40 Grand Rapids, United States
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My self-summary
How does one go about summing oneself up? Why did I phrase that as if I were British royalty?

I consider myself to be intellegent, quick witted, fiercy loyal, a pretty good listener, and an introvert with extroverted tendencies.

I am more of a city/ indoor person. I have done things like camping and hiking, but tend to shy away from them because those things happen in places where bears live. Lakes and stuff are cool to sit by, but doing stuff in them freaks me out because they are fish toilets. I also don't like to run.

Stories are super important to me. I thrive on times when I go back and forth with my friends trading stories. I have a few good ones, and quite frequently I find myself relaying my friends' stories to other people. It's funny, because most people might consider their lives to be a failure being in their mid-thirties with no wife, kids, or amazing career, but I feel my life has been amazing for the people I have gotten to know and the stories I have told, heard, and been a part of over the years.

I have been single for a long time, but it has definitely been a choice I've made. I'm at the point now where I'm ready for a change. I want to meet a woman who fascinates me, and continues to do so for as long as I know her. I want to meet someone who I can talk with for hours and not even realize the time has flown by. Someone to laugh with and create new memories with. Maybe I want too much...
What I’m doing with my life
Still trying to figure that bit out. I have lots of ideas of how to make an impact on this world, but loads of self doubt that keeps me from taking the first step.
I’m really good at
Laughing, making people laugh, telling stories, and storing and recalling trivia.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my laugh(s). Physically? I have no idea.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: mostly non-fiction. I usually am reading about three books at a time. Mostly history or biographies. Favorites include Our Band Could Be Your Life, The Road, Devil in the White City, Blood and Thunder.

movies: Take Shelter, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Let the Right One In, True Romance, The Road, Control, About Time, Ex Machina, Frank, Predestination

shows: Fringe, Vikings, Freaks and Geeks, The Mighty Boosh, Doctor Who (although, I will contend that Tom Baker was the only real Doctor)

podcasts (they're kind of like shows) : Rachel and Miles X-plain The X-Men (holy crap, I'm addicted)

music: As varied as it gets. Mostly stuff that is nowhere near mainstream (although I love bands that follow the pop formulas). My main points of interest these days are: British music, Black Metal, Hip Hop, Noise, Hard Core, Pop punk, late 90's emo, Biffy Clyro, etc. Music is the most important thing in my world, so I love checking it all out. As important as it is to me, I'm not looking for someone who likes the same stuff as I do. Just know that if you are way into John Mayer, I would be a good one to avoid. I just never want to be dragged along to one of his concerts (it's my only real deal breaker). Wait, can I change my answer to Gin Blossoms? I love Gin Blossoms.

food: Chicago-style hot dogs (the relish needs to be authentic). I am also a big fan of anything that has peanut butter in it.
The six things I could never do without
good food
sports (Especially ice hockey)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...alternate realities. It's not that I avoid reality, it is just interesting to think about what life would be like based on different choices I have made and have been made around me. Lately, my thoughts along these lines have been about how every moment in my life has led to this moment. Your life events have led you to this point as well (reading my silly profile on OkCupid! :P).

I've also spent some time thinking about why cultural norms are what they are. Why do people scream when they are afraid or applaud when they approve of something or smooch when they are into somebody of the opposite sex? How did those things become what we do? Why not something else? Humans are weird.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recovering from working a lot of hours. Saturday nights, though? Oh boy. I'm usually...not doing much. I'm just not a "go out to the bar" kind of guy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
These pretzels are making me thirsty.
You should message me if
...you read something here that made you smile.

...you don't want to go camping.

...you are as cool as Kim Deal.