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My self-summary
This is the part where we're supposed to exaggerate our good qualities, right? Okie-dokie: I'm 7 feet tall, a multiple Jeopardy and National Book Award winner, and in my spare time, I like to cure diseases, map undiscovered ocean trenches, and tame lions who've got thorns stuck in their paws.

Now that we've got that out of the way: I'm a writer, a feminist, a polyamorist, and an alien in human disguise. It's not a cheap disguise, though the zipper shows.

I like individuals more than crowds (though I'm not a Libertarian) and ideas more than ideologies. I am passionate about art, love, science, and social progress.

I'm increasingly in love with the world around me. I'm continually working on myself, physically and mentally, determined to make the most out of what Mary Oliver calls my "one wild and precious life." Mostly, this means learning, experiencing, and creating, but also eating lots of smoked salmon.
What I’m doing with my life
I hate talking about myself, but okay: I mainly want to succeed in my writing. Simple, really. I want my stories to entertain, enthrall, discombobulate, and become the mythology the next generation will take as the new Gospel. Ideally, this will create a new religion, one which will, centuries from now, serve as the basis for global peace and a visionary political-scientific-egalitarian movement and will one day result in my face being carved into the surfaces of far away planets. This isn't much to ask for, you know, and I've read The Secret, so there. I might also settle for good sales and a movie deal.

I'm also working on my megalomania, which I've heard might be a thing.

My work: I write surrealistic horror/mystery stories, somewhere between Ruth Rendell and Clive Barker. My fiction has been published a few times and I also write movie reviews every once in awhile. I'm working on my first novel, teaching, and learning how to better enjoy life. Learning to savor it more than I judge it, while still, of course, aiming higher.

Also: trying to see how I can help the resistance against The Great White Dope.
I’m really good at
I'm pretty good at seeing connections between the strangest things. My imagination runs toward the macabre, the bizarre, sometimes the apocalyptic, but my friends often tell me I lift their spirits. Aside from, "Your story gave me nightmares," being told you helped someone make it through a hard night is the best kind of compliment I can imagine.

I've read a few thousand books and I can give killer recommendations to readers of many kinds (I love getting them too). Ditto for film/tv (particularly of the horrific/artsy).

I've also been told I'm a wild & amusing partner in conversation, a good kisser, an attentive/inventive lover, a caring friend, and a decent human space heater.
The first things people usually notice about me
I come off a little intense at first, but people notice my sense of humor and friendly vibe pretty fast.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction: Ramsey Campbell, Vladimir Nabokov, Stephen King, Marcel Proust, Shirley Jackson, Martin Amis, William Blake, Thomas Ligotti, Salman Rushdie, China Mieville, Ruth Rendell, Jorge Borges, Toni Morrison, Philip Dick

Music: The Boards of Canada, Aphex Twin, Autechre, David Bowie, Nine Inch Nails, Laibach, Poe, Marilyn Manson, Claude Debussy, Erik Satie, Goblin, Bach, Cypress Hill, Johnny Cash, KMFDM, Rasputina, Brian Eno, Smashing Pumpkins, Bruce Springsteen, Muse.

Movies: It Follows, Paprika, Opera, Session 9, Tomie, In the Mouth of Madness, The Hour of the Wolf, Naked Lunch, Lost Highway, Dellamorte Dellamore, Serial Mom, The Discrete Charm of the Bourgeoise, The Thing, The Haunting (the original), Ichi the Killer, Last Year at Marienbad, Annie Hall, Se7en, Fight Club, Dawn of the Dead, Perfect Blue, Requiem for a Dream, Quills, They Come From Within

TV: Hannibal, House of Cards, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Game of Thrones, Gotham, Better Call Saul, Veep, Orange is the New Black, Elementary, New Girl, and The Walking Dead.
Six things I could never do without
At the top, I'd have to say I could never do without the belief that I can keep changing, keep evolving into something rich and strange. Books, as you may have noticed, are important to me, but I've found the better part of personal transformation comes through deep conversation and intimacy. I'd also have to throw in the right to free inquiry, for myself and others. Google Map, because I have a deeply entrenched fear of getting lost.

And, of course, human encounter. Can do without it, in that I use my time alone productively, but I love intimacy of all kinds: witty duels, idea-derby, learning better emotional attunement, listening, sex, alchemy, going to bookstores together.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My stories.
Philosophy, movies, mysticism.
Nightmares and dreamscapes.
Sexuality, relationships and gender issues.
How to love, both myself and others, better.
Parallel universes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recently: writing a novel about monsters and cubicle farms. I'm sometimes at coffee houses or bars with friends, where we talk for hours. I also love taking long walks down Colorado's magnificent seaside beaches.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1. Xylophones and harmonicas give me the heebie-jeebies. Also, tiny holes in surfaces. 😱
2. I was electrocuted in the mouth when I was three years old.
3. I can make people laugh, often in a milk-out-the-nosey sort of way. But jokes bore me. I prefer a more inventive and interactive play of wit with a partner. Know what I mean? Then we might click.
4. I have braces. So, if that's a no-go for you, I'll save you the surprise of finding that out the first time we meet :p
5. My scars are the source of my superpowers.
You should message me if
Write me if nerdy, imaginative, or dark does it for you (it does for me),
if you are interested in ethical open relationships,
if you have a passion in or for life and you are drawn to those who do,
if you ever suspected you too might be an alien being (all species considered, though no Tribbles please),
or if you have a good book recommendation for me.
The two of us