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My self-summary
Not a summary, but a collection of things:

I am an emotional creature, and easily pissed-off. I like to think that I can see through to most peoples' sweet and honest sides pretty quickly, and I like to think that that a lot of that can be credited to being an introvert. I have an investment in radical politics, and this is very important to me. I tell inappropriate, self-deprecating jokes. I apparently like short, declarative sentences that make me seem pithy and deep. I have a healthy appreciation for swear words, street theatre, tattoos, pop culture, and under-handed vulgar jokes that take people awhile to clue into. I'm passionately idealistic. I love to teach, and am always, without fail, concocting some workshop or another in my head. I’m an INFJ, according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, and I take that very seriously. Language was my first love, and we have a continuing romance to this day.

I am Expressive, Witty, and Inquisitive
What I’m doing with my life
Happily tending to my home and the lovely human and non-human creatures living in it. Reading. Cross-stitching. Reading neat things on the internet.

Trying to hold a anti-capitalist collective care framework safe and cherished in my heart while working in institutional mental health promotion, teaching teachers how to be good to their students.
I’m really good at
Solving problems, helping people figure out their own solutions to problems.

Carrying a tune, and soapboxing about the social importance of singing.

Advocating for myself and other people, being steadfast.

Communicating and expressing ideas, and getting to the hard-to-articulate ones through creative hand gestures and extended metaphors.

Understanding my own and other peoples' feelings.
The first things people usually notice about me
Friends always tell me after they get to know me that they thought I hated them when they first met me. I guess I'm kind of hard to read? It takes me awhile to open up sometimes, and I get kind of nervous/unsure with new people. There are some people who I just click with, though, and that's what I really look for -- people who are able to see beyond my nervous chatter and mysterious face, and cut straight to the good stuff (and I promise I will try to do the same).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I find this difficult because these things are always changing for me. Suffice it to say:
- I watch a LOT of TV. Seriously. A lot. And I like to talk about it if you do too!
- I like music with words in it. As a singer, I love listening to music with killer vocalists that I can aspire to be like, and I really appreciate well-written lyrics.
- I'm a sucker for memoirs and essay anthologies. I like reading theory that helps me understand life better (not just theory for its own sake).
Six things I could never do without
- Queerz.
- Books, blogs, and good conversation (I'm lumping that into one).
- Some opportunity for creative expression.
- The Internet.
- Space for rampant idealism/the possibility that maybe radical social transformation is still possible
- Coffee. Sooooo much coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My future, next steps and big plans.
Politics and social justice.
Conversation. How being an introvert with social anxiety can be the bane of my existence, sometimes.
How to cut down on the blogs in my blog reader.
When the hell Jack and Sawyer are going to FINALLY hook up on Lost.
Consent (sexual and emotional) and accountability.
Self-determination and body sovereignty.
On a typical Friday night I am
Preferably spending time with friends over beers and/or good conversation. Maybe seeing a play?

Likely at home, writing a paper and/or shamelessly marathoning episodes of The Vampire Diaries or The Bachelor.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a bit of an OkCupid bottom. I'm on here a lot perusing profiles, but I usually can't muster up the guts to actually send people messages. So please, message me!

I have a chronic pain condition that makes my life interesting. I feel like it forces me to be creative about the way I do many things, but I'd be lying if it wasn't hard sometimes too.
You should message me if
You've got an eye for the shy ones. You take a second, third, and fourth look at things (and people). You're not interested in being 'cool'. You're a good communicator. You think of people with many 'onion layers' as delicious challenges rather than writing them off immediately. You understand exactly what I mean when I say 'people with many onion layers'. Your politics are important to you (less crucial for casual connections, but definitely preferred), bonus points if you would categorize them as 'radical'.

I'm not gay, I'm queer; I'm interesting in dating/seeing/fucking/fooling around with folks of all genders. It's just that every time I list my sexual orientation on here as bisexual, I have the worst time. Seriously, the worst. So, I hope you'll forgive me employing a bit of strategic labelling in order to have a better experience. If you're a guy and you've managed to make it to the bottom of this profile, welcome!

You should message me if you're interested in smart conversation, consuming caffeinated and/or alcoholic beverages, and seeing where things go!

p.s. I'm not really interested in meeting new friends on here right now (although of course, if I meet somebody and we click as friends and not otherwise, that's cool!), only really for dating purposes. So unless we've stated otherwise, I'm going to assume that if we meet up we're on a date! One of my favourite things about online dating is that it helps resolve some of these ambiguities. ;)
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