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My self-summary
I'm a bot with a heart. Or, to borrow a phrase, I'm a tiny mirror through which the universe perceives itself. I like to know how things work, especially people. If I can't figure you out, I'll be frustrated but intrigued; if it is too easy to do so I might get bored.

Polyamorous homebody seeks friendship first. There's this new thing I'm trying called looking before I leap. I like being able to relax around people, but it's difficult if I don't use sex, drugs, or rock and roll as a hack. Absent these mechanisms, you really have to give me some time. A little mutable, a little forgetful, a little distant, a little shy, a little overly intense (or so I'm told, and have no reason to disbelieve).

I'm a behaviorist and an empiricist but also believe in the existence of things that are wholly unsayable, and immeasurable. Contradictory? Don't get me started.

Mostly I just like watching the world go by. There's a calm that comes with keeping still and waiting, and I'd rather watch than participate most of the time. And, this world place is endlessly surprising and beautiful.
What I’m doing with my life
Testing theories. Learning as I go. Putting out small fires. Communicating non-verbally.

Life-path wise, I finished my Psych undergrad at UBC a couple of years ago and am spooling up to start my Master's in Counselling in the next year or so. I'm back in the customer service industry, after a year-long stint working with kids as an after school program leader at a neighbourhood house in East Van. I know I need to get my butt in gear towards a more fulfilling life, but inertia, she's a powerful force.
I’m really good at
Making mix CDs.

Awkward silences.

Missing pop-culture references. Be a part of my cultural education! Explain me things!

Talking when the other person is just about to talk, when I'm on the phone.

Laughing at inappropriate times.

Self-flagellation (both kinds). Want to help?

Filling in the conversational blanks when someone can't think of the word they want. I'm sorry if this annoys you.

Keeping my shit together when I'm intoxicated, to the extent that people who don't know me extremely well can't tell. I feel like it reflects poorly on drunks and drug users to behave otherwise.

Walking very, very quickly. I'm not in a hurry; I just like it. Especially walking through crowds, dodging people and other obstacles. It makes me feel like I'm in the matrix.

I can sort of sing, and more than sort of cook.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I don't look like my pictures.

Ethnic indeterminacy. Tattoos. A harshly judgmental us-them attitude that I can't turn off. My goofy grin. My weird oilspot stare.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: King City, Burning Chrome (particularly Hinterlands), Practical Magic, Troll: A Love Story, The Story of O, Neuromancer, Scott Pilgrim, My Year of Meats, Bonk, Coraline, Watchmen, Sandman, The Time Traveler's Wife, The Devil Latch, His Dark Materials Trilogy, World War Z, Dune, The Chrysalids, Oracle Night, Skin (Roald Dahl), Oryx and Crake, Fires (Marguerite Yourcenar), Locke & Key, Shortcomings, Tank Girl...

Movies: Brick, Doom Generation, Nowhere, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Alien/s, Zodiac, Speed Racer, Kill Bill, Pulp Fiction, Secretary, Death Proof, Slither, Eyes Wide Shut, In the Cut, Waking Life, Baraka, Taxi Driver, The King of Kong, Confessions of a Superhero, Speed Racer (underrated), Looper, Ghostbusters, The 7-up series, The Union...

TV: The Wire, Fooly Cooly, Cowboy Bebop, Adventure Time, Regular Show, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Parks and Recreation, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Firefly, Community, Arrested Development, Buffy, Lost, Generation Kill, Venture Brothers, Invader Zim, Misfits, Game of Thrones...

Music: Radiohead, CocoRosie, The Dandy Warhols, The Glitch Mob, The Pillows, Tool, Bright Eyes, Ratatat, Aesop Rock, Truckfighters, The White Stripes, The Glove, Dashboard Confessional, Lotus Child, The Zolas, basically anything hooky, doomy, or eclectic.

Food: ...fuck, everything. Sushi*, nachos, cookies, cake, chocolate*, pizza, roast turkey and stuffing*, steak*, cheese, burgers, bacon*, berries, pie*...

* = favorite.
Six things I could never do without
My people, and the feeling that someone somewhere understands.

Sequential narratives.

Cool, soul-enriching art. Especially art that makes me a bit uncomfortable.

Mind expansion in various forms.

Somewhere to make food.

Hot water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The politics of style, identity, group dynamics, possible alternate realities, hypotheticals, self and Other, gender politics...

Mostly I just have my head in the clouds, open to whatever drifts by.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working. I work two jobs and usually double shifts on Fridays and Saturdays. This means no weekend chill time for me, but more time off over all.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
... ask me. I love to overshare and will tell you basically anything you want to know.
You should message me if
You want someone sporadic to write to, you want to meet for coffee, you have questions about me or anything you see here, you want to book me as a model (legit gigs ONLY), you want to tell me about yourself... I'm interested in hearing from more or less anyone. Don't be discouraged if I don't get back to you right away, though.
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