39 Boulder, United States
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My self-summary
This is the part where we're supposed to exaggerate our good qualities, right? Okie-dokie: I'm 7 feet tall, a multiple Jeopardy and National Book Award winner, and in my spare time, I like to cure diseases, map undiscovered ocean trenches, and tame lions who've got thorns stuck in their paws.

Now that we've got that out of the way: I'm a writer, a feminist, a polyamorist, and an alien in human disguise. I like individuals more than crowds, ideas more than ideologies. I am passionate about art, love, science, and social progress.

I'm increasingly in love with the world around me. I'm continually working on myself, physically and mentally, determined to make the most out of what Mary Oliver calls my "one wild and precious life."
What I’m doing with my life
I write surrealistic horror/mystery stories, somewhere between Ruth Rendell and Clive Barker. My fiction has been published a few times (once in Weird Tales magazine) and I also write film analyses for Ann and Jeff Vandermeer's Weird Fiction Review. I'm currently in CU Boulder's MFA program, working on my first novel.
I’m really good at
I love conversation, making people laugh, listening, alchemy, adventures of all kinds.

I've read a few thousand books and I can give killer recommendations to readers of many kinds (I love getting them too). My imagination is vivid and unique. I've been told I am a good kisser, an attentive and inventive lover, a caring friend, and a quite serviceable human space heater.
The first things people usually notice about me
I come off a little intense at first, but people notice my sense of humor and friendly vibe pretty fast.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction: Ramsey Campbell, Vladimir Nabokov, Stephen King, Marcel Proust, Shirley Jackson, Martin Amis, William Blake, Thomas Ligotti, Salman Rushdie, China Mieville, Ruth Rendell, Jorge Borges, Toni Morrison, Philip Dick

Music: The Boards of Canada, Aphex Twin, Autechre, David Bowie, Nine Inch Nails, Laibach, Poe, Marilyn Manson, Claude Debussy, Erik Satie, Goblin, Bach, Cypress Hill, Johnny Cash, KMFDM, Rasputina, Brian Eno, Smashing Pumpkins, Bruce Springsteen, Muse.

Movies: It Follows, Paprika, Opera, Session 9, Tomie, In the Mouth of Madness, The Hour of the Wolf, Naked Lunch, Lost Highway, Dellamorte Dellamore, Serial Mom, The Discrete Charm of the Bourgeoise, The Thing, The Haunting (the original), Ichi the Killer, Last Year at Marienbad, Annie Hall, Se7en, Fight Club, Dawn of the Dead, Perfect Blue, Requiem for a Dream, Quills, They Come From Within

TV: Hannibal, House of Cards, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Game of Thrones, Gotham, Better Call Saul, Veep, Orange is the New Black, Elementary, New Girl, and The Walking Dead.
The six things I could never do without
At the top, I'd have to say I could never do without the belief that I can keep changing, keep evolving into something rich and strange. Books, as you may have noticed, are important to me, but I've found the better part of personal transformation comes through deep conversation and intimacy. I'd also have to throw in the right to free inquiry, for myself and others. Finally: Google Map, because I have a deeply entrenched fear of getting lost.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My stories.
Philosophy, movies, mysticism.
Nightmares and dreamscapes.
Sexuality, relationships and gender issues.
How to love, both myself and others, better.
Parallel universes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Recently: writing a novel about monsters and cubicle farms. I'm sometimes at coffee houses or bars with friends, where we talk for hours. I also love taking long walks down Colorado's magnificent seaside beaches.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1. Xylophones and harmonicas give me the heebie-jeebies.
2. I was electrocuted in the mouth when I was three years old.
3. I can make people laugh, often in a milk-out-the-nose sort of way, though usually after they've grown to know me.
4. I'd rather have a deep, intimate connection with someone than a casual thing.
5. Complete strangers often turn to me for advice. As in, people sitting next to me on a bench have suddenly divulged intimate secrets about their lives and then asked my opinion. I'm not sure why this is, nor am I complaining, but it is a little weird.
You should message me if
Write me if nerdy, imaginative, or dark does it for you,
if you are interested in ethical open relationships,
if you are GGG, a member of AAA, or are into OOO theory,
or if you have a book recommendation for me.

Most importantly, write me if you are looking for a close, deep connection with someone. Even my friendships tend toward the transformative, the alchemical. And my love relationships more so.