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My self-summary
Playwright. Twelve-stepper. Short-story-and-novel writer who isn't aiming to get published. Sometimes I write dark poetry. Actor. Stage manager. Paralegal. I don't usually put photos in dating profiles. Via e-mail, I'd be fine with sending my theatre headshot. My hair isn't quite long enough to donate and I can't go on testosterone due to a medical condition, so I do look a certain way.
What I’m doing with my life
Working on getting my first play performed, writing my second play, writing a novel that I don't intend for publication, job searching.
I’m really good at
Skeeball. Being calm when fired (it's a business decision. Finding a new job sucks, but that's work life I guess). Writing. Singing. Drafting pleadings.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm painfully shy and have resting murder face. I don't smile a lot. I ask a lot of questions and have strong opinions. Recently, I went to get my hair dyed auburn. My hair is now partially dark red, but mostly purple and dark gray because the stylist didn't listen to "Please don't use permanent dye. My hair is different than you'll expect, plus I have a lot of hair." Eight tubes of dye later, she washed my hair and tons of the dye came out. I can't get it corrected for six weeks since people with my hair texture have had their hair fall out if they tried anything before that. I am getting it buzzed at a different place as soon as I have the money.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite book is "Seven Types of Ambiguity" by Elliot Perlman. I'm going to get up from the computer to rifle through my book stacks and pick ones I like enough to make this list. Hang on. Okay. I also like "The Reasons I Won't Be Coming" by Elliot Perlman, and "Three Dollars" by Elliot Perlman. I have read all his books. I disliked "Street Sweeper." My favorite comic book series is "Dykes to Watch Out For" by Allison Bechdel. "We Have Always Lived in the Castle" by Shirley Jackson is wonderful. I really enjoyed "La Casa de Los Espiritus" by Isabel Allende (yes, I can read Spanish). I read it in one sitting a few years ago.

Female stalker movies are totally my thing. You go onto TVTropes and click "Stalker with a Crush," and I have seen over half the movies. I can give detailed critique and talk about which ones on the list I want to see and why. It shouldn't come as a surprise that my favorite movie is "Swimfan." "Wicker Park" left a good impression with me. "Phantom of the Opera" is a Broadway musical with a male stalker, but yeah, second-favorite Broadway musical and third-favorite movie (the 2004 version). I also have some Disney movies in my DVD collection. "Hard Candy", a movie with Ellen Page, is not a female stalker movie but is another favorite. "The East," another movie with her in it, really affected me.

I like the TV show "Criminal Minds" a lot and was a big fan of "Law & Order: SVU" until it got boring in Season Eleven or around there. "Dead Like Me" is awesome.

My three favorite Broadway musicals are "Phantom of the Opera," "Cats," and "Hairspray." "Cats" got me through paralegal school emotionally, and it was mostly due to the reprise of the song "Memory," the one that's nearly seven minutes long. My favorite play is "Juvie" by Jerome McDonough. I can't say enough about how great it is.

I don't listen to the radio very often, and I own few CDs, notably Evanescence and Within Temptation. It lends to the stereotype. I was goth from middle school to high school, and was bullied a lot as a result (among other reasons). I still wear black and paint my nails black. I'm into 80s rock, some 90s pop, Linkin Park, Fort Minor, uh...yeah. Lindsey Sterling's cool.

My favorite meal is the Colombian version of a soup called sancocho. Arroz con pollo is a staple for me. I really like sudo (I know it means "sweat." I'm talking about the meal with potatoes and chicken) but have never learned how to cook it. My favorite vegetable is green beans, and my favorite fruit is blackberries. I recently discovered bing cherries and can eat a lot of them in one sitting.
Six things I could never do without
Beyond the things which keep every human alive, the six things I could never do without are my medications, good books, intellectually stimulating media and people, my creativity and means to express it, my faith and a way to observe it, and access to good twelve-step meetings.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I have always spent a lot of time in my own head. Oftentimes, it's nicer than my boring reality. Currently, I think a lot about my anticipated future and how to make my reality better.
On a typical Friday night I am
On a typical Friday night, I am preparing to go synagogue the following morning and wondering what debates the congregants and I will get into after services. The debates range from outsourcing to child-rearing to what we should do as a congregation and individuals about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. I have attended the same Reform congregation since forever, but since I just moved, the commute has been harder. I talked to the clergy and they recommended a synagogue for me to visit that is closer-ish. I made it clear I would visit the original synagogue at least once a month and for the High Holy Days and family yarzheits (duh), and I thanked them for their recommendation. So, this Friday night, I will be worrying about showing up to a new place.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um, I should probably get this out of the way since it can be a dealbreaker for people: I have a mental illness on the bipolar spectrum, for which I have been on the same efficient medication for eleven years. I was also diagnosed with clinical depression for the second time two years ago. I refer to it as "I get really sick sometimes." I "got really sick" when I was at university seven years ago, as well. I refused medication because I was so ashamed of the diagnosis, and I regret that.

I shall promptly scuttle into the nearest corner and fret over the results of putting this on a dating profile.
You should message me if
You should message me if you're a "Llamas with Hats" fan, or a BTVS fan. That way, we'll have something fun to talk about on the first date.
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