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My self-summary
I'm into people who are into anything, as long as they're into something.

My identity as it relates "queer" has less to do with genitals than it does taste and sensibilities. I'm kinky, poly, and like to play around with gender when it comes to how I dress sometimes, mostly in the form of painting my nails or wearing some eye-liner. Not into sexy-times with men (or at least not alone with them), but if you're somewhere else on the spectrum hmu, as the kids are saying.

I'm a fan of creative words, good food, most forms of art, (especially theatre and film) and women (or femme-leaning-genderqueer-humans) who create and/or appreciate those things.

Some categories you could group me into with other humans:

Big-hearted Extrovert
Half-nerd (like a Half-elf. wait, did I just go full nerd?)
Catless Cat person (as in, "I like cats," not "I'm a genetic experiment gone horribly wrong")
Sometime curmudgeon
Bon Vivant
What I’m doing with my life
In Toronto acting, writing, dancing, directing, reading, and creating intangible and fleeting glories.

I spend my days vacillating between being creative, getting shit done, and sinking hours into meaningless bullshit. Constantly trying to improve the ratio.
I’m really good at
Acting, sarcasm, dancing, rock climbing.

Also, procrastination, enthusiasm, makin' people laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
Depending on what mood they catch me in, that I'm very excited to be talking to them.

People usually also notice my dancing, though not all of them approve, because some people are boring.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction: Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Edward Albee, Eugene O'Neill, Bukowski, Mary Renault, Guy Gavriel Kay, Sam Shepard, William Inge, Cormack McCarthy, good old shake-a-spear

Non-Fiction: sex at dawn, the ethical slut, Dawkins, Sam Harris, Hitchens.

Shows: Most things HBO, Sherlock, Ricky Gervais' hilarity, Louie, Community, Archer, anything travel, old Louis Theroux specials.

Movies: WAAAY too many to name.

Music: Everything good, new and old. Especially if I can lose my mind to it on a dance floor.
Six things I could never do without
How about some things I really like instead?

dancing/Music, my friends, pencil/paper, good food, good sex, books, travel, my bicycle.

Also, risk. Cheesy as it may sound, risk is everything. If something scares me, there's a good chance I'll be investigating it in the near future. (For the record, this does not apply to sexual health. Sex should be as safe as possible, obvi.)

Counting, on the other hand, I can apparently do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever I'm working on. (Artistically speaking. My day jobs don't take much thought.)

How to spend more time working on whatever I'm working on.

How fucking crazy it is that lgbt rights, racism, and actual action to combat climate change are where they are at right now. Seriously? There's going to be a whole lot of people ashamed of themselves in the near future.

Where to go dancing this week. (I know, you get it already.)

On a typical Friday night I am
Out creating and destroying dance floors with friends.


up till 4 am writing/working and figuring out what's happening saturday.

And not a lot is ever typical in my life. Everything changes, so I try to like it that way.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a hairy muthafuckin chest. (Best get that outta the way immediately, in case you're not into that.) I also sweat a ton when I dance, if you don't, you're probably not dancing hard enough.
You should message me if
you're kind of a superhero, or want to be, you think I'm good looking and that we might have something to talk about.

You're cool with the fact that I'm in a committed, non-monogamous relationship with a super cool lady. I date other people, she dates other people, it's lovely. Happy to answer questions about it, since so many of you seem to like to ask. :)

You should NOT message me if you take yourself too seriously or think you are too cool to dance to good live music. I have no problem being the one maniac in a sea of restlessly nodding heads. (Terrified is ok, but too cool? C'moooon.)

Also, if you're uptight about sex, we won't get along. Sometimes I wish I was gay just so I could try to marry Dan Savage. It's definitely a bonus if words like "hetero-normative", "sex-positive" and "slut shaming" are part of your vocabulary.

So if you're still reading, and interested, say hi!
The two of us