Just out of an LTR. It didn't end in flames or anything, so I'd certainly consider myself emotionally available, but I figure it's good to disclose that here on internet so I don't have to awkwardly mention it on the first date.
My experience with non-monogamy has taught me that affection, generosity, nurturing and empathy are not finite resources (though sadly time and emotional energy are), so don't feel like I'm going to keep you at arm's length or be inconsiderate of your time and/or feelings.. if I am lucky enough to meet you, that is.
I'm also in the process of becoming the Dude Ina Garten of Ridgewood, Queens. It's going pretty well, I just need to get a few cookbooks, TV shows, and cookware lines under my belt.
Bicycle Riding (I'm a half decent wrench too)
Taking Public Transit in Foreign (and Domestic) Lands
Finding Stuff (The Secret is to Look Underneath Other Stuff)
Passing Tools to People
Capitalizing Most Words
A couple people have told me I'm reminiscent of Paul Rudd, but taller. A "Tall Rudd" if you will. Personally, I'd love for that to be true, but I just don't see it.
Movies: Enter the Void, Citizen Kane, Anything Chaplin but particularly Modern Times and The Great Dictator, Persona, Pi, Wild At Heart, The Hudsucker Proxy, Underground, There Will Be Blood, Tetsuo The Iron Man, Paprika, Batteries Not Included, Sid and Nancy, Down By Law, Forest Gump II: Bubba's Revenge, Anything Pixar except "Cars," which I just haven't seen (and could be missing out?).
Music: Arcade Fire, Islands, Matt and Kim, Sleighbells, Yeaysayer, The Talking Heads, Japanther, Dragonforce, Ninjasonik, Harry Nilsson... So Much... Too Much... But Somehow Never Enough!
Ramps (The wild, super-seasonal allium variant, not the thing people who are braver than me ride skateboards on)
My Family of Choice
The Alt-Right and How They Just Turned Our World Upside Down and Even the Smug Neoliberals Don't Know What to Make of It
The Uncanny Valley
When's Elon Musk Gonna Announce the "Arthur C. Clarke Memorial Space Elevator"?!
You want to exchange witty pheromones.
You would pay a street musician to stop playing Sublime (We can probably still date if you like Sublime, but not to the level that I have to ever hear it or acknowledge that it was once a thing. Sorry, I have my reasons for this and I'll gladly discuss in person).
You don't mind seasonal facial hair.
Oh, and here's a deal for those of you who may want to message me, but are suddenly overcome by writer's block (this happens to me quite a bit, and I can't be the only one): Feel free to write a very brief (even single word) message ending in "Mayonnaise." This is partly to test if you've closely read my profile, and partly to give you an out for aforementioned writer's block.
And in case you zipped right to the bottom of my admittedly lengthy profile, please keep in mind that I'm non-monogamous (or "poly" - though I find that to be an imperfect descriptor, so I don't usually use it). If that's not a deal breaker, then bless you, and let's get to know each other!
I will be more likely to message you first if we have a high match rating, AND it say's you're open to open-relationships.
In fact I won't message anyone who says they're not open to non-monogamy, out of respect and common sense. That being said, if you fall into the category of folks interested or open to non-monogamy, but don't want to announce it on your online dating profile because you don't want family, friends, co-workers, or enemies to potentially see it, I totally get that, and I encourage you to reach out if you want to date me.
I've started a google doc of date ideas that aren't "going to a bar". Please note, I'm not opposed to going to a bar, especially for a first date where the real question is "do we have chemistry?", and the location / context isn't quite as important. But I want to make myself more available for those who are sober, or just can't stand the crowdedness, loudness, and predictability of going to a bar. Again, I'm not painting all bars, and all dates-at-bars, with a broad brush here. In fact at press time (December 2016), I'm still smiling over a fantastic first date I had last week at a bar. So there. I'm not prejudiced against bars. End. Of Discussion. Well, if you're still reading this, you probably want to see that google doc, or base a zany sitcom character around me. Yes to both, but if it's the sitcom, I want royalties, please.
I should also mention I just (December, 2016) purged my inbox of a lot of messages. If you were one of them, please don't take offense. I was running low on inbox space and I might have gotten a little overzealous. So please feel free to reach out. All this inbox real estate I have now isn't gonna fill its self ;)