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My self-summary
(Long profile is long, but I can't bring myself to shorten it. I really dig all of it in its 2200+ word glory.)

I grew up bilingual and carry citizenship to a country I’ve never lived in and am only now starting to learn the language of. Originally from Germany, I spent most of my adult life in English speaking countries, and circumstances recently brought me back to London, where I used to live when I was younger.

I’m quirky. That is to say, I’m goofy, a little stubborn, a little scattered, not nearly as mature as most people my age and I hope that never changes. We build up so many barriers around ourselves out of fear of getting hurt if we expose our true self that we forget that just because you’re being a little silly and doing something against the norm, it doesn’t mean you can’t still live a healthy, balanced and even productive life.

I am endlessly fascinated by life and all its diversity and easily distracted by something new to read up on or try. I have a pretty optimistic outlook in life. Even when things aren’t going as you planned, there’s so many opportunities out there just waiting for you. I don’t believe in luck. Rather, I believe in serendipity, and opening your eyes to the new opportunities lurking out there.

I’m incapable of holding a grudge. Sure, I have a few hot button issues an I might sulk and withdraw if things get too heated, but I’d much rather celebrate our differences or get out of the way entirely when we just don’t see eye to eye, than waste any precious energy on prolonged hostility or animosity. I’m a big believer in honesty. I’d rather get something out there, than letting it fester.

I used to be quick to call myself a nerd/geek in descriptions like this. Sure, I check all the usual boxes: Video games, gadgets, the Internet, tech early adopter, Sci-fi (and science fiction), even some comic books. While I’m not ashamed to admit my geeky and nerdy tendencies, I like to think I can put them on hold long enough to interact and hold a conversation with people who don’t share the same niche interests as me. There’s more to life out there, and I don’t want to pigeonhole myself.

There’s times when I can take a little while to warm up. I used to think I was introverted, but now I’m not so sure anymore. I might just be terrible at small talk with new people. Once I start to get to know someone a little, and uncover their interests, I’m quite comfortable around them. I love discovering that someone shares that same quirky (there goes that word again) passion as you, or having them provide me with a fresh perspective that I might not have considered before.

I probably don’t act my age. I may not go to wild and crazy parties or drinking several nights a week, but I don’t feel like I’m nearly ready to ‘settle down’ (whatever that means) either. There’s still so much to see, do and experience.

I've been on a bit of a question rampage lately and even going back and filling out comments on more of them. Do check those out (but get your mind out of the gutter for a little while and don't just check out the naughty ones!)

That's enough about me. What makes you tick?
What I’m doing with my life
Work wise, I’m a product manager in the tech/gaming industry, where I work for a startup that connects game developers with charities for fundraising. I also care deeply about curated content and want to figure out a way for people to get to know their city (starting with London) better with events to their liking or telling them about new things they never thought they might like.

I moved back to London a couple of years ago, after an extensive stay in the US (New York and California). Right now, I live with a bunch of international flatmates in Hackney, East London. It’s been good for me to have some folks from other walks of life around me, after spending so much time in an insular crowd of video gamers from my old job (California peeps: I still love you guys!).

After spending all that time in the US and having to return back to Europe, I’ve finally come to the conclusion location doesn’t matter as much as being comfortable with yourself, not letting your skills atrophy, surrounding yourself with a few good friends and never losing your sense of wonder. Along with moving to a new country (again) comes putting together a new social circle, tweaking your career and a fresh chance at rebooting your life. That includes doing slightly scary things like online dating.

I’m rediscovering the city by taking lots of walks and bike rides, exploring different neighborhoods, especially Hackney, Shoreditch, Dalston and Tower Hamlets, how they connect and soaking up all the experiences London has to offer. Love walking down Regent's Canal. Still waiting to get my ‘real’ road bike out of storage though. Stupid Boris bikes. Can’t go any decent speed and the docking stations end too soon.

I also spend a lot of time in book stores, just browsing new releases, even though I've been terrible lately at finishing the books I start reading.

I also want to check out more museums. Back to the Science Museum, more British Museum, Natural History Museum, V&A and the Museum of London, but also some of the lesser known ones!

Most recently, I’ve been taking more Instagram pics, which has helped get me to new parts of the city. Other times, I just stay inside and have a whole lazy weekend. But it’s all the more fun to be lazy together with someone else.

I saw a decent part of Europe when I was younger, but now that it’s back on my doorsteps, I hope there’s some more travelling in my future. I’ve been reading more about the Roman Empire lately, and want to explore Italy more after a recent trip there.

My beard and I recently celebrated our one year anniversary (sorry beard, I didn't get you anything!). I think it's a keeper. And I recently purchased a whole new line of socks. Mmmm, new socks...

So... that’s going on in my life.
I’m really good at
Busting out pop culture references and then looking around, hoping people got it.

Riding a bike without my hands. Just not crappy Boris bikes.

Dissecting and solving other people’s problems and yet somehow never listening to my own advice.

Doing things on the Internet that nobody knew existed (or needed) 15 years ago.

Interrupting people when a thought pops into my head.

Building sentries in Team Fortress 2. Or setting people on fire. This is a video game reference. I don't actually burn people. Nerds are sexy!
The first things people usually notice about me
‘Is he American? His name doesn’t sound it. Where is that accent from then?’

I’ve been known to talk fast. And never quite be able to tame my hair unless it’s really short.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'll be updating this section more often as I steel ideas from other people's profiles... err, I mean as I'm reminded by other people about the things I like.

