jay5966
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My self-summary
Here's what I'm going to do for you...

I'm going to be completely, and unabashedly, honest. I'm going to be a level of honest that frankly, people should charge for. (Because, let's face it, time is precious and I'm going to save you some right now...)

If you don't like honesty, proceed to the next doucher with shirtless photos and a cookie cutter BS profile.

Here we go...

A few dealbreakers to save you the trouble of reading any further: If you have a dozen photos of yourself taken in a sports bra in a mirror, showing off the only thing you have to offer, please stop reading. Likewise, if you wrote three lines about yourself because you think your LOOKS alone will carry you, get out of here now. Intelligent, witty girls are sexy in my book.

And speaking of books, if you've never picked one up, move along. I'm an author, and I love words, and that means I love reading and listening to the words of others. You don't have to be an Emerson or Wilde, but for the love of God, know who they are please. It may come up in conversation, and it would really help. If all you have to talk about is 'Teen Mom' or Godd#&&@ Kim Kardashian, I will literally excuse myself from the table to go hang myself in the restroom with my own belt!

I don't think I'm asking anyone to find me a Loch Ness monster here, but honestly...it seems like finding someone who is interesting and genuine is near impossible. I'm really not that hard to get along with, I just have expectations of people...and standards.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a writer, storyteller and author; those are all different categories. I'm presently working on my second and third novels concurrently, which doesn't leave me a lot of free time (hence the premium I put on time). With what's left, I also work a full time job, and I'm a father. It doesn't need to be said that my child is a priority - if your children aren't priority, we might not get along.
I’m really good at
Writing, talking, and listening. I can make people laugh, I'm witty and ready to snap some sarcasm out there. Don't take it the wrong way, and if you do...well you might be a little too uptight for me anyway. I know a million useless facts (History buff/major) but I won't bore you to death unless you ask me to. I am a good friend and a great father. I'm usually the "center of the room" in social situations, but I can also go "low key" and just hang out one-on-one pretty well.
The first things people usually notice about me
My laugh, my eyes, and personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books? Dracula, HP Lovecraft, Brian Lumley, Richard Matheson. Movies? OMG too many! Anything that tells a good story and has good actors (no, Keanu Reeves is NOT an actor, nor is Will Smith or J. Timberlake) Harrison Ford is an actor, Anthony Hopkins is an actor, and Gary Oldman is an actor. See also: Cary Grant, Rock Hudson, Gregory Peck, Elizabeth Taylor,etc...

Music? Nothing mainstream preferably. Most of my CDs are 80s and 90s, and a mix of groups like Depeche Mode, U2, The Cure, Tears For Fears...you get the idea.

Food? Love Irish and English foods, as well as continental and Chinese. Will try anything once.
The six things I could never do without
My children, pen and paper, my humor, beautiful words, optimism, and whomever is watching out for me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My life...and plot lines for the next novels :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Things you cannot imagine. Just kidding. There's no fixed Friday night for me, and if there was, then it would be a bore.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I still believe that there are good people out there.
You should message me if
If you can hold a good convo, aren't looking for your latest "hookup" and you're deeper than the shallow end of a kiddie pool, I'm interested in what you have to say. I think I was most clear on this part, and shouldn't need a revisit. Let me add some things...

Know how to communicate and don't be a flake. If you can't actually handle a conversation and rely entirely on texting (don't get me wrong, I do my share, but come on) I don't think I can deal with you, sorry. Also, the 'oh I can talk all day but not after six mysteriously' doesn't work either. Go talk to your husband or live-in, thanks.

And one last thing; I know I said I want sophisticated and intelligent, but I also think it's not unfair to ask for attractive. Not supermodel, just cute would do. Everyone else gets to make their mail order requests for dream guys who are 6'5", ripped, tanned, gorgeous (I'm sure that guy will be contacting you any day now, ladies...), so, why can't I just ask for mildly attractive?

I don't expect lots of responses, but the few I get will hopefully not make me despise my choice to come back here. Best of luck!
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