And real brilliance in a man - coupled with the kind of courage that allows one to think outside all the boxes and examine oneself and life from every angle - is endlessly fascinating to me.
My 14 yo son told me I'm weird, nerdy, and funny in the same way that Tina Fey is weird, nerdy, and funny. I thought, "that's the coolest compliment I've ever gotten."
Once I am comfortable with people, I'm usually pretty funny. My friends say I'm "clever". I'm generally calm and easy to please. I'm happy when the people around me are happy.
I'm into what others might consider "weird religions". Currently studying Kabbalah. I love it. I love to be around people also studying these things, but all I really require in a relationship is a man intelligent enough to understand me, and who is really, really kind. The older I get, the more important kindness in others seems.
I've been very active in Kiva, and encourage everyone to try it. Since we all share this planet together, I think it's important that we take responsibility for one another. I have no interest in people who don't take an active role in bettering this planet. A little less Ayn Rand, and a little more Ubuntu, please.
I have very strong values, and I am committed to them. I stand up for the underdog, won't eat chocolate unless I am as certain as I can be that no 9-year-old slave harvested the cocoa in it, and I am really nice to people.
The only real exception to that is if I see someone victimizing someone who is defenseless. Or an adult being mean or rude to one of my kids. I can get kind of vicious then. Like the time the employees at Borders had to separate me from this nasty little man they were afraid I was going to assault. I had my reasons.
I guess you can add that exception to my "always nice" rule. I'm not ALWAYS nice. I'm INFJ. The J stands for judging. I suppose we can be assholes, too, but only if we really think you deserve it.
I don't spend a lot of time outdoors. I am dealing with some chronic pain-and-fatigue issues, so if you're looking for someone to go hiking and camping and mountain climbing with, I'm not the one for you. Move along... ;)
Authors: Austen, Charlotte Bronte, Laura Kinsale. Rumi. Vonnegut. N.K. Jemisin.
Poems: Desiderata, Song of Myself. The World, by Vaughan.
Movies: Idiocracy, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Wings of Desire. Metropolis. Rocky Horror Picture Show. Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Heroes: Mr. Rochester from Jane Eyre, Thomas Marshal from Ironclad, Mikael Blomkvist in Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (Swedish version)
Dystopian stories and historical romances with happy endings. I know, they are pretty opposite.
Guinness on tap. Esperanto. Dive bars.
I love to travel. I've lived in a dozen states and I've traveled to a few countries. If I could live anywhere in the world it would either be right where I am in Shenandoah Valley, or in Evora, Portugal. I also really love East Grinstead and the Plains of San Augustin.
I don't own a tv. Reality tv scares the fuck out of me.
I realize that only comes to five. But I have a lot of children, so really the least I could do is give them 2 spots in my list of things I can't live without.
For anyone I would be truly interested in, you should be so far outside THAT box that this would be a waste of keystrokes for me to type this. But seriously, for the rest of you, if you're into using women that way, just don't even contact me. It won't be pretty.
and this explanation by Russell Brand.
Sometimes in a bad spell, I need to use crutches - or a wheelchair, if I'm out for an extended period with a lot of walking like at a museum, the airport, or even shopping. It's embarrassing and I hate it, but so it goes. I'm getting used to it, but also hopeful that I'll have another upswing and get put the crutches away again for a few years.
I don't "look sick". Actually, the condition causes me to have very soft skin and look younger than I am - but sometimes I feel 80 years old. I guess it's a tradeoff. heh
I'm what the Hungarian called a táltos. Actually, yeah.
... you can deal with complexity. Lots and lots of it. If you can't stand overanalytical and emotional women, then move on to the next profile. I like to figure things out, and I feel things really deeply... you don't have to be that way - and it's better if you're not. But you have to be able to tolerate it.
... you support gay marriage. It's just one of those issues that's important and fundamental enough to me that I know if you don't, there would be too many other points of contention. I don't even really want to be friends with people who would deny my gay friends the right to marry.
... you have a definite preference for curves. I really don't want to date a guy who thinks I have a pretty face, so will put up with or try to ignore my overly abundant curves. I really much prefer dating men who love the curves as they are. This is important to me.
... you like to analyze, and you like to make your own decisions.
... you naturally live by the philosophy of Ubuntu (the African philosophy, not the operating system.) This is important, too.