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My self-summary
***If you're not going to bother actually reading my profile, please don't message me. I don't have time for people who won't invest at least that much effort in getting to know me.***

I am a self-sufficient, reliable, kinky, polyamorous, extropian, bisexual female.

I am a member of the Alcor Life Extension Foundation.
My Myers-Briggs type is ISTJ. It’s a fairly good fit, and I’ve tested the same every time I’ve taken the test (over the course of about 8 years or so). ***Edit (10/2012): I have recently been "outed" as INTJ by a trained professional, and the fit seems slightly better. My N/S ratio was always very close, so it's easy to see where the mistake arose. :)

I enjoy physical closeness with my love(s). I like to cuddle and sleep in the middle and be touched.

I firmly believe you should never ask a question if you don't want to know the answer.

I'm currently disenchanted with the US political process. There is no single ideology that I've found that sums up my perspective. Essentially, I believe that the government has no business telling people what to do with their private lives, and I believe that a society has an obligation to provide for the basic necessities of all of its members.

I am married to the *most excellent* Datan0de. We have been partnered since 1989, and I wouldn't be half the person I am if not for him. He inspires me, he challenges me, he supports me, and he is my best friend. A significant part of knowing and understanding me is knowing him. I share everything in my life with my husband. He keeps me sane and happy and helps me see and work through my faults.

I also have two other partners, so I'm pretty poly-saturated at this point, but I'm not absolutely closing the door on new possibilities. Anything new would likely take a long time to build into something that could fit my current life, however. Call it "slow-poke" or "friends-first" or whatever, ultimately it means that it would be complicated for me to start a new relationship under the current circumstances.

I am honest, complex, and dependable
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a chemist, by degree and by profession, which I enjoy very much. I'm currently living with Datan0de. I miss my dog (currently in an LDR w/him), but I'm not really in a hurry to take on the responsibility of one for myself. I once got to see an Aibo in person, and I've decided that I'd love to have one as my next pet!

I spend a lot of time on my computer, reading various blogs and web comics, watching the few TV shows I am currently into, and generally trying to organize my electronic life (photos, music, movie catalog, etc.)

I'm *not* keeping my house as tidy and organized as I'd like, but I'm okay with that for now. I'm the kind of person who needs some motivation to take on projects like putting away all of the various books that have wandered from their shelves, or filing the stacks of bills and important papers which gather on top of the filing cabinet. It's something I hope to get to someday, but it's not a big priority for me at the moment. The dishes are washed, and that's an achievement, so I'll be happy if I manage to keep that up for a few months in a row. :)
I’m really good at
I am pretty good with mechanical things, I can do basic car repairs (though I don’t always choose to do so), and I love to build things (especially the furniture that comes in a box). I haven’t met a piece of software I couldn’t crash just by using it as advertised.

I'm good at organizing things, though that doesn't seem to carry over to my home environment much at all!
The first things people usually notice about me
Most people first notice my hair. If it's not the first thing they notice, it's because it's not visible to them. I sometimes wish I had some other defining trait, but at least it's one I'm used to.

At first, I'm a quiet person, likely to sit in a corner and simply observe until I feel comfortable in new circumstances. However, I am a strongly opinionated person who's willing to speak up when I feel the need or desire. I have a button which says, "I'm not shy, I'm just studying my prey." It suits me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The list is very, very long on all counts. I tend towards fantasy, sci-fi, horror, and erotica in books.

I like movies of many kinds, but generally avoid things starring Adam Sandler and Jim Carrey. I can enjoy something brainless as well as something deep and thought provoking.

My musical tastes are varied, but not infinite. There *is* music I don't like, but I can't necessarily define it clearly. I just know it when I hear it.

I'm a picky eater (I prefer my food separated rather than thrown all together), but I enjoy a wide variety of foods. As of Jan. 2009, I adopted what I'm calling a "reduced-cruelty" diet. This has meant minimizing my intake of factory-farmed meat products, and eating *mostly* ovo-lacto vegetarian. It has been an interesting challenge, but I consider it the ethical thing for me to do.

Let's go with a few lists:

Books Friday, Time Enough ForLove, and many others by Robert A. Heinlein; The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings series by J.R.R. Tolkein; The Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling; The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou; The Kushiel series by Jacqueline Carey; The Anita Blake and the Merry Gentry series by Laurell K. Hamilton; The Foundation series by Isaac Asimov; The Vampire books by Anne Rice; The Beauty books by A.N. Roquelaure (and of course, I know that's one of Anne Rice's pseudonyms); many of Stephen King's earlier works; The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand; The Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snickett; The Incarnations of Immortality by Piers Anthony; and many many more.

