*** ARE SUFFICIENTLY YOUNG THAT I COULD'VE BEEN YOUR MOTHER!! If you're less than 35 years old, there is simply nothing you could say or do to change my mind on this. If you're local, we might still be friends, but we would never date. I'm set in my ways whenever it comes to age, religion, politics, race and sex. After 52 years....I'm not budging on those points. It wouldn't matter if you teach motorcycle safety to law enforcement, there's NO WAY I'll get on a motorcycle with you or anyone else...sorry. If you message me and I either don't respond or do and wish you all the best in your search, it means, for whatever reason, I'm not interested. Please simply accept that. I'd prefer it if I could avoid saying that I'm not attracted to you!! I truly am a nice person and I do my best to be polite. There are simply some men I'm attracted to and others I'm not. I'm certain that's true for us all. Respect that. Don't force the issue and make me say it in a way that might cause hurt feelings. I just really don't like doing that.
Also, if you:
1) don't fall into the parameters of my search and want to attempt to change my position. I very much appreciate a friendly "hello" and/or "wish you well in your search". I've spent a great deal of time with myself and know ME....better than anyone. While it's possible that I MIGHT be convinced to try something new to eat or drink, it's unlikely that I'm budging on a compromise with any of the things I've listed.
2) don't like what I've written, or what I think, or how I look. I'd never even consider writing a message to someone unless I were actually interested in them. Some might read this condition and wonder why I'm writing it. My profile essay is as long as it is almost entirely due to the fact that I keep adding things like this because of past experiences with this and other sites. It's either try this or give up entirely and I remain faithful that there are genuinely nice people still out there.
3) don't get a response from me. Basically, no response equals no interest...for whatever the reason. If I haven't responded to the first, second or third message, sending a fourth, fifth or sixth isn't going to change anything. I used to answer everyone, even if it were to simply say "thank you and I wish you the best in your search". That hasn't faired so well for me. Please understand that I'm being as polite as possible simply by not saying anything at all.
IF CHRISTIAN, CAUCASIAN AND CONSERVATIVE ARE NOT WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR, OR ARE TRAITS TO WHICH YOU OBJECT, PLEASE DISREGARD WHAT MY PICTURES LOOK LIKE ;-)
I love music and concerts; especially rock music. Good food and good fun go hand in hand. I'm a chiropractic physician (that wasn't listed in 'education', so med school was the closest choice!). I'm free-spirited and love to do new things. I enjoy going out and dancing, even if I have to dance alone while my friend watches! I enjoy dressing sophisticatedly, subtly sexy which expresses my personality as well. I'm intelligent, but not a know-it-all (I was a member of MENSA at the age of 15, but doubt seriously I could pass the test today!)
I have been, but am no longer controlling OR clingy. I've been with the men that enabled those ugly things in me...the too passive or too aggressive types. I've been on my own for over two years and divorced since May 29, 2014. I've now returned to my true self. It's a journey, not a destination, so I know there's still work to be done. "Be patient; God's not finished with me yet!". I believe that the only mistakes in life are the experiences from which we don't learn something in order to grow. I've rediscovered my vulnerability, my strength, my dignity, my radiance, my passion, romance (my own appreciation for it; not receiving it) and devotion. In essence...my 'beauty' and femininity!
I'm a veteran (served USN active duty as a corpsman, USAFR as a medic, LANG medic and USNR corpsman) and a member of the VFW and American Legion. I'm also a card-carrying member if the RNC and take my conservative values towards politics seriously. I own a .38 Taurus (but, would trade it for a 1911 .45 and will be getting my CCW license soon) Both ears are pierced twice, as well as my nose and navel. NO ink!
I'm fairly fit, so I've come to learn that both women and men compliment me on my physique, as well :)
I don't go to the gym, do work out to videos at home sometimes; all the rest is just genetics and tossing around patients twice my size as a living for hours in a day :-)
I voraciously devour books by the hundreds and couldn't possibly name a favorite. Some include: I Could Never Be So Lucky Again: the autobiography of Jimmy Doolittle (he's a relative and led a thrilling life!), The Stand, Atlas Shrugged, The Shack, Crossroads, Captivating and Wild At Heart, The Mark of the Lion trilogy, anything by Dean Koontz (especially the Odd Thomas books), anything by James Patterson, Ken Follett and most Stephen King, Escher, Godel and Bach; Decision Points...to name a few. I've just begun to read The Bible in Contemporary Language and find I'm enjoying it more than I expected! It's not translated from the KJV, but from the original Greek and Hebrew.
