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My self-summary
Too daunting, ask questions. Btw, that's not a horribly conceited user name; someone in the room asked if they could call me "Jay" when I happened to be choosing a name here and my reply was...
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to enjoy it, being there for and helping people I care about, doing things that I think are meaningful, starting new projects or seeing through what I have going on (work, volunteering, etc). I'm entrepreneurial and pretty driven (by successful outcomes not greed)... Not taking myself to seriously. Being ambivalent about NY (I've lived here off and on since being a kid so...) I'm trying to stick w NY though after LA (CA), VA, DC area, So FL, New England and short periods in the Middle East and London; need to settle/be rooted a little.
I’m really good at
Seeing the better (and often the humorous) side of things. Seeing possibilities and strengths in situations and people. Picking up or making varied and obscure references. Finding ways to help people accomplish what they want to. Adjusting to whatever. Listening.
The first things people usually notice about me
Really you'd have to ask them. That I have freckles perhaps. I hope not though and they are not that noticeable. I'd like to say that I am genuinely interested in what people are thinking, feeling, etc. and that comes across. And I'm often trying to repress an inappropriate smile, laugh or joke.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books, I can't hurt a lot of books' feelings by choosing favorites but I'm a huge reader. Can't go wrong with classics. But also journals, blogs, lit mags, etc. Less so these days than formerly- time constraints and it's better to live life than read it. Incidentally, I also write- essays, short stories, poems, novels- and was in journalism for a brief time.

The same holds with film but I'm not a serious film geek...

Television is easier because I don't watch much- 30 Rock, Arrested Development, Chapelle Show, Borgias, Family Guy, Catherine Tate Show, South Park, Eastbound and Down, All Creatures Great and Small (I lived on a farm for a while in an out of the way, time forgotten and very picturesque community and this reminds me of it). The occasional PBS fare, you know Masterpiece Theater- I'm that person who is disappointed when an Evelyn Waugh book is badly interpreted in film and says wistfully, "It was better with Jeremy Irons" *shameface*. Southern Cal (USC) and Cornell college football and track when it's on. Occasionally "period" series.

Lianne La Havas and How to Dress Well are getting play at this instant (take off a manly-man stripe). The following by mood: Chillwave/Glo-fi, R&B, Older Salsa and Cuban genres, Old School Hip Hop, New Wave/New Rom, Southern and Classic Rock, Jam Bands, Country, Reggae, Soca, Classical, Grunge, Glam-Funk, Funkadelic, Yacht Rock...

Food- really varied but I haven't done Vietnamese despite many entreaties and advice to; I feel I need to leave something unexplored and that's what I selected. Yes, I can cook, in a manly-man way...
Six things I could never do without
Family and friends (not things I know). Um mobile phone, bottled water, earphones for music, passport... More non-object things. I'll say, laughter, ideas, projects, communication. See I did extra when not limited to objects.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
World peace. Seriously, who does an inventory of their thinking? Ah, all the people who answered this question. Guess I'm not as self aware as I assumed. But I do think a lot about culture, politics, sociology, philosophy and religion, history, economics... I was a political analyst for a while (international focus, Middle East and Latin America- variation), and worked in academia- there is a huge geek lurking underneath but I think it's well covered up. I'm analytical by nature. I'm sure I think of less heavy subjects much more than anything else.
On a typical Friday night I am
"He drinks a whisky drink, He drinks a vodka drink, He drinks a lager drink, He drinks a cider drink, He sings the songs that remind him of the good times, He sings the songs that remind him of the better times." Just kidding.

Out with friends (I'm surrounded by bars restaurants, galleries, etc so why not), catching up on work, in transit for a quick vacation w friends / getting out the city (split my time in DC travel for work), reading, catching up on sleep, in that order.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
First time filling something like this out but I'm big on meeting new people (don't want to go through life knowing prep school, college and fraternity buddies, work friends and the random people I chatted up over the years.) The people who have contacted me and met in this very short period are really interesting, far more so than I would have imagined and more so than I encounter otherwise. New friends are a good thing...
You should message me if
Conditions on saying, "hello" to me are too much; that's no judgment of those who are more, um, focused. I'm genuinely doing the friendship and networking thing, not looking for luv. Hope that's ok. Comment on what I've posted, share something about yourself, ask about anything, discuss any topic,- I'll definitely return any message. If I forget to blame my head... Feel free to follow up.

I'm probably not going to initiate convo not b/c I'm an ass but because I put up a bunch of stuff so you can determine how reprehensible I'll be and save yourself the time. (j/k) I do wait for others, but when I actually initiate contact it is usually in the form that anyone does in social media or real life, i.e. a quick comment or question that may not be all that serious; forgive me if there are other expectations with this that I do not meet okay. ;-) Best.
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