40El Cerrito, United States
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My self-summary
I'm originally from the East Coast (both the northern and southern ends!), but I've been living out here for 12 years now and absolutely love it. I really enjoy the work I do, I love hanging with my friends in the East Bay and the city, and I feel like I've got my proverbial "stuff" together.

I'm looking for the real-deal. Of course, I'm not averse to keeping it casual and having a little fun while I get to know someone, but I'm definitely dating with an eye for something potentially long-term.

As for the rest, let's see. I love my job, and I enjoy getting better at it. I'm easy to talk to and pretty open about myself. I'm equal parts serious and goofy. I'm passionate and attentive (enough to make your friends jealous), and I'm respectful and responsible (enough to make your parents like me). And if you can't tell from that last sentence, I like to try to be funny. (But damn it if it isn't hard to do in writing! I wish I could get David Sedaris to write my self-summary.)

What else? I do red wine over white. I prefer sarcasm, irony, and wit; if we don't have the banter, that's probably a deal-breaker. I like wit, intelligence, and I've got a little of the geek-chic thing going on. Oh, and there's a special place in my heart (and stomach) for chocolate covered raisins.
What I’m doing with my life
I teach high school English at a small private school. I absolutely love it: I get to re-read some of my favorite books all the time, I work with dynamic people that love thinking about and tweaking what we do, and it's great to introduce young adults to new ways of thinking. The down-side is all the grading, but at least I get summers off!

Outside of work I'm hanging out with friends. I enjoy hitting the bar, going dancing (anything from hip-hop to salsa to the random 80s party), throwing/attending a dinner party, or just chilling with a movie. I keep active by going to the gym after work, and I'm looking to have my first yoga experience sometime soon. I like reading for work and pleasure, and I'm hoping to experiment more in the kitchen.

This past few summers I got to spend some time in Barcelona working for a study abroad program designed for high school students. They come to the city and study for 4 weeks, while the deans and other administrators try to keep them busy and safe. I started as a Dean, and now I go back as the Director. I like to tell people I meet that "I summer in Barcelona." (So what if it's actually work?)

Having these summers abroad has really activated my travel bug. I've been to Rome, Florence, England, Paris, and Cuba.
I’m really good at
I'm good at talking things out. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve since I think it's a quicker way to come to an understanding with people. When there's an issue, I tend to approach it calmly and rationally, but I can also leave it alone for a while if it has me or someone else rankled.

I make people laugh. I'm good at using sarcasm and getting away with it. And I'm good at making my most gullible students believe almost anything; I once had a class convinced that dolphins communicate telepathically.

I like to think I'm a good cook, though I'm no gourmet. There are some dishes I'm really good at, but with everything else I like to improvise. I will say, though, that I make the best mojitos my friends have ever had.

I'm also really good at matching a dress shirt with a tie, when I have to.
The first things people usually notice about me
I guess that I'm easy to talk to and laid-back. Some have said I have nice eyes, though I tend to think they're just plain brown.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Wow, too many things to list here. How about the highlights?

Books: Invisible Man, Their Eyes Were Watching God, The Great Gatsby, How the Garcia Girls Lost their Accents, Narcissus and Goldmund

Movies: The Remains of the Day, "O", Best in Show, The Three Amigos, and a ton of probably unmentionable big summer blockbusters (even if I know they suck, I still enjoy some of them).

Music: There's a bunch I like, though I'm not good with artists. If it plays on Live 105, I probably like it. I also have a ton of 80s music; you never know when someone is gonna need a dance party.

Food: If it says "con queso," I love it. But my "favorite" foods are, luckily, all over the Bay: Mexican, Indian, Thai, and Italian top the list.
Six things I could never do without
Coffee, books, cheese, laughter, spices, and my friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How crazy some politicians (and their base) are getting.

What I want my backyard to look like at my first house (which I just moved in to).
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm either home having a chill evening by watching a little TV or catching a movie (alone or with a buddy), or I'm out in SF catching up with friends at a bar in the Mission or at someone's home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I co-wrote a paper on Buffy the Vampire Slayer (the series, not the movie!) that I presented with a co-worker at an actual conference. The title was "Caged and Tied: The Performative Nature of Violence in Buffy the Vampire Slayer."

What can I say? We got work to pay for our trip!
You should message me if
We'd probably get along well if you laugh out loud during The Daily Show, but also get angry at the crazy stuff you hear there sometimes.
The two of us