My identity as it relates "queer" has less to do with genitals than it does taste and sensibilities. I'm kinky, poly, and like to play around with gender when it comes to how I dress sometimes, mostly in the form of painting my nails or wearing some eye-liner. Not into sexy-times with men (or at least not alone with them), but if you're somewhere else on the spectrum hmu, as the kids are saying.
I'm a fan of creative words, good food, most forms of art, (especially theatre and film) and women (or femme-leaning-genderqueer-humans) who create and/or appreciate those things.
Some categories you could group me into with other humans:
Half-nerd (like a Half-elf. wait, did I just go full nerd?)
Catless Cat person (as in, "I like cats," not "I'm a genetic experiment gone horribly wrong")
I spend my days vacillating between being creative, getting shit done, and sinking hours into meaningless bullshit. Constantly trying to improve the ratio.
Also, procrastination, enthusiasm, makin' people laugh.
People usually also notice my dancing, though not all of them approve, because some people are boring.
Non-Fiction: sex at dawn, the ethical slut, Dawkins, Sam Harris, Hitchens.
Shows: Most things HBO, Sherlock, Ricky Gervais' hilarity, Louie, Community, Archer, anything travel, old Louis Theroux specials.
Movies: WAAAY too many to name.
Music: Everything good, new and old. Especially if I can lose my mind to it on a dance floor.
dancing/Music, my friends, pencil/paper, good food, good sex, books, travel, my bicycle.
Also, risk. Cheesy as it may sound, risk is everything. If something scares me, there's a good chance I'll be investigating it in the near future. (For the record, this does not apply to sexual health. Sex should be as safe as possible, obvi.)
Counting, on the other hand, I can apparently do without.
How to spend more time working on whatever I'm working on.
How fucking crazy it is that lgbt rights, racism, and actual action to combat climate change are where they are at right now. Seriously? There's going to be a whole lot of people ashamed of themselves in the near future.
Where to go dancing this week. (I know, you get it already.)
up till 4 am writing/working and figuring out what's happening saturday.
And not a lot is ever typical in my life. Everything changes, so I try to like it that way.
You're cool with the fact that I'm in a committed, non-monogamous relationship with a super cool lady. I date other people, she dates other people, it's lovely. Happy to answer questions about it, since so many of you seem to like to ask. :)
You should NOT message me if you take yourself too seriously or think you are too cool to dance to good live music. I have no problem being the one maniac in a sea of restlessly nodding heads. (Terrified is ok, but too cool? C'moooon.)
Also, if you're uptight about sex, we won't get along. Sometimes I wish I was gay just so I could try to marry Dan Savage. It's definitely a bonus if words like "hetero-normative", "sex-positive" and "slut shaming" are part of your vocabulary.
So if you're still reading, and interested, say hi!