At 15, I had a health scare which led me to face the thought of my own mortality. It's definitely changed my outlook on life. I take more chances now, and I appreciate things more.
I'm at that stage in life where I want to settle in-not necessarily settle down. Ultimately, I'd love a partner in most senses of the word-partner in crime, a companion, someone to share the awesome things (and there are so many!) and the burdens with. I'm not worried about 50/50, or being equals....I do enjoy power exchange. Ask me, if you're curious.
I dont need you to complete me-I have a full life already, but I'd gladly make room for someone who compliments me (and I'm not talking about flattery!) I believe balance is important-I'd love to find someone who is all about snuggling on the couch all morning but wants to venture out for a picnic in the afternoon. I want someone who is comfortable hanging out with my framily, but doesnt feel guilty going out for a guys only night now and again. Deeply connected, but not codependent.
Such connection takes time to build, and I'd love to find it and cultivate it, but I'm not in a hurry. Life is a journey, and I'm loving it.
I'm not concerned about your age-I'm more concerned about finding someone who is in a similar life stage as I am. I've not done the marriage/kids thing, but I'm not dead set convinced that's the one path to happinesss. I'm open to it if it happens, down the line, but also open to alternatives.
I'm not looking to be a part of a polyamorous situation at this stage in my life-I may be open to exploring that with a committed partner if it turns out to be necessary-sometimes one person cant fulfill every single need, and I understand that. I will NOT be a secret, ever. I dont have to be your whole world, but I want to be an integrated part of it.
I have been told i give great hugs-i think it's an energy thing. I am big into energy, and i am learning more about it and how to control and project it on a daily basis-it's all about the connection for me, most of the time. Im a huge hedonist when the situation warrants, and get pleasure from giving pleasure.
After years of trying out religions, throwing around labels, and exploring my depths, I've finally settled on a label that seems to fit me fairly accurately-omnist, one who finds truths in all religions and claims none exclusively. I'm more spiritual in nature than religious, and dont care which religion you are or arent. I'll respect your beliefs, I may even find ways to participate and hold space with you....but if you're wanting someone who goes to church every Sunday (or more) and is devout....that isnt me. I'm more likely to find spiritual peace on a lake than in a church.
I dont give my cell # out to people I dont know well, and I'm not glued to OKC, but you can find me on KIK as Ancorrigible.
Learning a new department at work.
Taming the ever-elusive wild beast known as the One-eyed horned flying purple people eater...and working on my calves, thighs, and glutes at the same time, no less. Oh, look at you. You think I'm kidding, doncha?
I'm working on balance right now, in all aspects of my life-work/family, family/me time, exercise/endless roo cups of icees...You know how it goes.
I am a great listener. I am empathic and empathetic. I am great with children, old folks, and pets, and parents usually love me. I find it easy to relate to people. Im also a naturally talented (though clinically untaught) maseusse and good in the kitchen. I've become awesome at both adapting recipes for differing dietary needs and using whatever I happen to find randomly in the fridge/pantry to make some awesome on-the-fly recipe. Im a gifted writer, as well. I love to bootblack, and I am still a total novice with lots to learn but I've been given a lot of compliments...Plus some other things I just wont mention here. *winks*
Seeing the best in people.
Yes, I know my username 'is spelled wrong-" except it's not. It's a play on a tattoo I have "Ancora imparo' and the word incorrigible. Both suit me well.
My smile, or lack thereof. I have a resting bitch face, and when that's not in use, I wear my heart on my sleeve unintentionally and it tends to draw people in either way. I have also been told I have a very musical laugh and a pleasant, sexy voice.
My sense of humor. I am usually looking for the funny side in everything-life isnt easy and stress is everywhere. Humor is a great diffuser. I have a wicked, caustic sense of humor and tend to push the envelop sometimes...If Im around the right company, I will say things that probably shouldnt be said but are true and damned hilarious just the same. If it didnt come out of my mouth, you can bet Im still thinking it.
My tattoos. (Just the two...)
A Prayer for Owen Meany
the Anita Blake novels
Harry Potter series
The Dresden Files
At First Sight
Something's Gotta Give
Good Will Hunting
Meet Joe Black
Music (I once lost my Ipod at work and they couldnt tell whose it via the music choices. "There was Disney, there was Pink Floyd, there was John Mayer, there was Ozzie Osbourne, there was Rodgers and Hammerstein. After awhile I just gave up!")
Goo Goo Dolls
Death Cab for Cutie
Nine Inch Nails
Hootie and the Blowfish
Dave Matthews Band
We could be here all day....
dairy free ice cream
I also follow a gluten free, casein and most nightshade free diet. I promise you, I can cook....and there are still 'normal people' food that I can eat.
How to word my profile so that people just trying to get into my pants don't bother to message me and beg for sex, or try to convince me to beg for sex....
I also think that some of the categories that OkCupid makes us put ourselves in are inaccurate and restrictive-particularly 'bisexual' on my profile. Everyone and their brother has been asking so i'll clarify. I technically identify as heteroflexible and demisexual
I just read someone's profile-it made me laugh, he sounded like a pretty cool guy-and OKC wanted me to know that if this guy seemed cool, but I wasnt sure about his hygiene, that they could recommend someone "cleaner." I just...I dont know, man....Sure, its good to know, but how clean are we talking? Was guy A Pigpen from Peanuts? Was guy B Mr. Udall from As Good as it Gets? I now have the creeps...
I don't want to be with someone who thinks they have the answers. I want to be with someone who is wise enough and brave enough to ask the questions.
I dont want to be with someone who accepts me for what I am-I want to be with someone who accepts me for where I am and sees what I can become.
I dont want to change you-I want my presence, my influence to be one of the catalysts that inspires you to change....and that works both ways.
I'm always lookng for something to do, some new activity to try, or to meet new people to hang out with, Fridays or not. If this sounds appealing to you, drop me a line, please.
I am a pretty open book, generally. I talk about nearly everything, and if you ever have a question please feel free to ask regardless.
I have an elipses addiction.
My mind is constantly running....if you can get me to STOP thinking every now and again? You're a pretty special person.
The most *taboo* thing I'll mention here is that I am into BDSM as a lifestyle choice (not just a bedroom thing,) and I'm interested in meeting a person who is, too.
I don't care if you disagree with _________. I live in America. I support your right to agree or disagree with me, Mickey Mouse, or Errol Flynn. You have the right to disagree, you do NOT have the right to judge. Leave that to the law and, if you choose to believe in such, to your god. Be human, see beauty in diversity, and learn to let go and LOVE.
In the last two years, I've lost 75 lbs; 95 lbs total. I've not had skin removal surgery, which means I look awesome with my clothes on, and somewhat reminiscent of an elephant with them off. You've been warned.
You should NOT message me if me being vision impaired (nondriver) bothers you, if you're not family oriented, if chicks with tattoos bother you, if you're uptight about religion, or if you're in another country and want a long distance relationship. It's not going to happen. Do not message me if you want NSA sex.