I think my guiding principles are empathy, long-term thinking, kindness, and Oxford commas. On the theme of long-term thinking, sustainability is (quixotically) a big deal to me (Ask me about the utility-scale photovoltaic industry!). I engage in conspicuous non-consumption. I am not a fan of either masculinity or femininity.
Also very important: I know it's difficult for women to feel safe in hetero dating. I care a great deal about countering rape culture. How can we healthily express desire with all that surrounding baggage? Getting meta, I read the brilliant thing about Beavis by AlanaMassey@Medium that starts by observing that feminist cred is becoming sexual currency for men, like "wokeness plumage". So I will leave it at that I'm anguished at the general fucked-up-ness of communication in hetero courtship, and I've never known how to deal with it.
Making things solar-powered.
in 2012 I went skiing for the first time. Now during the winter I'm doing that a lot, too (See: passive evil). Did you know there are several ways to plan North Tahoe weekend ski trips entirely using public transit?
I bike for transportation as the cheapest workaround for car culture even though I pretty much hate it, and I also spend a lot of time at climbing gyms. Sometimes I run, and feel awesome.
I volunteer as a peer counselor, as a simple effort to mitigate the painful parts of the human experience, which I want to do more of.
As you might have guessed by now, being an intersectional *-ist killjoy, which for a white cis het male-presenting person generally means keeping my mouth shut and believing others about their own life experiences. It's shockingly simple in principle and complicated to live up to in practice.
At long last, making peace with lentils (There's a revealing story here.).
If you take a look at my Personality tab, you'll note a huge slab of blue at the top marking me as "More Sex-Driven". That might be the case if I were more charming, but in reality...
I also sometimes think I've given strangers the feeling that they've been told by a Jedi to go home and rethink their lives. I have trouble turning off the killjoy, and sometimes - some rare glorious times! - seem to figure out how to communicate it to others in ways they can listen to.
I'm quite the fan of silence, I don't know much about culture beyond discussions I follow on twitter/fb*, and I glaze over if I try to read this section.
*I gotta change this, though - for example I'm kinda ashamed at never having read Rebecca Solnit's books despite how deeply I appreciate her facebook posts.
- Indoor plumbing and heating
- Very dark chocolate
- Funny people
- Cuddly people
- My cats! I worry about loving them too much.
- More chocolate (fair-trade, please)
- Oh, and a bicycle , how could I leave that off...
- A drill, circular saw, soldering iron, and set of basic hand tools are pretty critical too.
- And I just learned how to weld steel! So many possibilities.
[E]BufferOverflowException:Number of awesome things exceeds array size of 6.
[E]And you call yourself a software engineer.
[F]Perhaps you want to go home and rethink your career. Maybe choose one that lets you like yourself more.
Anything that I find uncomfortable to think about; I make it a point to identify why.
Algorithms and electricity.
Oppression of the vulnerable, the goddamn kyriarchy, how to most effectively subvert the refusal of other middle-class folks to see it, and how to get to a point where vulnerable people feel safe.
What in hell that ad with the elderly lady peeling her face off is trying to accomplish. Gah! Actually why OkCupid doesn't display better ads in general. They have complete personality profiles of most of their users, for frick's sake!
How to be a better peer counselor.
How designs of human-made objects and environments evolved, and how totally sensible design processes can result in perplexing things becoming standardized and immortal. How to engage in a kind and productive way with beliefs of others that I see as destructive - there's some need those beliefs meet. Anything other than the looming endgame of a culture based on the assumption of unlimited resources. What time it is, which I can never keep track of. And sex, but I would never say that in an OkCupid profile as a cis-dude mostly interested in women. I mean, jeez, that goddamn narrative.
How incredibly badly my personality meshes with male role in the traditional hetero dating paradigm. How much I loathe all the characters in that story archetype. Whether the hope of meeting more people I might have loving connections with is really worth it in the face of how much more comforting and blissful it would be to just stop trying.
Recently: all the benefits of and barriers to cooperative housing, and the USA's weird real estate fetish (bonus points if you can spot the imperial racist anxiety). (And please let me know if you're aware of a co-op of teetotalling introverts, or would like to start one. It'll be the funnest place in town!)
I just spend a lot of time thinking.
So, I don't know, how judgmental are you?