Books: Alternate history, science fiction (robots, Mars, time travel, space opera), Isaac Asimov, anything on neuroscience. History, especially Ancient Rome. Perpetually planning on reading Game of Thrones, because I can't wait for the next season (suck it, Joffrey). The saddest book I ever read was The Time Traveler's Wife. I really want to read more Carl Sagan and Stephen Hawking, but... oh... shiny thing!

I'm a bad book reader though, even though all my gadgets have the Kindle app installed. I love going to a book store and checking out new releases (Forbidden Planet! Piccadilly Waterstone's but also small indie ones), but I can't buy any more books because I've got like 10 books at once going right now.

Movies: Primer (still don't fully understand it), Much Ado About Nothing, Star Wars (all of them; but Han shot first, totally), The Man From Earth (look this one up if you haven't seen it), Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Contact, (Why build one when you can build two at twice the price?), Memento, Office Space. Equal parts indie/artsy films, and films with explosions, car chases, long gunfights and aliens (invading and benevolent). Anything mind bending and with a twist (I can't watch Seven again though now).

TV shows: Doctor Who, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Buffy, Archer, Bob's Burgers, The Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, New Girl, South Park, Sons of Anarchy, The Office, Elementary, Futurama, anything with Louis CK, The League, Sherlock, Peep Show, The IT Crowd, Luther, Red Dwarf, Mythbusters, The West Wing, The Newsroom, The Wire, Star Trek (all of it).

Music: Pixies, Nightwish, Skrillex, Rage Against The Machine, Dresden Dolls, Michael Bublé, Queen, Madeleine Peyroux.

I have a pretty eclectic music taste. Indie, electronic, rock, alternative, classical, jazz, punk, folk, foreign... As I scroll through my iTunes library though, I'm thinking I don't want this section to be all 'Look at me! I like all these cool artists!'.

Food: Thai, Indian, Greek, Italian, sushi, the occasional German now and then to remind me of my youth. Steak! Nutella, chocolate from all over the world (Eat ALL THE CHOCOLATES!). A good cream cheese bagel. Mexican (real and US). Love a good food truck or street food experience (OMG, Brick Lane Boiler House, I want to eat all your foods!). I went through a multi-year stretch not eating red meat, but don't think I can do it again. Cheeseburger's finally won me other (Mmmm, Byron's burgers!).

I enjoy trying something new, although I will draw the line at insects.

Drinks: Why is there no drinks section? I'm totally adding this one. Coffee, margaritas, Guinness, some other beers, especially of they're craft beers or fused with something different like fruit, chocolate or caffeine. The occasional green tea or other tea. Not ashamed to admit that I like some girly drinks once and a while too. I don't understand the whole world of fine liquors much at all though. I like a lot of my alcohol masked. We used to drink Jägermeister at err... office 'functions' (OK, LAN parties) a lot. It was a mistake. Nobody should drink Jägermeister ever. Mistakes were definitely made, and I have the scar to prove it.

Internet: Cat videos (including Simon's Cat, Questionable Content, Hacker News, TED talks, XKCD.
Six things I could never do without
Unbound curiosity.
Access to a bicycle.
My unruly, mischievous streak
Podcasts, books or audio books to feed my brain with.
The internet and mobile devices that connect me to it (The internet has ruined my brain, and now I’m stuck with it).
Coffee. Seriously. I had a whole joke in here about a giant robot with lasers and a flamethrower, but had to ditch it to make room for coffee.
People who break the rules and add a 7th thing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...when I can have a pet again and if it's feasible to have both a cat and a dog (Golden Retriever or Labrador).
...if I’ll still have the same outlook on life when I’m 90.
...how long it might take to walk all the streets of London.
...China: how's that whole thing going to work out in the long run?
...Entropy and the inevitable heat death of the Universe. Even if we can figure this whole China thing out, I don't think this one can be solved.
...how honest to be on my OKCupid profile before people have eve had a chance to message with me.
...if I’ve just been talking too much.
...when to just shut the fuck up, stop overanalyzing and just live.
- itemizing lists with ellipses or dashes
On a typical Friday night I am
More likely to be at home than not. Sometimes out and about, people watching in the city, catching a movie or just having a nice cooking session and meal with the flatmates.

But that’s partly why I’m here, isn’t it? To do more. I don’t mind going out, it just helps to have someone to get up to no good with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I find smiling difficult. This makes me look a bit grumpy at times, but it doesn't reflect my nature. More of a grinner than a smiler.

I'm also slightly intimidated by people's profiles here that lead way more active lives than me (and oddly get recommended as matches).
You should message me if
...you know a nice, quiet coffee shop where you’d like to get to know someone new without having to shout over loud music (even though you’re not averse to loud music).

...you can be a goofball who doesn’t take life completely seriously, but still have goals.

...you’re browsing OKCupid on a Saturday night instead of doing something.

...you’re looking for a partner in crime. I love that term.

...you're open to the possibility of a longer term relationship with the right person, but realize that short term, that means meeting a few different people to see if you click and having fun along the way, finding that out.

...you think there’s still so much of London you haven’t gotten to know, or love revealing your own cherished discoveries to others.

...you’ve ever done something after you’d been procrastinating over it for ages and then thought ‘Hey, that was fun, why didn’t I do that earlier?’

...you’re a believer in serendipitous outcomes deriving from infinite diversity in infinite combinations (especially if you get the reference).
The two of us