy way to measure whether somebody has it or not. If you've developed a humorometer, that's a good sign on a whole lot of levels, and I'm totally available to guinea pig for you.

Someone once said, "Having no baggage is good, but what I really want is someone whose baggage goes with mine." There's some wisdom in that.

I'm hoping for someone who'll at least tolerate my geekish leanings, and who's of a comparable political bent as I am (specifically, on the liberal side of things generally). Then again, viva la difference, right?

Although I'm principally looking for something relatively long-term, I'm not ruling out something shorter-term.

Short skirt/long jacket not required, but appreciated.
What I’m doing with my life
Working a day job as a software trainer, nights as an actor (currently appearing semi-regularly in a murder mystery dinner theater thing). Goals at the moment include getting in better shape, expanding my social circle, and meeting you.
I’m really good at
Trivia, intelligent conversation, teaching, acting/improv, cooking, goofy accents, and karaoke. I read at an nth grade level.

I'm really bad at conveying some of my better qualities without sounding conceited. Which I suppose sounds a bit conceited in and of itself. Which kind of illustrates my point. Which ... I'm going to shut this train of thought down before I alienate you further and/or give myself a headache.

I'm really good at overthinking things... but you probably guessed that already. (I'd probably be really good at game theory, but it would not be good for me (or at least my peace of mind).)
The first things people usually notice about me
My propensity to take polls to determine which of my features is most striking. That, or the facial hair.

I've received a fair amount of compliments on my chest, and my calves, but those are features that aren't usually on display when I first meet people. When I turn around, in addition to my relatively nice butt, you'll also notice that I'm rockin' the bald spot. I don't know how noticeable this is, but I have weirdly colored eyes - there's a ring of golden brown right around the pupils, with grey surrounding it. (The technical term for this is apparently "central heterochromia". The More You Know.)

I tend to think I have a nice-sounding voice.

I've got a little bit of grey in my hair already, too, but I'm hoping the salt-and-pepper look makes me look seasoned. That's right, I totally went there.

Also, I'm not fat, I'm just at the wrong aspect ratio.

My patronus is Louis C.K.

An actual exchange I had one night:
Random Drunk Guy on the Street: Are you Canadian?
Me: No.
RDGotS: Why not?
Me: Bad luck.

I am apparently an INFP-T.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The work of Vernor Vinge, Neal Stephenson, Bruce Schneier, Neil Gaiman, Charles Stross, China Mieville, Diane Duane. Generally, I'm a sci-fi fan, but I'm a pretty voracious reader. I don't think there's been a single day in the last year during which I haven't had at least one book out from the library. Recommend something to me! I tend to have a big ol' stockpile of books to be read in the future, which has only intensified since I bought an e-reader. (It lets me build up the pile without taking up any more physical space.) I'm currently reading "Far Horizons", a SF short story collection edited by Robert Silverberg.

Movies: The Big Lebowski, Brick, The Fountain, Fight Club, LA Story, The Life of Brian, A Life Less Ordinary, The Prestige, Sneakers, Mallrats, In the Bleak Midwinter (aka The Midwinter's Tale), Brazil, Scott Pilgrim vs. the World.

Music: The Clash, Catherine Wheel, The Afghan Whigs (and associated Greg Dulli projects), They Might Be Giants, Nick Cave, TMBG, PJ Harvey, Bad Religion, The Dropkick Murphys, Ned's Atomic Dustbin, Florence + The Machine. It's probably fair to say that when it comes to music, I'm very much a child of the 90s.

Food: It's hard to go too wrong with pizza - I'm a bit of a sucker for unconventional toppings. Greek food is good, along with udon, cannoli, and all manner of mushrooms. I'm always interested in investigating new cuisines or things I haven't tried yet, with a few exceptions (jalapeños and olives tend to be big dislikes - but weirdly, I love olive oil). I'd love to find a Seattle-area location that does custom okonomiyaki like I used to be able to find in Osaka.

TV shows: Doctor Who (both the new and classic series), The Venture Bros., Breaking Bad, Futurama, MST3K, The Daily Show, Rick and Morty, Community (I actually briefly went to college with one of the producers of that last one).
Six things I could never do without
New questions to ask, new people to meet, my e-reader, food, water, and gravity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to live sustainably, both in the sense of what's best for the planet, but also not so ascetically that I fall off the eco-wagon.

New places to visit, new people I'd like to meet.

The next home improvement project to tackle.

The question, "Can't they take a hint?" Everybody can take hints: the problem is that we are all inclined to take the hints that confirm our existing world-views, and disinclined to take those that challenge them. Forthrightness, specificity, and clarity are therefore hugely important, valuable, and appreciated. And if you find yourself asking "can't they take a hint?" the answer should be "Maybe they can't. I should be clearer."

If you meet Ro-Buddha on the road, deactivate him.

These days, how to invert the daily ratio of "women I discover on OKCupid that I intend to write to" to "women in the first category to whom I have actually written". Y'all are quite enticing - maybe I'm just overthinking what my initial message should be. (Of course, if you'd like to jump the queue, you can always write me.)

We need to develop some kind of school curriculum to teach kids how to identify and counteract propaganda - a propaganda vaccination program, if you will. Of course, that probably means that someone would pretty quickly claim that it causes propagandautism.
On a typical Friday night I am
It varies. If I'm in a play, we'll usually have shows on Friday nights, but if not, a night in can be nice. This coming Friday, my plans are to see a play. Care to join me?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom - not in any sexual way, I just got overwhelmed with clerical work.

I tried bringing sexy back, but I lost my sexy receipt and could only get sexy store credit.

I feel a little guilty when I walk into a restaurant and get greeted before deciding to go somewhere else - like I've gotten their hopes up or something.

I have a patch of psoriasis on my butt.

I do not own a car. Not really private, but a deal-breaker for some ladies, so including it here seems apropos. By the same token, I occasionally use the term "apropos".

Pet peeves include pressing the "Clear/Reset" button whenever I notice that someone has left time on the microwave at work. (And for the record, I'm planning on naming my next pet "Peeve's".)

I identify as polyamorous.
You should message me if
... you're an intelligent woman who appreciates intelligent, funny, kind, widescreen guys.

... you think we're comparably awesome individually, and that we'd be even more so together.

... you have a challenging pub trivia venue you'd like to recommend to me. My regular one closed up shop recently.

... I've messaged you, and you'd like to message back.

... you've been honing your proofreading skills, and wish to point out mistakes hidden in this profile.

... you've got a question you'd like to pose to me.

... you have a compelling reason for messaging me that I haven't anticipated.

... you can explain why more bras aren't front-clasp style. Wouldn't that make it easier for everyone?

... some combination of the above criteria.

Bonus points for kink and/or polyamory.

P.S. Since I get a fair amount of messages, if you're sending an unsolicited one, please make it clear somehow that you've read this profile. Write in limerick style, or in pirate-speak or something.
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