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My self-summary
Visiting SoCal. Hello!

I tend to thrive on the margins. I like to keep people guessing. I like musicals and fashion and I wear pink pants and yet, I'm straight. I went to law school but I've never practiced law. I like to read sports journalism but I rarely watch sports. I go on dating sites, but mostly I just want new friends. (I'm not opposed to finding someone amazing who sets my heart aflutter, but it's not necessarily what I'm after.)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a papa to an eight year-old who likes puns.(My son, that is; i like puns too, esp really bad one, but that in sentence I was referring to my son.)

I work in an elementary school library. (Duh. What else would a person do with law degree?)

I'm trying to take advantage of this general upswing in my life.
I’m really good at
The first things people usually notice about me
My outfit. I like clothes. (And it shows.) I like to wear fun clothes and I'm usually a bit obsessive about my matching. I tend to wear awesome socks.

Note: on re-examining the above answer, I think it comes off as someone who is pretty full of himself. Not really. Trust me, I have an (un)healthy dose of self-loathing. Turns out, it's one of those "years of therapy" deals.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Caveat: I'm lousy at favorites. I'm much more of a context/mood/momentum person. With that in mind, these are some of the things I might be enjoying at any particular moment.

I'll read anything that holds my attention. At any given time, I'm probably reading 2-5 books. Or more. I tend to gravitate to one or two at a time based on my current proclivity. Or the ones that are near. Or that I can find.
Right now, I'm reading The Age of Entanglement: When Quantum Physics Was Reborn and The Uncoupling, Reconstructing Amelia, and The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives. Oh, I'm also reading The Secret Garden with my son. And the Al Capone Does My Shirts to the older kids at work. I'm often reading some non-fiction book about psychology or some Balkan history book or whatever else I pick up at the library or bookstore that looks interesting. Oh, and something from Target book section while when my son's playing in the toy section at target.

Grease (I just went to the sing-a-long at The Loft. Fun!) , Die Hard or some more current funny action-y movie, Blue Ruin, Margin Call, Carlos, Kill the Messenger. And The Breakfast
Club. I heart that movie. Moulin Rouge, too (that one tends to evoke strong feelings from people one way or another. What about you? Are you fer er agin?) With movies, I go in looking to be entertained. If I'm educated or moved or provoked--great. But my primary motive is entertainment, and that can be achieved in a number of ways.

If this means TV, then The West Wing is my all-time favorite (ok, sometimes, I do have faves!). Bringing my tastes a bit more into this century, I think Parenthood is really well done and Veep is hilarious. I don't have a TV, so I don't really keep up with that aspect of pop culture very well. I do Netflix, however.

If this means musicals or plays then, I'm up for almost anything and I especially like musicals (um, I think I mentioned this already). Some faves: Rent, Oklahoma, West Side Story, and Grease.

I tend to fall back on the stuff I grew up listening to. For me this means 80s music, hardcore/punk, and musicals. Lately, I've been trying to branch out a bit more listening to Florence & the Machine, The Lumineers, Regina Spektor, Bright Eyes. Bach is a favorite when I'm wired and need a visceral calming (if that's a thing). Also, I ran into a couple straight edge kids the other day and I think I'm going to go their show later this month. Good times. (Ok, that was a long time ago. But still.)

I like food. If it's vegan and well-prepared (or just sweet!) chances are I'll like it. When I'm not being lazy I like to cook and I'm pretty good at it.
Six things I could never do without
(It seems like there are a couple of ways to answer this. People tend to either list essentials that they could literally never live without, or they name the things they really dig. I'm going to fight my literalism and try and come up with six things that are super important or constant in my life.)

I really like words. I like learning new words, using descriptive words, reading, and writing. Also, they're key in communication.

Ok, this is an essential. True. But I also drink a lot of water and need to have it on hand whenever my son is thirsty. Also, lately I've been drinking water from a reverse osmosis system and it's kind of amazing. Plus, I live in the desert so--water.

This means bicycles. I ride a bike a lot. I mostly use it for transportation and have a trailer for my son. It's cheap, efficient, fun, environmentally-sensitive transportation.

This is an essential too, yes. But beyond just protection from the cold or sun, I like to have fun with my clothes and tend to use them as a creative outlet.

I nearly always carry a bag. It's a good place for my wallet, phone, snacks, a book, a notebook, bike stuff, a swimsuit and goggles (in case I want to go swimming), and whatever else I think might prove useful at any given time. Plus about 53 things that I haven't taken out even though they stopped being useful 7 months ago.

I'm a pretty cognitively-based person. I tend to think a lot about philosophy, worldviews, politics, and so on. I'd be wise to more often let go of all these thoughts and just experience life, but that's much easier said than done.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Please see above.
On a typical Friday night I am
That's true. On a typical Friday I am. (Deep, huh?)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The doctor who delivered me was named Dr. Deep. True story.
You should message me if
You think we'd have interesting conversations or fun together. Or both! That "new friends" category is real, I've made a couple awesome friends from these kinda things. I'm not opposed to something in the Love Connection realm. I'll explain more in two-and-two.
The two of us