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My self-summary
Not in any hurry to get old.

self-possessed. fiercely loyal, self-denying, hedonistic & an appreciator of popular culture despite sweeping gaps in my zeitgeist consumption. I'm sharp but prefer to be incisive. Sicilian & Irish. The stereotypes are true, but they are only the prologue.

I talk & read fast. I listen well. I determine the importance of things & people decisively, but those decisions can change. Convince me. I like kind assholes, not douchebags. I'm generous with what I have. Odds are excellent that I'm funnier than you but I wish you were funnier than me. Cooking while listening to NPR is my least destructive vice. Are any of you Ira Glass?

I am the type of girl reddit believes does not exist. I love reddit, or I did, or I believe reddit was worth loving and is worth saving... anyway, I exist.
What I’m doing with my life
I earned my silver hairs. Zero part of me thinks they're something to be covered up.

Sleeping more than I used to has proven positive.

Currently starting my senior year of my BSW for free- remember those halcyon days of 18 & college was about independence and falling in love and cheap beer and a green bicycle and finals period that fugued quickly into under-ramp art projects and long discussions about tender mistakes and the next day and the day after?

I do, but now I want to work in a career where I feel like I'm using my intellect for more than being everyone's favorite barista. Tried management, it didn't agree with me (or I with it). Since dropping that track I've gotten physically stronger, become a mom to a french bulldog, my blood pressure and resting heart rate have gone down, and I no longer wake up in a startle that I forgot to lock the door or schedule someone to open the store.
I’m really good at
explaining why asking college essay style questions on a first date is bad. making nice conversation with boring people, and making much better conversation with much better people. cooking spicy things. footing the bill. manners. finding good shit to do, doing good shit i am told to do. using data gathered from experiences to improve my swag. picking out & buying incredibly perfect gifts. showing up late. making you forget I showed up late. I am also the fastest person I've ever worked with on an espresso bar.
The first things people usually notice about me
eyes/// smile// ass/ attitude
not necessarily in that order.

Two of my coworkers have asked me if my butt is real.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
authors: hunter s thompson, kim addonizio, neruda, bukowski, augusten burroughs, david foster wallace (who wrote the most dangerous short story I've ever read), raymond carver, marjane satrapi, bechdel, eduardo galeano, bell hooks, jose munoz, foucault, steinbeck, lydia davis, Chris ware.

movies: warrior, scorsese's oeuvre, the land before time, the sandlot, oldboy, true romance, queer as folk, the departed, gran turino, any sports movie ever. really. I find it really difficult to watch some graphic beatdowns, which kind of surprised me about myself (see: Green Street Hooligans).

constant: crazy smart poetic girls, badass unapologetic girls, ultracompetent men with good politics & beats, all old school girl groups (aside: these also comprise my ideal social group).

Comedians: Louis ck & mindy kaling & Tina Fey & mark twain & aziz ansari & going to a comedy club on a first date is a terrible idea if you're bad at making conversation beforehand.

Technically I think this whole section should be, "if you were a book/movie/food, what would you be."
Six things I could never do without
coffee, notebook, sun, solitude, sex, pen.

(non-tabasco hot sauce).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How come if so many guys think taking selfies makes them look attractive, they're not better at it?
On a typical Friday night I am
not interested in this question.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've experienced enough bullshit to know exactly what I don't need to be scared of.
You should message me if
HEY SOME ADVICE BECAUSE I DON'T WANT YOU TO WASTE ANYONE'S TIME: don't send me a message like you're IMing me (ie: hi, hello, hi can I get to know you, hi can we talk, hey how's your night going, hi beautiful, etc ad infinitum). This may seem a little harsh to those of you not in possession of a female designation on this website, but I'm tired of ignoring these. I'm tired of the people who send them. If you're one of those people just move along, we won't get along.

You should message me if you're the kind of guy who does not equate sex positivity with "disposable female."

You should message me if you found it easy to write a self summary because you live with yourself and you know what works and what doesn't and you know what you want and how much you want to tell strangers about it. Being befuddled and aw-shucks about being asked to describe yourself is some bullshit. Seriously?

You can deal with the fact that without lessening the veracity of everything above, I am riddled with insecurities.
The two of us