Widowed, I have evolved for many years and I am still a work in progress. With each change, usually a result of lessons learned from mistakes, I try to keep myself continually moving forward in a positive way so I become a better Dad, son, brother, friend… partner.
Having said that, I don't take myself too seriously and over the years I've come to realize that a lot of my life's baggage was actually quite dumb to have hung on to. There is so much to be thankful for... I have been incredibly lucky.
No longer in the game I find mostly simple things occupying my time. Yard work, exercise, playing in my “oldies” band, a little traveling, family (Ok, maybe that last one is sometimes not so simple.), Savoring the moments.
I can listen to almost anything (except Rush but he's not music.) depending on my mood. I'm a 60's child so music from that era is always good.
Ahhh, food... Good food and fine wine who doesn't enjoy that?!
Oh yeah, sometimes I go deeper... like hoping I prepared my kids adequately for their own journey through life and of course, my mortality.
Oh, having a sense of humor doesn't hurt either.