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My self-summary
I am only interested in socially conscious, and kind people. This is important. Especially the kind bit. Of every quality a friend could have, kindness is the most important to me.

I also appreciate brilliance in people - coupled with the kind of courage that allows one to think outside all the boxes and examine oneself and life from every angle. That kind of examination is natural to me, and easier for me to be around others who are the same way.

My 14 yo son told me I'm weird, nerdy, and funny in the same way that Tina Fey is weird, nerdy, and funny. I thought, "that's the coolest compliment I've ever gotten."

Once I am comfortable with people, I'm usually pretty funny. My friends say I'm "clever". I'm generally calm and easy to please. I'm happy when the people around me are happy.

I'm into what others might consider "weird religions". Currently studying Kabbalah.

Please don't message me if you just want casual sex. I'm soooo not interested.
What I’m doing with my life
I finished a first-draft of a novel last November (thanks to NANOWRIMO!) and am working on the first rewrite of it. I had a poem published for the first time a few years ago and that was very encouraging to me.

I've been active in Kiva, and encourage everyone to try it. Since we all share this planet together, I think it's important that we take responsibility for one another. I have no interest in people who don't take an active role in bettering this planet. A little less Ayn Rand, and a little more Ubuntu, please.

I have very strong values, and I am committed to them. I stand up for the underdog, won't eat chocolate unless I am as certain as I can be that no 9-year-old slave harvested the cocoa in it, and I am really nice to people.

The only real exception to that is if I see someone victimizing someone who is defenseless. Or an adult being mean or rude to one of my kids. I can get kind of vicious then. Like the time the employees at Borders had to separate me from this nasty little man they were afraid I was going to assault. I had my reasons.

I guess you can add that exception to my "always nice" rule. I'm not ALWAYS nice. I'm INFJ. The J stands for judging. I suppose we can be assholes, too, but only if we really think you deserve it.

I support BLM and love Bernie Sanders and Russell Brand gives me braingasms.

I don't spend a lot of time outdoors. I am dealing with some chronic pain-and-fatigue issues, so if you're looking for someone to go hiking and camping and mountain climbing with, I'm not the one for you. Move along... ;)
I’m really good at
... writing. Explaining things to people. And understanding concepts even if I'm not really educated in an area.
The first things people usually notice about me
I like to think it's my hair. People tell me it's my eyes. I suspect it's really my... err... 'curves'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Pachelbel's Canon in D. The Cure.
Authors: Austen, Charlotte Bronte, Laura Kinsale. Rumi. Vonnegut. N.K. Jemisin.
Poems: Desiderata, Song of Myself. The World, by Vaughan.
Movies: Idiocracy, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Wings of Desire. Metropolis. Rocky Horror Picture Show. Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Heroes: Mr. Rochester from Jane Eyre, Thomas Marshal from Ironclad, Mikael Blomkvist in Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (Swedish version)
Dystopian stories and historical romances with happy endings. I know, they are pretty opposite.
Jagermeister. Esperanto. Dive bars.

I love to travel. I've lived in a dozen states and I've traveled to a few countries. If I could live anywhere in the world it would either be right where I am in Shenandoah Valley, or in Evora, Portugal. I also really love East Grinstead and the Plains of San Augustin.

I don't own a tv. Reality tv scares the fuck out of me.
Six things I could never do without
My children. Laughter. Coffee. Poetry. Music.

I realize that only comes to five. But I have a lot of children, so really the least I could do is give them 2 spots in my list of things I can't live without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
dignity and fairness for all human beings. Basically... don't contact me if you're into using porn or going to strip clubs. I shouldn't even have to say this, right?

For anyone I would be truly interested in, you should be so far outside THAT box that this would be a waste of keystrokes for me to type this. But seriously, for the rest of you, if you're into using women that way, just don't even contact me. It won't be pretty.

Watch this

and this explanation by Russell Brand.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably at home. I have a genetic condition that will not shorten my lifespan but does cause disability - mostly pain and fatigue. I need a lot of downtime. If I overdo it, the fatigue sets in and it can take a few days in bed to recover.

Sometimes in a bad spell, I need to use crutches - or a wheelchair, if I'm out for an extended period with a lot of walking like at a museum, the airport, or even shopping. It's embarrassing and I hate it, but so it goes. I'm getting used to it, but also hopeful that I'll have another upswing and get put the crutches away again for a few years.

I don't "look sick". Actually, the condition causes me to have very soft skin and look younger than I am - but sometimes I feel 80 years old. I guess it's a tradeoff. heh
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was born with six fingers on each hand. (But I don't still have them.)

I'm what the Hungarian called a táltos. Actually, yeah.
You should message me if
... you're not in a hurry. I'm dealing with these health issues, and not getting out a lot. At all. This condition cycles, though, so surely it's not a permanent situation, but I feel I should put it out there.

... you can deal with complexity. Lots and lots of it. If you can't stand overanalytical and emotional women, then move on to the next profile. I like to figure things out, and I feel things really deeply... you don't have to be that way - and it's better if you're not. But you have to be able to tolerate it.

... you have a definite preference for curves. I really don't want to date a guy who thinks I have a pretty face, so will put up with or try to ignore my overly abundant curves. I really much prefer dating men who love the curves as they are. This is important to me.

... you like to analyze, and you like to make your own decisions.

... you naturally live by the philosophy of Ubuntu (the African philosophy, not the operating system.) This is important, too.
The two of us