35 Walnut Creek, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a gregarious person who loves new experiences and connecting with people. I hope to stay open, always learn, and strive to connect with the person in front of me, not hide behind usually limited assumptions. Mystery with a Big M is where I like to place myself in how I live my life and relate to others.
What I’m doing with my life
Having moved from Nashville, TN, to Boston, MA, to currently living in The Bay, I'm having fun embracing the fullness of the diversity that is life, both the good and the pain-in-the-ass aspects of it, which are often one and the same. I am an Episcopal Priest (yes I can get married and yes sex is totally acceptable) who is wholly committed to building safe spiritual community, not the ridiculous rules and dogma that continue to plague religion. I also play guitar and sing backup in Whirl, a female-fronted alt-rock/power pop band. Look for us on www.whirlmusic.com. Along with that I have my own project AltaregO and getting into the groove of my first job out of grad school, and loving it.
I’m really good at
singing, playing guitar, getting to know people and seeing the good in them, articulating my perspectives, listening, writing, laughing, challenging either/or's to become both/and's.
The first things people usually notice about me
is my hair, my smile, the way I carry myself, my laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Lilith by George MacDonald; Harry Potter Series; His Dark Materials Trilogy by Phillip Pullman; With Head and Heart by Howard Thurman, Les Miserables by Victor Hugo, The Courage to Be by Paul Tillich, Making Social Worlds by Barnett Pearce, Immunity to Change by Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey, Paul Was Not A Christian by Pamela Eisenbaum, The Misunderstood Jew: The Church and the Scandal of the Jewish Jesus by Amy-Jill Levine.
Movies: Princess Bride, Kingdom of Heaven, LOTR, Saved, Dogma, Pirates of the Caribbean, Team America: World Police, Trainspotting, Blood Diamond, and more.
TV: Daily Show, The New Girl, Grimm, Undateable, iZombie, Once Upon A Time, Firefly, Dr. Who, Arrow.
Music: Smashing Pumpkins, Tool, Better Than Ezra, Florence & the Machine, Led Zeppelin, Black Crowes, Hans Zimmer, Norah Jones, U2, the Cure, Sevendust, Santana, the band called The Tea Party (NOT the political group!), Suicide Queen, Celldweller, Bat for Lashes, the occasional Jack Johnson and Jason Mraz, and so many more. Check out farfromtheremusic.com if you want to hear some of my own stuff. I welcome criticism. :)
Food: I'll admit my southern roots make me a fan of a good steak dinner, I love all mediterranean foods, sushi, indian food, pizza, pretty much anything, though still working up to Vegan food.
The six things I could never do without
My guitars, music in general, good conversation, honest direct communication, good friends, things that make me smile/laugh.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
spirituality, philosophy, how to communicate with/teach people, making the world a better place, what to do for fun when I have free time.
On a typical Friday night I am
grabbing drinks with friends, hitting up the city, playing a gig with my current band Whirl (check us out at whirlmusic.com or on Pandora!), seeing live music or dancing on occasion.
You should message me if
you are self-confident, independent, willing to communicate directly, see conflict as growth trying to happen not a problem to be avoided, open to new ways of seeing the world, self-aware, love life in all its windings, open to redefining organized religion from a standpoint of beloved community rather than institutional hierarchy, and energized by quality time and conversation. I want to be with someone who blows me away with a brilliant mind as well as the childlike wonder at the world that makes you feel you'll burst from all the excitement life has to offer.