joshu-ashua
32Ottawa, Canada
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My self-summary
*Note: I'm in Ottawa Jun. 20-Aug. 20. Otherwise I'm in Toronto*

I'm into people who are into anything, as long as they're into something.

My identity as it relates "queer" has less to do with genitals than it does taste and sensibilities. I'm kinky, poly, and like to play around with gender when it comes to how I dress sometimes, mostly in the form of painting my nails or wearing some eye-liner. Not into one on one sexy-times with men at this point, but if you're somewhere else on the spectrum, and femme-leaning, hmu, as the kids are saying.

I'm a fan of creative words, good food, most forms of art, (especially theatre and film) and women (or femme-leaning-genderqueer-humans) who create and/or appreciate those things.

Some categories you could group me into with other humans:

Big-hearted Extrovert
Half-nerd (like a Half-elf. wait, did I just go full nerd?)
Feminist
Catless Cat person (as in, "I like cats," not "I'm a genetic experiment gone horribly wrong")
Logophile
Ally
Sometime curmudgeon
Kinkster
Non-monogamist
Bon Vivant
What I’m doing with my life
In Toronto acting, writing, dancing, directing, reading, and creating intangible and fleeting glories.

I spend my days vacillating between being creative, getting shit done, and sinking hours into meaningless bullshit. Constantly trying to improve the ratio.
I’m really good at
Acting, sarcasm, dancing, rock climbing.

Also, procrastination, enthusiasm, makin' people laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
Depending on what mood they catch me in, that I'm very excited to be talking to them.

People usually also notice my dancing, though not all of them approve, because some people are boring.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction: Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Edward Albee, Eugene O'Neill, Bukowski, Mary Renault, Guy Gavriel Kay, Sam Shepard, William Inge, Cormack McCarthy, good old shake-a-spear

Non-Fiction: sex at dawn, the ethical slut, Dawkins, Sam Harris, Hitchens.

Shows: Most things HBO, Sherlock, Ricky Gervais' hilarity, Louie, Community, Archer, anything travel, old Louis Theroux specials.

Movies: WAAAY too many to name.

Music: Everything good, new and old. Especially if I can lose my mind to it on a dance floor.
Six things I could never do without
How about some things I really like instead?

dancing/Music, my friends, pencil/paper, good food, good sex, books, travel, my bicycle.

Also, risk. Cheesy as it may sound, risk is everything. If something scares me, there's a good chance I'll be investigating it in the near future. (For the record, this does not apply to sexual health. Sex should be as safe as possible, obvi.)

Counting, on the other hand, I can apparently do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever I'm working on. (Artistically speaking. My day jobs don't take much thought.)

How to spend more time working on whatever I'm working on.

White supremacy, patriarchy, heteronormativity, misogyny, unregulated free-market capitalism.

What we are going to look back on in the future and be ashamed of. See above.

Where to go dancing this week. (I know, you get it already.)

Kink.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out creating and destroying dance floors with friends.

or...

up till 4 am writing/working and figuring out what's happening saturday.

And not a lot is ever typical in my life. Everything changes, so I try to like it that way.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a veritable pelt on my chest. (Best get that outta the way immediately, in case you're not into that.) I also sweat a ton when I dance, if you don't, you're probably not dancing hard enough.
You should message me if
you're kind of a superhero, or want to be, you think I'm good looking and that we might have something to talk about.

I also want to be upfront about what I'm looking for, so CONVOLUTED RANT AHEAD. (Still working on this for clarity, so feel free to ask me Wtf I'm talking about) I'm on the hunt for emotionally and sexually intimate connections with people that don't require a huge commitment in terms of frequency of contact. I work two day jobs, run a theatre company, am a gigging actor, and just ended a 4-year open relationship, so time is a bit of a scarce resource and I'm not looking for anything super cereal right now. I also reject the idea that the amount of time you spend with someone, and how often, necessarily correlates with how much you care about them. Or that the only measure of a relationship's worth is how long it lasts. I like to take things as they come, with lots of communication, respect, and as much honesty as we can manage. That last part is key, not giving a fuck isn't really in my vocab and I think apathy in its many forms is killing a lot of what's good in the world.

Also, if you're uptight about sex, we won't get along.

So if you're still reading, and interested, say hi!
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