I love watching Penny Dreadful, True Blood, Supernatural, Spartacus, Merlin, The Walking Dead, Lost Girl, Fringe, Person of Interest, Being Human, Rizzoli and Isles, Duck Dynasty, Hawaii Five-O, Game of Thrones, Warehouse 13, Bones, Anger Management, Big Bang Theory and Two and a Half Men. I also STILL enjoy watching the cartoons of my childhood...especially Bugs Bunny, Tom and Jerry and Foghorn Leghorn :-)
I love ALL kinds of food. Mexican is probably my favorite, simply because there are so many great Mexican places here. I love a great petite filet with asparagus, bernaise and crab meat (Oscar style), or Chilean sea bass from a great steakhouse. Also crazy about a couple of versions of shrimp and grits and fried calamari served locally. My favorite chili is my own: something I've been calling north LA wild game surf 'n turf chili....it has venison AND alligator meat in it!!
My ever-changing and developing relationship with God, my family, my vocation, my friends, good books and great food.
Anything MORE personal might be revealed after I've gotten to know someone better. I really don't have any 'skeletons' in my closet or a sordid past. All of my photos (with the exception of 1 and 4) are natural, not enhanced and either within a few days, weeks or months. (I didn't even know that those photos had been 'doctored' until it was pointed out to me by men on this site. They were taken by a friend and sent to me. I just thought they had an exceptional camera phone!) I try to update them as frequently as possible.
After much careful consideration, I've decided to list some reasons why you should NOT message me first. If any of this makes me come across as picky, maybe I've been around long enough to accept that. There are simply some things I refuse to compromise. Please do NOT message me if:
- you are not Caucasian.
- you are not Christian.
- you are less than 5 ft 8 (I would be taller than you if I were in heels)
- you are liberal in your views on religion, sex or politics
- you are less than 38 years old; I'd be old enough to have given birth to you. I think it's beautiful if you truly have an 'old soul'. It just won't balance out with the actual time you've spent living life.
- your pictures are from so far away that I can't see your face. Same goes for pics with glasses, hats or not smiling. I'd like to think that if we ever met in person, I'd be able to recognize you from across a room. You'll notice that my pics leave nothing to the imagination in that regard.
You SHOULD message me if you honestly think the things I've said about myself might be compatible with you and aren't politically, morally or otherwise offended by anything I've said. I AM a work in progress and have much to learn, and I'm not likely to completely change who I am any time soon. I'm educated and fairly well-traveled (western Europe three times, central America three or four times and Southeast Asia once) so it would probably be best if you've experienced some of this, as well. This doesn't mean you have to have an 'alphabet soup' of fancy degrees after your name on linen business cards, OR a fully stamped passport. LIFE is a terrific educator; especially for the heart and soul of a man. I'm fit, so I appreciate that in others.
I want to be sought after, not stalked; a challenge, not a fight. You don't necessarily HAVE to have hunted, fished, paddled a boat, ridden a horse or trained a dog, or chopped firewood or been in a fight lately, or ever. I just want someone I know COULD do those things, including fight for or rescue me if necessary. (Basically, someone who would make a great partner for a zombie apocalypse or some other similar challenge for survival!) I'm intelligent and of strong character AND I'd like to be around someone who neither wants to suppress that, nor lean on me because it it. Someone in control who's not controlling. Someone who will come to my rescue....whether it's a creepy bug, a difficult situation or an offensive person. Someone who draws out and unveils the beauty in me; not necessarily with words, either. I respond much better to having someone make me feel that I'm beautiful to him by the way he treats me with chivalry or a tender caress than to hear how 'hot, sexy, fine or gorgeous' he thinks I am. I still appreciate the comments; they just mean more when followed up or accompanied by more. Someone who puts me at ease and with whom I can sense that in once it's happened because I can tell that they are at ease around me. Someone who doesn't think I'm 'too much'. Someone I can look at and KNOW you've got what it takes; you've shown me everything and, for me, it's enough. Someone to be my Last of the Mohicans or Braveheart 'hero'!!!
(More men really should watch those movies and take clues from the romantic aspects alone, just for a viewing or two, and put the history and violence on a back burner for a bit.) There's a LOT to be learned :-)