stagedives (often graceless, but always hilarious/fun)
crowdsurfing (either whilst stylishly dressed or my personal favorite, spidercrawling on the ceiling if it's low enough!)
karaoke (see above!)
exploding fist bumps (I do them with a flair like no other...that much I can assure you!)
I've also been told I have a pretty deep voice. Anything besides that...you tell me.
Books: Bad Behavior, Notes From the Underground, Ask the Dust, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, The Fall, Fahrenheit 451, Nausea, and Tideland (book was better than the movie, I thought).
Currently reading: Maddaddam
Movies: Here's an incomplete list of my favorite movies ever. Always under construction, always changing.
The Mighty Ducks
Welcome to the Dollhouse
I'm generally a fan of underdog-themed sports movies, crappy/intentionally over-the-top action movies, comedies and the occasional indie flick.
TV: Bojack Horseman is my spirit animal. Take that for whatever that's worth to you.
Music: My tastes generally fall under the umbrella of punk rock/its offshoot genres, but there's much more to what I love musically. Basically, I love anything that I can connect to...either musically, lyrically, or moodwise. That said, here's a short list of my current/all-time favorites:
Planes Mistaken For Stars
Off With Their Heads
Pianos Become the Teeth
But anything else about music, let's discuss!
Food: Comfort food, Bacon, Mexican food, Pasta. I am open to most things. Also in the midst of a wild infatuation with specialty mac and cheese, especially with bacon or barbeque chicken. And while I'm not vegan or vegetarian, there's a gaping hole in my heart where Foodswings southern fried drumsticks used to be.
And pizza. All the pizza.
Emotional connection (few things beat sharing in a great moment with someone--a friend or otherwise who can appreciate it in a similar way)
Hugs (self-explanatory. But hey, hugs are always excellent! I prefer them to handshakes. 1-armed huggers needn't apply though.)
Good food (Mouthgasms. Just mouthgasms.)
Side-splitting laughter (Come on, the best type of laugh ever's the one where you fall out of your chair and writhe on a friend's floor clutching your sides after seeing the funniest damn thing ever!)
self-deprecation (because, why so serious?)
And a huge honorable mention to pen and paper. Writing is an extremely cathartic experience for me. I also tend to be a very expressive person, so I love the mediums that allow me to feel without fear of reproach or judgment (see also: karaoke and singing along at shows).
Also another honorable mention to the articles on Gawker. That site is like a real-life version of Sick Sad World, haha.
Whether or not to disable (or reopen) my OKC account.
Cures for procrastination.
Things to do for shits and giggles.
Oh, and this too:
Could be any, all, or none of these things: up front and entangled in singalongs at a show with my best friends, going straight home to settle into some alone time after a long work week, hanging with friends and humoring ourselves with our company, disappearing to take long walks to nowhere in particular while listening to music, finding new places to eat and/or new watering holes, or stumbling into a random karaoke night and diving headlong into whatever fuckery I can get myself into.
And really, all of the above is as likely to happen on a Friday as it would any other day of the week.
Anyway, I've probably taken this site too seriously in the past. Sometimes it's too easy to forget while wading through the sea of profiles fishing for common interests/insightful thoughts to leave messages about that the process of meeting new people and learning about each other is supposed to be fun...no matter what the end result may be.
Because really, some British lad with an acoustic guitar said it best:
"If you're all about the destination, then take a fucking flight. We're going nowhere slowly, but we're seeing all the sights. And we're definitely going to Hell, but we'll have all the best stories to tell."
Lastly, I wonder if being a black man on a dating site is akin to being a leper. To be honest, I tend to think that it is at times. I respect the whole "to each their own"/personal preference thing, but I see so many profiles on here that basically say "no black men pls kthx" (I obviously won't message people who state that in their profile...life's too short to waste anyone's time, especially my own) and I feel like that's a thing that men of other races don't have to deal with as much. Just my humble opinion. Agree or disagree, whatever.
If you kinda sorta got it all figured out. Or not. Mainly if you don't.