53St. Louis, United States
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My self-summary

I want to live life, and live it in an authentic way. I'm looking for creative, authentic, kind, thoughtful people to share the experience with. I wouldn't mind if a relationship/connection became sexual/romantic but there are many ways to experience connection and share experience I prefer letting the character of the relationship grow organicaly without preconceived ideas of what should take place.
I have alot i love about my life, not that its a perfect world, i am sometimes lonely, sad anxious, depressed.... I feel I am learning how to take care of myself, it's a process.
I love my work and feel like i am incredibly lucky to have an amazing job doing massage right up the street from my house. The longer I have practiced massage the more I love doing it. I'm always looking for something new to add into the mix.
I'm very independent in ways, but i'm not against someone opening that door for me, or fixing that drip.

I like living in St Louis for the most part. (Not that i would complain about having a beach or mountain or island as a second home. At this point though, I think I should start looking for real estate in another galaxy. We are in for some big changes here on Earth me thinks.
I bought my 120 year old house almost 20 years ago and totally love it. South City has gotten to be such a fun place to live.
I ride a bike all over the place. I try not to drive. So if it's not raining I'm supposed to ride. If it's 15 degrees out i'm still riding and sometimes overdressed. I love to ride, it's a thrill. It gets me out in the elements and makes me feel alive. I'm not one of those people who feel they need to stop for lights if its not necessary. II know it pisses people off, but hey, get out of your car and ride.

I love to run, or perhaps its more of a jog. It takes only once around the park before i go from mad raving lunatic stress case, to ""no worries, it's all goooood".

I try not to buy new stuff as much as possible
Most all off my furniture/rugs came from the alley, thrift shop, or yard sale.
If i'm going to build something with lumber i can usually find what i need in the alley if i haven't already picked it up and stored it in my garage. Right now I'm building a greenhouse out of found lumber and reclaimed sliding glass (double paned) doors. Maybe i wont need a greenhouse? Is winter over forever?

I was playing tennis over the summer. I kind of suck but its such a fun social game and lots of sprinting.

I love to get out and hike/birdwatch
Shaw Nature Reserve at Gray Summit is one of my favorite places close to St Louis. Huzzah wildlife area is another, and only a 70 minute drive. Want to go out and hike with me?

I identify with being polyamorous but I don't really like labels unless they are defined in a relative way. Ive been facilitating .

I'm into freedom but also commitment, respect, compassion, honesty, openness, transparency, humor. I wouldn't mind finding a primary but I'm not really convinced that heirarchical labels fit with my belief system or are practical.
I like meeting new people though sometimes i go deep into hermit mode and like it there. I am open to creative authentic sharing of experience in various realms and manifestations. I am not hung up on relationships needing to follow a model, not that relationship models have nothing to offer.
I seek/ hope to meet lovely people and share experiences.

Want to go for a ride?
What I’m doing with my life
riding my bicycle
"playing" tennis
taking drum(set) lessons
building stuff in my yard
thrift shopping
sewing/altering clothes i find at the thrift shop
cruising the alley looking for the lumber for my current project
I’m really good at
Thinking outside the box,
Living outside the box
Altering clothes to suit my needs
Finding used furniture and lumber in the alley
Sewing alterations
Growing tons of basil
Finding an efficient way
Riding with no hands
Making it up as I go
The first things people usually notice about me
that I'm on a bike
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite meal at the moment is toasted bread served with side dishes of chopped raw garlic, fresh chopped greens from my garden (arugula, basil, chard, mustard), avocado, tomato, finely sliced red onion.
There is a small dish of olive oil sprinkled with salt and mixed with balsamic vinegar for dipping the bread in.
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to avoid buying things in plastic
what to wear on my next bike ride
what route to ride
who I can convince to come over and massage me and how fast they can get here
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading a book (fiction) in bed
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i pee in a can and dump it in the compost
i'd much rather pee outside than use a toilet.
I think it's sinful to wast water flushing pee when it is perfectly good compost material.
You should message me if
You want to make me smile
You are my soul mate
you are my soul mates' soul mate
You want to walk in the park and process your poly dilemmas

you want to play tennis and don't mind if I suck
you love to birdwatch
you want to give me a massage and I've met you first and like you
you want to go thrift shopping
you want to take a dance class with me (swing, ,...) and
you are not completely without rhythm or the money to pay your half of the tuition for the class
The two of us