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My self-summary
Of all the many questions I've considered answering on this site, the most telling one for me was one I looked at and shied away from. I didn't answer it and haven't come across it since, but I decided it deserves a little essay. It was, "do you enjoy going to the movies alone?"
I knew the answer right away: "No." But I wish I was a different type of person, someone who did enjoy going to the movies alone. I admire that kind of self-sufficiency. For me going to the movies is such a luxurious pleasure, what with the resting in cushy seats, the darkness, the hedonism, the snacks, and the huge entertainment of other lives and stories told, it's like experiencing a fabulous dream. That much pleasure is something I always seek to share. It's somehow not enough to live something intense all by myself. I'm sure that's a character flaw.
In fact I HAVE gone to the movies alone. I attended a Kurasawa festival back in college years, all on my own, and had a blast. I bet if I ever did take myself off to the movies alone now, I would have a great time. But, I'd probably have to tell someone about it afterward.
What I’m doing with my life
I got this baby by asking a donor to help me. The donor is someone I know, but he's not involved with us at all. So it's just me raising my girl, with help from my brothers and friends and a lot of generous surprising people who cross our path.
Before I had a baby, I had a lot of free time every day. I would go stretch out at a cafe with the Times or a novel and then wander off to yoga class. Work starts around 7 pm for me, three or four nights a week, and I relish the unusual schedule. Now that my daughter's in school, I have a bit of time free during school hours. I pick her up from school at 2:30 or 3, take her to various after-school activities, and a babysitter gives her dinner when I go off to work.
I’m really good at
dancing the tango.
ok so i'm really really really good at dancing the tango.

also, reading poems.
The first things people usually notice about me
are not the things i mean to project.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
the earthsea series
the riddle master

lawrence of arabia
the philadelphia story
howl's moving castle

buena vista
& de caro

orange juice, eggs, french toast, pasta, cheese, peanut butter sandwiches, sushi, salads made by someone else, and plenty of fine chocolate brownies
The six things I could never do without
I used to have "hope" on this list but I've crossed it off and I'm fine. I'm still myself, just not carrying so many torches.

I've grown very fond of tea
also that little dish in which to deposit the tea bag when it's done steeping

chocolate is a staple

and four pillows to sleep with
...but maybe with the right man, i could let go of one or two of the pillows...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
supporting my daughter's manifold activities in and out of school, and organizing play dates and special events for her. I have a lot of day-to-day stuff in my head: fitting housework in, taking care of myself, fitting in a visit with a girlfriend, an hour to publicize my classes... I taught at the same school for twenty years and it closed a year ago; since then I've been organizing all my own work, which keeps me busy constantly...

for a long time I also thought about what I could possibly do with all the clothes she's outgrown? but I decided to spend less time thinking about that since it doesn't bring me much clarity.

so I'm thinking more now about where we might go during summer vacation, which is a lot more fun, in terms of mental activity. I think about Iceland. I won't make it there this summer, it seems, but I still imagine Iceland.

I have a wide social circle, and so I think about how all my pals are doing, and who might appreciate a text saying hi.
On a typical Friday night I am
tiptoeing around the apartment, enjoying my solitude
You should message me if
well, I wrote I'm a Sagittarius because that's the sign I decided I'd playfully choose for myself.

You might be cute but if you believe in astrology or god or some other mystical force controlling our lives, it just won't work.

Please message me if on top of being atheistic you can muster a bit of charm, some cleverness, a little humor now and then... oh yes, I am a sucker for charm, mmm-mmm!