Movies Serenity; The Breakfast Club; Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure; When Night Is Falling; Benny & Joon; Boondock Saints; Lock, Stock & Two Smoking Barrels; Blade Runner; Jackass; Ladyhawke; Clerks; Chasing Amy; Dogma; Equilibrium; Enemy at the Gates; Ferris Bueller's Day Off; Real Genius; Better Off Dead; Gattaca; Memento; Hudson Hawk; Near Dark; Monsters Inc; Better than Chocolate; Dude, Where's My Car?; and again, many more.

Music Billy Joel; Phil Collins; Sting; The Eagles; Jimmy Buffet; The Police; Genesis (particularly Phil Collins lead); Led Zeppelin; Def Leppard; Linkin Park; The Beatles; Wolfsheim; Jonathan Coulton; Journey; Kansas; Pink Floyd; Queen; Charlie Daniels Band; Elton John; Rush; Steely Dan; Simon & Garfunkel; Styx; Van Halen; Beethoven; Wagner; John Williams; Xymox; Apoptygma Berzerk; and the list goes on and on...

Food My diet contains considerably less meat than before (a huge change for me!) When I can find meats which are produced in an ethical fashion, then I'll gladly consume them, but I don't believe it's fair or right to mistreat animals in order to produce food more cheaply. For now, I occasionally eat farm-raised shrimp, but avoid all other meats. I like Indian, Italian, Mexican, Thai, Vietnamese, German, Greek, and most typical "American" dishes. I was particularly fond of beef, but also gladly ate pork, chicken and fish. I'm not crazy about the "gamier" meats (lamb, goat, venison, duck, etc.) but there are probably ways of preparing them which would suit my tastes. I once had the opportunity to eat buffalo, elk, and ostrich, and found them to be quite good. Texture is a big factor in my enjoyment of food, so sometimes my pickiness is less flavor-related and more texture-related. I don't crave a lot of variety in my food, but I do like to have some variation from day to day. I'm happy eating the same lunch 5 days a week for months on end, but then I want my dinners to be varied. I'll often get on a "kick" where I am craving the same type of food for weeks at a time, but eventually I do move on. Good bread always makes me happy. Oh, and I love chocolate of all kinds, from cheap to gourmet. (White chocolate is *not* chocolate, and I don't much see the point in eating a bar of sweetened fat.)
Six things I could never do without
I don't think it's fair to say that there's anything I could "never do without." I'm a pretty resilient person. However, there are some things which are really important for my happiness, particularly regarding relationships.

To be happy, I need physical intimacy (but not necessarily sex), I need to be able to trust and be trusted, I need to be included in the details of my partners' lives, I need a lot of common ground, I need someone who will challenge me to be the best person I can be, but most important, I need to feel understood.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time contemplating myself, my behaviors, my attitudes, my ideas, my relationships, and my goals. I like to reminisce and I like to think about the future. I like topics which make me examine my assumptions. I like to have my views challenged in a logical and thought-provoking way.
On a typical Friday night I am
On a typical Friday night:

If I'm on a social kick, I'm hanging out with my partner(s) and maybe a few friends, watching movies, sharing stories, playing games, or otherwise just being social. I will, on rare occasion, go out to clubs, but when I do, it's mostly to people-watch. I don't dance.

If I'm craving time away from people, I'm hanging out with my partner(s), surfing the web, watching a movie, going out to dinner, and maybe reading a book. I might also be doing something "useful" like laundry or cleaning if I feel the need to accomplish something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
These aren't exactly "private" things, but they are very much a part of the inner me:

I almost always laugh when I see people get hurt. It's a visceral reaction, not a choice. If this is a deal-breaker for you, please move on.

I cry often, sometimes over important things, usually not. It's not a problem for me. If it's a problem for you, please move on.

I do *not* like surprises. Seriously.
You should message me if
I'm not currently seeking new partners, but I'm open to meeting new friends of all genders and orientations.

You should message me if you find me interesting and if you feel we'd have lots in common!

It bugs me that I have to say it, but if our "enemy" percentage is higher than our "match" percentage, I'm not interested. If we are less than a 70% match, or greater than 20% enemy, we probably won't get along very well. If you insist on messaging me despite this, please take the time to include something personal as to why you think either of us would benefit from communicating, else I'll just ignore you. Thanks!
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