62Portland, United States
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My self-summary
Ladies, I'm having so much fun with the Q&As here, that I'm questioning the need to fill out the essays. Many of the Q&As can tell a lot about you, esp. if you add a little personality in the "explanation" field -- heck, it's not that unlike meeting for coffee or a drink and asking each other questions. With some of you, I feel I've already got our first date out of the way! :) Kudos to whomever came up with this approach!
I'm very open, if not completely transparent, tho not w/o being asked -- so feel free to ask me ANYthing you'd like to know (like you would if we were enjoying coffee together for the first, maybe second, time). All questions allowed; answers, optional. :) Can we start by just having some fun here? :)
OK, what isn't revealed in my answers: I'm a local boy with a love of the desert southwest; I'm #5 of 12 siblings -- yep, I was raised VERY catholic too, but I left that far behind in favor of true spirituality; my politics (values) are socially liberal, fiscally responsible; my natural manners are a bit old-fashioned -- I'm decidedly masculine but defy most western male stereotypes -- I want a romantic partnership that enjoys traditional gender roles AND true equality too; I was partnered/married for 17 yrs, have been single too long, and am available and ready for a lifelong romantic partnership.
Well, I hope you have more questions now than before. If so, keep reading with an open heart and easy smile. If still intrigued, let's get together and talk.


ps: this site's match % ratings don't mean much to me because I've taken every opportunity to playfully answer the questions upon which they are based. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
redefining my role (yet again) after 23+ yrs with the same great company; enjoying my completely remodeled 1914 craftsman (ya, I did it!); planning my next trip; looking for ways to move my retirement date forward! :) AND reconnecting with my beloved son after too many years estranged. I'm happy!!
I’m really good at
most anything I apply myself to; creating beauty; listening & seeing both sides; being an uncle; acting no older than the situation calls for; making, building, fixing things; getting my orchids to re-bloom; negotiating major purchases; racquetball & skiing; entertaining, cooking (shhh!), avoiding the ironing ... anything with my hands, and kissing (so I've been told).
The first things people usually notice about me
Facing them? my eyes, the enviable shape of my bald head, my inquisitive nature, how easy I am to talk with, that I'm genuinely interested in THEM.

Or away? my back side
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
listing my "favorites" tends to dilute the very meaning of the word
Six things I could never do without
supportive family & friends
contribution, nurturing/giving, creating beauty
an inspiring dream, self-improvement
music & dance
great food, luscious wine, and aromatic spirits
bathing in life, stimulating my senses -- esp touch, taste, smell (sensual, not necessarily sexual)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"A lot of time," no; but I have mused as to why women so readily answer personal questions on this public forum that they'd consider rude and would never answer if asked in private by the guy sitting across from them ... answers that I don't want to know before making the connection I seek nor want the world to know after making that connection. Given the chance, maybe we're all voyeurs and exhibitionists ...
Oh, and why people aren't more playful on these forums -- AND why I'm filling out more of these essays despite my better judgment? :)
On a typical Friday night I am
When not dating nor in a relationship -- I'm out with a friends, checking out a new restaurant, and/or finalizing plans for the weekend.
When dating or in a relationship -- I'm enjoying you and whatever else we choose to do, maybe checking out a new restaurant too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You mean like something I don't just tell everyone, right? Isn't this the internet dude? ;o)
You should message me if
-- You are an attractive, feminine, adventurous, genuine, playful, fit, very active and youthful woman who can keep up and even challenge me -- you probably think I can't keep up with YOU. :)
-- You love to travel, both to relax and to experience the ways and rhythms of other cultures;
-- You are omnivorous -- and LOVE celebrating life with great food, fine spirits, and intimate conversation with close company;
-- You are ready for your last and best ever romantic relationship; you are ready to fall in love and grow an intimate partnership, that inspires the best in each of us, and treasures "we" as bigger than "me".
The two of us