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My self-summary
"When you come to a fork in the road, take it" (Yogi Berra). I have taken a lot of forks in the road. I'm 59, in good physical shape, an urban intellectual with a lot of fancy wallpaper that I keep in the armoire. Someone once said I have style in an old-fashioned new-fangled way. Reading minds is not my superpower. Reading books might be. I'm in an open, transparent relationship, am ruthlessly honest but, I hope, compassionate. I’m, shall we say, highly sexually adventurous. I’m culturally Jewish and a rather erratic Zen practitioner. My politics are idiosyncratically hard left and feminist. I don't care what yours are, but if Trump is your thing, we’re not a good fit. I have way too much stuff but I prefer people and travel, ideally travel with people. I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, and mostly eat vegetarian. In short, I myself am strange and unusual.

If you Like me and want to communicate, you have to send me a message, as I cannot tell you have Liked me in order to message you.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to figure out what I'm doing with my life.
I’m really good at
Constructing and taking apart complicated arguments. Telling jokes with a dry sense of humor. Procrastinating. Learning new things. Shopping (unfortunately I do like to shop). My work.
The first things people usually notice about me
A woman I'd never met in person until a while ago said her first impression of me was that I was worldly, stylish, reserved, intriguing, accommodating, absent-minded, measured, and a flaneur (a "stroller of urban boulevards in search of erotic or other adventure"). A male friend I've known for a while said I present as stylish, intelligent, and pleasant. There's a common thread running through this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A gay friend once remarked,"You love musical theater and opera and care about dressing well. Are you sure you're straight?" (Reasonably sure, but not narrow). I read politics, economics, history, classics, books with footnotes. I'm a nerd, I suppose. Not so much fiction unless it's science fiction or mystery. I listen to everything from Dylan through Miles and Bach, to Lauryn Hill. I have pictures of Sarah Vaughan, Helen Merrill, and Ellington and Ella on my walls, and a poster from a Sondheim show (Into the Woods, since you asked). Also Bettie Page, but you could have guessed that. I like black and white classics, movies with subtitles, exploding car films, but not "heartwarming" or "uplifting" movies or TV. I love good food, am too lazy to cook fancy, will eat just about anything but fast food, and prefer vegetarian.
Six things I could never do without
My family (kids, grandkid, sisters, in-laws), intelligent conversation, weird sex, high-end leather, Katz's Deli on the Lower East Side (I am an imperfect vegetarian). Hope -- the last thing in the box.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
See item three above. (That's only partially a joke.) What can be done about the amount of cruelty and unnecessary suffering in the world. How to accept myself as I am _and_ be a better person. My work. What I'm going to do over the medium run. What I'm going to eat for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
My life is not organized so that weekends are especially different. But if the question is what I do for fun, aside from the obvious, it's more likely to be exploring interesting TV or movies and eating popcorn or going to a show or concert than loud parties. I was never a party animal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It's all pretty much said already. I don't have secrets. You can read my OKC answers, some of which are dated because there are a lot of them made over many years, but you'll get the general in more detail than you need.
You should message me if
You are an intelligent erotically adventurous, open-minded woman, not possessive. Brains and wit are hot. You're honest and will say what's on your mind. I can't guess, but I will listen without defensiveness. Being black would be a plus, but I care about people, not melanin content. Or you just think that someone as peculiar I am might make an interesting friend or partner. We should probably have at least a OKC mid-90s% match.
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