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My self-summary
My name is Erin.
I'm this girl.

Those are the important things.

I enjoy having the skills/ability to change people's lives for the better. I like knowing people.

I like to think that I'm an optimist, but sometimes I think that I'm a pessimist with a masochistic bent. I try to make an active effort to be happy because I prefer it to the alternative. In any case, I've been told that my tendency to "look on the bright side" sometimes drives people crazy.

I also tend to be fairly (some might say excessively) analytical, for whatever that's worth.

I strongly value precision in language and thought.

I am interested in things that I don't already know/understand.

I enjoy living an intentional and examined life.

Here's the short version of what I'm looking for:
Friends. If you're looking for a smart girl FRIEND, hit me up.
That said, if you don't have a solid understanding of the concepts of consent and that girls are people, we probably can't be friends.

I feel like in any relationship, there comes a point where you have to touch someone to get to know them better. I think this is *really* neat/interesting.

CAVEAT: I probably don't want to have sex with you. (And not in the "I'm probably not trying to have sex with you" way that guys put on their profile so that they're less threatening -- in that really, I don't especially want to have sex with anybody*)

*There have been a few (to date, my lifetime cumulative total is 3) notable exceptions to this -- these three people are extremely intelligent, and exquisitely capable of social manipulations/games (distinct from relationship games, which I find to be mostly irritating) and extraordinarily driven/busy. I strongly suspect that this is not simple coincidence.

I like playing with power dynamics.

I don't like cheating (in relationships or otherwise) so I've mostly stopped making agreements that make that possible.

I find religion categorically fascinating.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm having lots of fun. I work a lot, I play a lot, I do what I want.

*I'm a nurse, I work in Home Care, which is great because it's flexible and ALWAYS different.
*I also stab people, for fun and profit (Sept-Nov, most years)

Being in people's houses and their workplaces is fascinating, it's especially interesting to see what the other 99% do and how they live (Which is to say that approximately 1% of the population is nurses. I'm not that rich ;) )

Developing core strength. (literally and figuratively.)
Aerial dance - for core strength. (I'm not nearly good enough for you to come see though, I just want you to know that)
Practicing staying grounded. Goes well with aerial dance.
I’m really good at
Predicting what people will do (Once I know them a little. . .it's un-clever to use this as a conversation starter, because I've never met you. . .unless I have, and then why do you need a conversation starter?)

Customer Service

Learning new things - quickly

Qualifying statements/Equivocating

Asking peculiar/specific questions


Talking about myself (I'd rather not HAVE to be so good at this.)
The first things people usually notice about me
How quiet I am or my smile.
That I put people on "tilt."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Kushiel's Dart, et al., The Gargoyle, Enchantment, Mindless Eating, Cocaine: An Unauthorized Autobiography, Atlas Shrugged, Anthem, The Splendid Solution, The Emperor of Scent, Cautionary Tales for Children, The Sneeches and Other Stories (I'm not so much a fan of The Sneeches, but I enjoy all of the other stories quite a lot.), The Name of the Wind.

Movies: Lucky Number Slevin, Save the Last Dance, Mr. & Mrs.
Smith, Italian Job, Martian Child, Race to Witch Mountain, Taken, Easy A, Brick.

Shows: I don't actually own a TV with service - the one we have is connected to computers for movies and gaming. That said, I mostly only watch television shows once the season is over: House, True Blood, Pushing Daisies, Firefly, Castle, White Collar, Fringe, Penn & Teller. I'm loving Mr. Robot which is sadly not far enough along to binge watch.

Music: A friend once said to me, in all seriousness, "it's not that
you have bad taste in music, it's that you have no taste in music." That pretty well covers it. I have very specific taste in music, which is difficult to describe, but which once you know, you know. It spans pretty much all genres and other categories (As a note: I'm incredibly skilled at picking what nearly everyone describes as the worst of the music they listen to.).

Food: I tend to like ethnic foods. Thai, Vietnamese, Chinese,
Ethiopian, Mexican, Indonesian (but you can't really get Indonesian food here), Greek. I also like french fries. But not a lot. I just like them some. And milkshakes. I like those a lot. I might consider being a vegan just to see if I could do it (not on any moral/philosophical platform)... but I already know I couldn't, because how could I live without cheese? I don't like bananas or avocados.
Six things I could never do without
I have contemplated with some regularity that I could just walk away from the VAST majority of my worldly possessions and never miss anything. I like that. It contrasts strikingly with the materialistic impulse that it seems like most of the people I know have.

On the other hand, I adore popsicles.

P.S. I hate this question. And I hate people who think there's a *right* way to answer this question. I cheerfully defy them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Monogamy/kink/social constructions surrounding sex/sexuality

People and why they believe in gods.

How to improve my life.

Other people's life experiences - how they're different from mine. The universal nature of/non-universality of experiences more generally.

How many academic degrees I could reasonably attain while continuing to work full time. . .and how many I want.

What I want to be like. Where I'm going. What I want to be doing. How to get there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Eating dinner? Fridays are very much like non-Fridays, in my world. I like most days. Mondays may be my favorite.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This used to say that I was terrified of alcohol. I'm not *actually* terrified of alcohol anymore. (Though, for what it's worth, i'm usually viscerally uncomfortable around alcohol and (most) people when they are drinking alcohol.)
You should message me if
You disagree with a particular part of my profile. (i.e., you want to debate politely and without ad hominem attacks.)

You think I'm interesting (and can articulate why).

You like puns.

You want to hang out.

You think that you are particularly precise in speech/thought and value that quality in others.

You're excessively awesome. (Or excessively intelligent, or excessively creative.)

You meet some (or all) of the above criteria and you enjoy "parallel play" (As contrasted with needing a structured/planned activity to serve as a scaffold for any meaningful human interaction, in case you were wondering.)
The two of us